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Ive worked on my profile numerous times to make changes to improve my chances of finding my new love but i end up with nothing
Is it because I am on disability?
Is it because I don’t want anymore children?
Is it because i smoke?
What?
Please tell me what I need to do to get noticed
I’ve been on this site for awhile with absolutely no response.

We've heard it in song (Tina Turner), and we've had cause to ask the same question (of ourselves, and of others) even if only in our thoughts. We've also heard that "love is not enough", and may have experienced it, too. So why can't many women admit that love doesn't have to be the reason for pursuing/being in a relationship.

I've been on here since February and have chatted with quite a few men, most of who seemed to think that I was interested in 'marriage', either because of the mere fact that I'm on here or because of the word "companion" that heads my profile. But, does dating always have to be about finding 'love' and getting 'married'? That would be IDEAL, but I don't ascribe to it being the ideal for everyone. It certainly isn't the ideal for me (although it definitely was when I was much much younger).

Life experiences and age has brought reason/wisdom, mostly about who you are personally (i.e. the psychological, moral, spiritual and physical being), and what you want, regardless of what family and society may expect of you. And even if you're a romantic (like me), you may still understand the difference between what's 'ideal' and what's 'real' about your hopes/plans for your future. So, sometimes, neither love nor marriage, may be what you want from a relationship at the moment.

And I'm not hinting at 'sex' and 'money' as alternatives, even though they often are. I'm really thinking about mutual admiration and respect, companionship, shared interests, etc (which may/may not include great sex and shared finances) and may/may not even lead to love as a pleasant 'side effect'.

I've often thought that many men understood that reality very early in life, whereas many women (myself included), were mainly encouraged to focus on the ideal. And, perhaps that's why we have struggled to understand or have relationships that aren't focused upon achieving 'love and marriage'.

The thing is, I now have a greater appreciation for that kind of relationship, and feel a bit put off when others don't. Am I wrong for expecting them to, or are they being archaic in their expectations of me?

Dating has become more complicate by new terms older people may not know.
These are two terms I recently heard.

Grey rocking: is a technique used to divert a toxic person's behavior by acting as unresponsive as possible when you're interacting with them. For example, using the grey rock method involves deliberate actions like avoiding eye contact or not showing emotions during a conversation.

Breadcrumbing: is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Which ones are you guilty of?

Which other terms are being use in the dating world?

I have been on CS for close to 10 years and have always wondered, how many persons will find their life partner on this site.Men and women have profiles put up on this site. Of course, there can be fake too, but fake profiles will not travel much distance as far as response is concerned.
Out of men and women, it is the women's profile that is failing to find a life partner. Men are very interested in women, but the women just does not believe the men.
Its a fact, for a woman to find a man is very easy, because a woman is very choosy in selecting her man. She wants in a man all the qualities of a King. This is not possible, because no one is perfect in the world and has some limits to his/her personality. Besides this, a woman sets a tough task for a man, like telling him whether he can come to a foreign country where she lives.
But foreign girls are better than Indian girls in their mental make up and they enjoy life to the full. They are also well organized in their thoughts, manners and etiquette.Of course, divorces are dime a dozen in the foreign countries, but both the demands of the partners are too much to handle.

I have seen profiles of many Indian women on this site for many years and they have not yet found their life partners. Why is it so? Because Indian women by tradition are weak and not strong for discussion with their husbands.Besides, if children are there, there is more problem.
I would suggest an Indian woman would tighten her seat belt and quickly decide,what type of a man she wants in life. They can narrow their limits of wants and then decide.
Manohar Bhatia.

But, this has to do with a narcissist in a relationship. I found some of the examples I seen in a video recently...interesting.

What does a narcissist do while they are in a relationship?

They never apologize...or if they do, it is not a sincere one.
They will seemingly always try to belittle you. Sometimes they will say they were just joking around.
They will weaponize sex.
They will cheat on you...because they feel entitled to cheat, and when confronted, they will turn it around on you and say something like...you are seeing it wrong, or you are making more out of it then what it is.

The narcissist needs to feel superior to you and will do what it takes to maintain that status. They enjoy seeing you miserable because it gives them a sense of power over you. They will start out in a relationship as the dream mate...but months later, that is when their power trip kicks in.

