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PRAYERS TO A FRIEND.

Today I woke up and the first thing I saw and heard was such a beautiful message that I am floating around in a haze and smiling at everything.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if this was the normal.
At least there's the possibility of something random and magical out there, but even if it's just a dream I am so happy that I felt it today.

I want the fairytale but I know with that has to come some reality, and if you can find someone amazing that blends both and makes sense of you, then you need to take their hand and try.

If it's meant to be in your story then the universe will find a way, if not then at least they hold a chapter in your life.

1. He doesn't put an effort
Relationships require effort from both partners. If you're the one who is driving the relationship alone and your partner doesn't put any efforts, he is not the one for you. If there is a constant lack of communication, and you feel like your thoughts and feelings are not being acknowledged or valued, it can be a red flag. Putting in efforts is a two-sided road and if he is meeting you half way, think!
2. He ignores you
If you feel emotionally isolated or ignored and your partner doesn't truly understand or empathize with you, it can lead to a sense of disconnection. If you constantly feel neglected, he is not for you.
3. He doesn't trust you
Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. If he doesn't trust you and is always doubting you, he is not for you. If he doesn't trust your decisions and your instincts and you feel sidelined, you should
4. He doesn't respect you
If he doesn't respect you and you face any form of abuse, whether emotional or physical, is a clear indication that the relationship is unhealthy and he is not right for you. Lack of respect is the biggest red flag and you should step out!
5. He makes you feel bad about yourself
If your partner consistently makes you feel bad about yourself, criticises you, or undermines your self-worth, it's a sign that he may not be the right person for you. A healthy relationship should uplift and support you, not bring you down or make you doubt your value and worth.
6. He belittles you in front of others
If he puts you down in front of his friends or family with his little jokes and disrespect, it could be a significant indicator that he may not be the right person for you. This shows he is not showing respect and appreciation towards you. This way he ends up giving others also the opportunity to disrespect you!
Link: timeofindia.com

I hate the idea of constitutional same rights for women.
I think, there must be 1 boss and that is usually the man as the physically stronger part.
All the rest will not function. And this implicates the man's right to punish every part of the family who doesn't walk the line.
If I read in 85% of all female profiles here that women expect to be treated as a pricess or queen and that a good sense of humor is expected, then I only feel to be in the wrong film.
When seeking in what countries wordwide the beating of women was still allowed, I only found Afghanistan and Russia and maybe some neighbouring countries, or I found that women were disciplimed by starvation or by violence not coming from the man but from his family members, the mother of the man, f.ex.
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I know that it is much better if a wife learns early in her life what her man wants and doesn't wait to be beaten to execute his will.
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I am aware of the fact that most worldwide Constitutions see this topic differently - maybe my profile will be deleted now, after 12 fruitless years here.
I only think that all these Constitutions are wrong. I try to write down why I think so, later.
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My basic idea is that there can be only 1 captain on board. I know, pilots in rivers and harbours are captains too and then there are realkly 2 in charge, but the decisions then makes the pilot.
I think it is essential that lifetime marriage decisions are made as early as possible, as in old China, in early childhood. All what we do here on that site, seeking a lifetime partner with 48, and reading "Children maybe one day" is just a bad joke.
Quite like studying until the age of 30 just to find a better man, or gaining more prestige.
I see well that keeping women in the house and kitchen makes a society poorer of scientists, doctors and other high class professions.
It is a pity that the data collected here are not publicly available, as raw data, to be pulled out with a language like DBASE in the 80th. I would love to learn how many of the females here are that qualified, deserving these "same rights". All I see are estimated 80% of female Hair stylists, and other more or less low qualified activities.
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I know, it's just a minority point of view. Me, probably beeing alone the whole minority wordwide.
What Russia fights for today is the idea of a totalitarian society, where one boss rules, - the contrary of same rights for all. WWII seems to have shown that democracies definitely are the winners, We are the good ones !
Maybe we are all wrong, all-together. All these elderly singles here might prove that, but the raw data are not accessable - a pity !

Last night, I had a few webpages opened on my browser that I wanted to research in the morning. I put the computer to sleep instead of shutting down like usual. The wake sequence didn't work and I was forced to completely reboot and wait for Windows to do some recovery diagnostics.
The good thing is, I was able to recover the browser pages. After, I cleared the cache file and cookies and restart the browser. Coming to Connecting Singles and checking the new member list (before logging in) showed all new members and not only women as my normal default.

Each page shows 48 new members and there weren't many women joining.
45 men, 3 women on the first page.
44 men, 4 women on the second page.
44 men, 4 women on the third page.

It was night time in North America and I expected to see Europeans joining... that wasn't the case. Guys from Algeria, Egypt, Tunisia, Morocco, United Arab Emirates, Iraq, Kuwait were the majority of new members.

I only checked the first 3 pages, but if this statistic for the most recent 500 to 600 members is the trend, something isn't right.

1 woman for every 12 men are joining.

It wasn't long ago I blogged 'they don't return' in that, scanning the list of new women joining CS drops off sharply after the 2nd page. They come, they look around, they disappear.

Can you formulate what is happening long-term... ?

My thought is:
Unless CS can advertise in places that will bring men and a lot more women from Europe, North America, South America, Australia and Asia, their chances of survival aren't real good.

I am nice girl. I know someone will want me. I am tired of people putting me down saying no one will want me. I treat people right. I am also a country music singer. I will not let people dictate my life.

I've discovered something new lately..Did you knew already that there is paid members on this site??? Wow! Finally, getting some answers here..

I am so confused..As i am watching a lot of women's say the same thing and at the same time they are doing the same mistake.
If you want to find your self a good man, honest, decent and family oriented, don't take selfies of your self half naked..Its not your boobs or your a** that will define your relationship. Its your character. Your self and who you really are. So, if you want to find for your self a good man, open your eyes not your legs in front of the camera...

I once dated a woman who had to be entertained every waking moment. I was working from home at the time and she had a job with lots of local travels. Often, she would stop by unannounced and get annoyed if I couldn't give her my undivided attention when she came over.
Dates were much the same. When we went to the movies, I couldn't become engrossed in the movie... I had to maintain concentration on her. The movie (or anything else) had to become secondary.
It appeared she would get bored being alone. Impatient, at best if something didn't occupy her free time.

I'd say she was bored certified...

I laid each night and counted your breaths, afraid to sleep, least they ceased.
The days of joy, the long dark nights.
Hopes for more, a week, month or years. Dare I wish, a decade or more?
And then one morn, I sat by you in I.C.U., next to your bed, and watched those breathes slowly go. So soft, so fast, shallower and shallower til your lips trembled and you were gone.
And my heart broke.
My life, my love, my shining knight, 31 years, and now, no more.
20 years your sickness took..and gave. So close, so intimate, so loyal.
We'd never shared a life that close, except when you, me and MS, those 3, made you and me just one.
The day that came, we always knew would be one day.
Yet for all my fears and all my tears, each crisis passed and you stayed mine.
Yet, how unexpected came that final day, that day MS took your breath away.
Now I wake, alone in bed and will that darkness to give me those sweet breaths, that filled my life.
To give sweet kisses upon your face, your bright blues eyes , that loving smile.
How empty now this house, without those breaths to count.