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I just started my day with a bad thought.
Had these feeling of uncertainty.
I've been doing these work for 15 years and yet they haven't seen my worth.
Been doing my best to impress them, but seems like they are ignoring me.
They even have time to hold on to newbie who brings nothing to them but expenses.
Just these work environment thought.

With regards to lovelife, still hoping for the best.
They say that since I am in 40s it would be a waste not having a husband nor kid.
What can I do? No one courts me.
Or if there is, they are just students who still need to prove their worth. I don't like someone who depends so much on someone (say from their parents).
I need someone who is independent enough to have me.
Just a thought.
Good day everyone.:-)

It has been 12 years since we have been apart. We have seen each other from time to time...and me, I always avoided her if I could. Whenever I would see her out, she was with a different guy each time. Honestly, it never bothered me. I was glad to see her out and hopefully happy. However, from what I knew of her...she really took a path of destruction in her life. There was nothing good I have ever heard from others about her. Again, I didn't care...we were not together but these people knew we were together and could never hold back from telling me...she did this...she got involved here and there....all of it was never good.

When she first cheated on me, which ultimately lead to me breaking up with her....initially...I told myself that she would genuinely apologize, that I would consider trying to make things work. At least at that time, I would believe she honestly felt bad about her actions and just maybe, she would consider me in the relationship if we stay together. After we initially separated, days went by and then weeks....yet, no apology. Then that is when I figured, this is indeed the end and prepared my life for a new path.

Last night rolls around, twelve years later. My buddy and I decide to go out to the casino, get a bite to eat and play a quick $20 in the machines. I sit on one machine and my buddy says, I will be over here. I check what direction he walks in so I can find him later and I play my machine. After playing, I get up and go looking for him. When I walk around a cluster of machines, there he is...sitting next to my ex and chatting with her. Initially my reaction is just to turn around...never seen...and just walk away, but I am getting tired and want to round up my buddy. So there is where it all starts. My ex and I end up sitting for an hour chatting. She is drunk and emotionally all over the place....going on about how she is single and hinting at getting a room there. I just change the subject and listen.

At this time, I am dropping subtle hints about it is getting late and I am tired and I need to go. As we are departing, she says...I am sorry for everything. An apology after 12 years. I did give her a hug and then left.

I think that is the first time I heard that word from her mouth...ever.

Now of course she was drunk. But it is said that when people are drunk, their filters come down. Meaning..that they feel freer to express what is really going on in their heads.

Has she seen enough of the single life to realize that grass was not greener?
Was she just feeling lonely at that moment and just wanted company?
Or, was she genuinely sorry and wanted to make amends?
Or, should it be just another "thing"...and once trust is lost...it is lost for ever?

What do you think?

Whats wrong with you guys. What are you looking for?
After being married most of my life and now single, I find men are ugly, inside and out. OK I am not expecting men to look better than they did than in younger years, but just letting yourselves go does not help either. Who likes an enormous pot belly in front of you?
Forgetting the looks, now to your character, did I just have a great husband and forgot that all the other guys are just not nice, or am I just meeting up with the wrong ones? How do I difference between someone who wants to try them all the available ones out and those that really want a relationship?
Also to finances, some, mostly divorced, find themseves with a very low pension and now expect the woman to keep them, while keeping their meager income to themselves.
Have I tried all sorts that are available, or there those that are really ready, just to be happy in a comfortable relationship, where each puts in the best they can. I think men are afraid of commitment.
One day it will be too late for you, and you will be sitting there slobbering.
My biggest problem, there are not a lot of suitable men near me, so I am very limited .

I see lots of profiles where members give out their first and last names along with contact information like a phone number or email address. To my thinking, it's either a scammer or stupidity. Can people be so naive in this day of scams to divulge so much personal information?
A new profile this week has a woman in my state who says she's a widow with one daughter making over $150,000 a year and will treat her man like a king.
I'm inclined to believe it's a scammer and all (the goodies) mentioned in the profile is the calling card to catch a guy looking for an easy ride. That's the bait!

I could be right.
I could be wrong.

Shresh....happy to be here. People normally say ....enjoy life cos u only live once...id rather say....u live everyday ...u die once. ...

Now, that's a living wage. Good for TJMAX.
Hey, wait a minute. Perhaps the money TJMAX is SUPPOSED to be getting, is getting taken by someone else.

They are deleting profiles that are obviously fake in pretty quick order.

Bill Gates Is Back On The Market

I know relationships can be complicated. They can be complicated to the point where the individuals involved within them have their own unique set of rules they each have become to respect. With that said, I know the answer to certain questions may or may not be as simple as yes or no. There might actually be qualifiers/stipulations that come along with them. Really, it boils down to the individuals within the relationship on what they are willing to accept and not accept.

But....here is the question.

I have personally seen this and have heard it from many friends. I am not saying it is a common event, but I think it might be more common than one might think.

Is it right for a woman in a relationship to threaten her man with various forms of retribution if he decides to go out with his friends....or...even go visit his family. Now the family thing, I think might be a little more rare but the friends issue, I have heard on more than one occasion.

What I do hear a lot now days is....how men will proclaim, "I like my freedom."

Is this a man issue only or do women run into the same issues?
Do women feel the same about having their freedom?
Do you really lose your freedom when you meet the right person...meaning allowing you your boundaries and allowing your individuality?
Is it really fair for your spouse or significant other to throw threats out there...or is it time to move on?
Have we now become a new society when it comes to relationships?

Happy Saturday all.

Not everyone has the same opinion / outlook / personality / desires in not only dating... but everything in life.

I believe I first heard/saw the acronym YMMV in some forum posts. It started from car commercials/advertisements regarding vehicle mileage claims... Claims that users cannot (normally) achieve. Your mileage may vary. Yeah... it will vary as those tests are done under perfect conditions.

Around the city, my car does around 25 miles per gallon. Late at night when driving along a long stretch of State Road 7 (US441) and holding below the speed limit I can get more than 41 miles per gallon. Big difference than 9am when the road is congested.

With regard to dating sites, YMMV. Some people join them and find that selection of country, height, hair color, religion, smoking, personality, education, economic background doesn't really get them what they are looking for!

More than a decade ago people who were frustrated not finding what they were looking for turned to Facebook for the social interaction. Online dating wasn't working for them and they were able to make friendship connection on social media.

Dating sites... YMMV !