I wonder how many people on here are narcissist? You know the ones...the ones that always know everything, they are never wrong, they never apologize, they always have to be one up on somebody...etc, etc..

They say when you are in a relationship with one....pay attention to your emotions. Your emotions on how your partner makes you feel are the indicator.

We all have narcissistic traits...but the question is...how dominant are they in our personality and behaviors.




Happy Friday all.

My interest in Astrology has always been superficial - birthstones and birth signs for choosing colours and jewellery - but not much regarding things like dating, love matches or marriage. Whilst thinking about this dating game thingy, I decided to do a bit of research (Google, of course), and discovered a very wide/deep deposit of info on the topic.



Whilst I'm sure that what I found is only the 'tip of the iceberg', I was a bit overwhelmed by the content and variety that's available. There is a large number of Compatibility Charts, and tests too. I tried a few of them (tests) but didn't think the results were specific enough. Which leads me to wonder about those who are deeply/very heavily involved in Astrology as it pertains to their approach to Life generally, and to Dating (and love, and marriage) specifically.

Is Astrology the thing that guides you in your Dating life? If so, how would you rate its success? Perhaps I should give it a try?

It used to be that women were thought to have endless selections for mates...and all they had was the tough decision on discerning who was the best one to pick. The world has changed.

Now with monogamy becoming a thing of the past...they have the less tough decision of picking the best ONES to pick.

However, that is not what this blog is about. It is about men now being in the same position as women. With men now having endless selections and also choosing the best ONES.

Now, I am not saying that is how I am...or how all women and men are....that they want to be with multiple partners. However what I am saying is, both of their available selections have dramatically increased with social media and the internet.

So...what are some of your deal breakers when looking at photos of men or of women on the internet when determining if you want to move forward and pursue a person as a potential mate or life long partner?

For me: when I see a woman post several pictures of herself in fancy restaurants and in expensive formal dining clothes...my mind automatically concludes that she is high maintenance.

or...

When I see a woman posting a picture of herself shooting a gun....that is an automatic red flag for me. I don't care that she owns and knows how to use a gun...but why post a picture of it thinking it is important for her potential mate to know that?



Those are two main ones for me that I can think of right now. What about you?

I once met someone very special, the person is suspicious if I don't say what I do all day but he is warm, loving, caring, protective but I like it because I feel protected, but everything is only for a moment because he wants me to find someone better than him for some reason, and it turns out that after so many years I heard the news that he had died, how broken my heart was at that time because actually I have not found someone who has a character like him and I still miss him but it turns out that fate says differently, me and him have to separated in this world, then later I met someone who was very similar to him but I was said to be crazy because I loved my ex too much so seeing him like my ex Lol, I was thinking really hard is it true I'm crazy even though I'm normal

I have to laugh about the claims of some dating sites having real members or verified profiles.
Sniffing out a new member here, I found the same photo on a handful of bogus LinkedIn sites, TikTok, Twitter, YouTube, Instagram, an Italian dating site and a few not worth mentioning.




DTN... Don't Trust No-one

Does size matter? In some cases not. There are women out there looking for that loving emotional connection, but as time goes on, I feel as if that loving emotional connection is less and less being sought after by women, and their physical wants and needs are becoming more important to them.

.....and rightfully so....



Now to the delicate question of this blog. Should a "man" feel inadequate? I think at one time, a man was taught he had to be a "man" to please his partner. Don't get me wrong, I think that still holds value today. However, maybe in a difference sense than what it was a few years back. I think women like variety. I think women crave variety. How many times have you heard that women get bored in the bedroom? Therefore, man only given the one tool by God can only do so much for the female hunger for variety. In that sense, any man alive may be inadequate for a woman craving a large variety.

So...with that said...Should a "man" feel inadequate if a woman wants to introduce the use of toys into the relationship?

Maybe at one time...I think the answer to that was yes.

But understanding the dynamics that can be brought to the relationship for the love of a man's partner, I think the answer to that today is no.

What do you think?



And by the way Robert, I am not talking about Mr. Potato Head....or am I?