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...of course, some do so because of their orientation. But I wonder how many of us here on CS who are straight do so with any regularity. Now and again, I'll get a man in the roster of females, and more rarely, I'll get a note from a man. But I probably have not seen more than a dozen profiles of men. I wonder if it might be worthwhile as a learning experience, to look at more male profiles, although I wonder what could be learned thus. One thing I would like to know is if there is a large difference between the sexes in the focus on honesty, and having a job or other independent means of self support. I see it all the time in ladies profiles. How much they hate lairs, and how they don't want to support a man financially. And less often, the women with kids at home make a point of saying that potential matches must accept the kids. And that only marriage is an option in a relationship. Important points in searching for a committed partner. But there probably are differences between the sexes.

I will be comprising a list for the single man...who might be thinking about getting involved with a woman.

I call this the survival guide and will be needed...cause without knowledge...men will be rushing in...getting involved and not looking for the red flags first

Not all women would be red flag material...but you don't know which ones...so you need to be smart and look for the red flags.

1. Beware of miss bunny boiler

2. Beware of miss bossy boots
3. Beware of miss always right
4. Beware of miss gold digger
5. Beware of miss promiscuous
6. beware of miss metoo
7. Beware of miss feminist SJW
8. Beware of miss bad manners
9. Beware of miss daddy issues
10. Beware of miss entitled
11. Beware of miss mary sue

...And saw a tad bit more flirting than here on blogs. Not exactly a love fest of love fests.

Hi friends. My topic will be from the category of banned. Or rather, a topic that is not accepted to talk about. Only this is a topic that excites both women and men. It is a theme of appearance, imposed by stereotypes, the world of fashion and Hollywood. On the one hand, nature has made us who we are. We have everything unique and unique: the shape of the thighs, breasts, nose, leg length, height, eye color, hair color, length of fingers, and even capillaries on the fingers. We are all different. And it is impossible to find the same people on earth. Even twins have some differences. We are all unique and beautiful each in our own way. On the other hand, society imposes certain standards on us. And we begin to correct, adjust, enlarge, reduce something. We run to the gym, to plastic surgeons, nutritionists, to improve and change something in ourselves. We cease to be genuine, but we try to look like someone else. Would you like to be someone's copy? Isn't it better to keep your personality? Aren't you beautiful? I would like to hear an opinion from both sides. Say it honestly. What do you think is perfect about your partner's appearance? What should your partner look like for you? What attracts you to you and what do you look for in the first place at the first meeting? And what looks you don't like. Describe your partner's perfect appearance? Thank you.

..., dear searchers. Even given the fact that women seem able to emote more than men, and I find they are more likely to lend importance to, and belief in, the concept underlying these few powerful words. Another blog topic. But many men, usually after a few beers, and often with regret, can, and do, do so. So what is behind it all? The range of talk/claims/beliefs/delusions is enormous. We have those who insist on the "at first sight" idea. Well, if I'm to believe my parent's generation, and those who perhaps spend a little too much time reading romance novellas, they, of course have a point. Not a few sixty and seventy year long marriages, here. But then, some would say, it's really "falling into LUST" instead, often.enough. More innocent times? Sure enough have been there. Some hurtful failures/betrayals, periods of loneliness, the all powerful family and cultural expectations---.perhaps in the context of a little drink, travel, other new experience (jobs?), and there you sometimes have it. For our parents, it was Dad's uniform, and Mom's abilities on the roller skate floor. And it's not merely used for other people. Who hasn't had similar feelings for a young pet, or even some objects/pastimes? In my experience, some such phenomena have, from time to time, existed for me, most often in situations just described. But I think it's important to be ready, and not a little surprised, by these usually overwhelming feelings. Hence the term "falling". Focus on the appearance, voice, walk, humour, lifestyle, intelligence, perhaps even successes, of others can come into play. And empathy/sympathy for unfortunates does often lead DOWN the path. The so called "feeling sorry for, or even pity--- fall". Makes one wonder just how healthful is the experience, for some. A few "marry" into a religious tradition, or cult, and homosexual love opens up many other topics. Yet, who can deny how strong is/are the feeling(s)? So much so, that thoughts come to biological aspects of falling for another. Fruitful unions certainly have evolutionary import. And what of all those conscious, and unconscious odors/pheromones? One of my guitar heroes, the often brilliant Frank Z., even wrote a song about love for his "little rubber blow up doll". Three holes and no lip. What?

You know, this one was wondering about something...
I will say, I've had many step parents. I've seen, and actually been on both sides. I've had girlfriends both older and younger than me. I've noticed, in every instance, it works better with the girl being slightly older than the guy. Anyone else have thoughts or experience to this?

Hi . As you probably do yourselves you get people contact on you on here , some straight away seem to good to be true while others in time usually off emails realize there out conning you . I've had that experience: I just wanted to ask as I in contact with someone living in china and she wanted to be together, come here three months and showed me a price for the fares off travel company. And has about half of the money. What do yous think ?? :

proper etiuette in meeting for friendship or more is to use the old reliable telephone time wasters and that is almost everybody think kik , emails, texting is the way to do it. but remembers they are all scammers none meets anymore

A common question I think that comes up between two people as they are beginning to form a relationship is...what do you want or need from a relationship.

I would be wary of those who want and need too much...or perhaps anything at all.

Wouldn't it be great if people wanted and needed nothing....but instead, were grateful instead.


What a great way to reciprocate love.

There's a member running around with a faceless photo with only a message. Although its against CS rules for posting a primary image that isn't a face, a high percentage of members here do this. My opinion is you're not seriously looking as guys usually connect with women who have real photos on their profiles.

Back to the blog... The message reads:
People who have been single for too long are the hardest to love, because they have become so used to being single, independent, and self-sufficient that it takes something extraordinary to convince them that they need you in their life.
I typed the first line into a search engine and it brought up dozens of examples along with links to psychology sites as everyone has an opinion and diagnosis to the situation of people who are unwilling to change their single status.

A common thread on dating sites. Take a look at some of the topics in the forums section to see what I'm talking about.

I followed a link to one site that was filled with toxic relationship memes and poems. Scary thought someone took the time to collect all those sayings... just sayin'