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Sure, money, inlaws, illness, substances, military service, flings, politics, and much more. In our case it was differences in parenting. I was wrong. VERY wrong.
Today, a nice younger couple from New Hampsire bought my latest boat, in a fair deal to both parties. I spent the day with them teaching how to be good owners, so it will be fun and last a long time.
I think boat ownership should be added to the sad list of things coming between couples.These two were a nice match, and loved each other by all appearances. And they were good learners (of course they had a tree top teacher), and already had many technical sailing skills. And it was gratifying to see how they cooperated with each other, and with me. No kids yet, and both were educated and with good jobs.
A perfect picture. Until things started to go wrong, which of course on any watercraft, is bound to happen. Regularly. And at the worst possible times and circumstances.
She seemed better at technical things than he did, yet he seemed to try to do more than his share of tasks. He made his share of understandable errors, all of us as novices make. She and I were calm and understanding, as we all made our share of the usual goofas well.
But then I saw it, and heard it. As his frustration grew, he also began to speak a little more harshly with her. Once saying, in a slightly angry voice, "I can't believe you did that the way you.did." She kept her calm supportive demeanor.
Overall, it was actually congenial. But couples who have been there will know the worrying signs.
Here I am signalling virtue, when in fact, in younger years, I wish I was more patient.
Experientia docet.

If you are a complete idiot, should you declare it in your profile? If so, then why haven't you?

I mentioned in one of my threads...about political beliefs not being on dating profiles and how important it is to know....which side of the fence...people stand on....well I noticed POF now has political beliefs as part of the dating profile...but will people be honest or pretend to be something...they are not...

I mean will a far left wing marxist...admit to being the worst of the worst on the political ladder? I think it's unlikely and I admit...I would run a mile...regardless of how good looking a woman looked{not that many marxists are worth a single look)...if I knew she hated men...the white race...productivity...traditional family values...a babies right to be born...free speech...free will...the right to own property etc...nothing would be a bigger turn off

I do think it is important to know someone's political beliefs...cause lets face it....Who wants to date someone...who is totally incompatible and totally in opposite to their own beliefs...Maybe some might think it does not matter...but I tell you now...it will matter and your life could be made a complete misery...just for being you

Some people date other races...get married to other races and have children with other races...but I wonder if it is a good thing...or a bad thing....to mix races in dating and have mixed raced children....

I consider the differences in culture...ancestral history...religious beliefs...between me and a woman of another race....also if a woman could not speak very good english...it would be a nightmare communicating my thoughts to her....

Women of my race play enough mind games and use shit tests...but at least they will understand my words...when I am bold enough...to call them out on it and tell them how it is

Some quote i see today
"if you are not happy, then itsnot a happy ending"
its very similar with my own experience today.
I was thought that this man will be the last one.
He looks very religious.
Very mature.
Very kind.
Very sweet with his words.
But ... he want me to be somebody i even dont know.
and it wasnt me.
He wanted me to be more skinny,
more white,
more slim,
more religious,
more...
and
.. he want me to be just like my sisters.
I've tried but i finally found that i cant be anyone.
I love my body even it has fat everywhere.
I love my skin even it looks like burnt in the sun.
I love my job even it cost a small wage.
Then..
I saw that quote today on my facebook.
I realize that, i dont have tobe anyone to be happy.
I want a happy ending not a sad ending.
Its so simple.
Not a complicated thing to do.
Just a happy life.
so...
I send him a break up message.
I cannot do this anymore.
I cannot follow his rules.
I think it's better to be alone right now.
I still hope...i will found my happy ending tommorow.
I dont know when but i am sure it will come.
Stay good. Stay wise.
Stay safe.


19/07/2020

Relationship taught me that,
you should always find a reason to stay. You will get tired in the process and question your love but the most important thing is to understand each other & compromise. If you get tired, rest but don’t just leave and be patient. ????
Through Night and Day...

More about love and it's short comings..

The Task is simple. A series of questions.
The bride & groom sit back to back and answer questions simultaneously
by holding either the male type object up, or the female object.
Do they agree, or not ?

Lets see;

I don't like it cold... Even though when I feel hurt I may act a little distant... But I always like it hot, warm... Cozy, soft, hard, sticky, full of emotion, intense, passionate, obscene, sacred, s*xual, innocent... I love it... In all its ways, shapes and forms...




Hot and Cold
"For this love flowing against the current.
For this love that nobody understands.
At times it knows no bounds
and runs amok in a terrible way.
It drags me around like a river,
going between hot and cold,
but it's yours and its mine,
clear as a moonlit night
with the moon full...
it's worth the difficulties.

And at times it takes me so far
that I find myself where I have never been.
Sometimes I lose myself
and then return in an instant, going between
hot and cold.
This love is yours and mine.

For this love that has no pretensions,
for this love
that scratches and spreads out,
for this love born out of time itself.
For this love
that sometimes I myself don't even understand.
And it plays, just like a child
with the face of a rascal,
a game of cat and mouse.
And at times it shows itself to me naked,
so delicate and pure,
that I can't imagine it being wrong in any way.

And at times it takes me so far
that I find myself where I have never been.
Sometimes I lose myself
and then return in an instant, going between
hot and cold.
This love is yours and mine.

And at times I confuse the heavens
with the earth;
at times I don't know if it's going away or coming back,
between hot and cold...
This love is yours and mine."

P.S. What about other things...
My soup, extremely hot...
My drinking water, extremely cold...
My room, cold...
My bed, warm...
My... Nah, I better stop... Jajajajajajajajajajajajja...
What about yours... Do you like it hot... Do you like it cold... Somewhere in between...

I logged on this morning to see that 4 of 5 profiles (with photos) created today are bogus.
Guys, that's not good if your intentions are to meet someone for dating.

We've got Jessica Clements and Valentina Nappi hanging out here!