I Don't Know, I'm kind of Frustrated. (37)
philmasterWahiawa, Hawaii USA33 Threads 16 Polls 131 PostsMy family and I went out to dinner last Sunday. The food was great, but we had this waitress I wanted to ask out. I think she would've made a good girlfriend. The problem was, I didn't want to hit on her in front of my family. Both my grandparents would've said it was inappropriate, and I would've been embarrassed if the waitress had shot me down. So, I just kept my mouth shut. I just acted like any other customer. I'd hate to think I missed out on a chance at a girlfriend just because I didn't want to make my move in front of my family. Advice please!
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philmaster: My family and I went out to dinner last Sunday. The food was great, but we had this waitress I wanted to ask out. I think she would've made a good girlfriend. The problem was, I didn't want to hit on her in front of my family. Both my grandparents would've said it was inappropriate, and I would've been embarrassed if the waitress had shot me down. So, I just kept my mouth shut. I just acted like any other customer. I'd hate to think I missed out on a chance at a girlfriend just because I didn't want to make my move in front of my family. Advice please!
Can't catch a fish without putting your worm in the water.You should have went for it. And it was a waitress...they get hit on all the time and they're used to it.
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philmaster: My family and I went out to dinner last Sunday. The food was great, but we had this waitress I wanted to ask out. I think she would've made a good girlfriend. The problem was, I didn't want to hit on her in front of my family. Both my grandparents would've said it was inappropriate, and I would've been embarrassed if the waitress had shot me down. So, I just kept my mouth shut. I just acted like any other customer. I'd hate to think I missed out on a chance at a girlfriend just because I didn't want to make my move in front of my family. Advice please!
Easy: scout out the restaurant until she is on shift again, then ask for a table in the section that she serves.
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philmaster: My family and I went out to dinner last Sunday. The food was great, but we had this waitress I wanted to ask out. I think she would've made a good girlfriend. The problem was, I didn't want to hit on her in front of my family. Both my grandparents would've said it was inappropriate, and I would've been embarrassed if the waitress had shot me down. So, I just kept my mouth shut. I just acted like any other customer. I'd hate to think I missed out on a chance at a girlfriend just because I didn't want to make my move in front of my family. Advice please!
Probably agree with you ... not a smart (nor even considerate ) move to make advances to the waitress.
Sure, they get hit on 'all the time' but it always 'puts them in a tight spot' ... they have to do their job and serve the patrons, refusing a guy in front of his family / friends can be embarrassing and many places have a staff rule in place.
Then again ... what makes you think she's not already in a relationship?
If 'she'd make a good girlfriend' then she probably already IS someone's girlfriend or partner already!
But, if you and Pedro have broken up and there's no hope of a reconciliation ... why not go visit the restaurant on your own and begin by asking ' Would you happen to be free to accept an invitation...?'
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HexagonKeySet: Probably agree with you ... not a smart (nor even considerate ) move to make advances to the waitress.
Sure, they get hit on 'all the time' but it always 'puts them in a tight spot' ... they have to do their job and serve the patrons, refusing a guy in front of his family / friends can be embarrassing and many places have a staff rule in place.
Then again ... what makes you think she's not already in a relationship?
If 'she'd make a good girlfriend' then she probably already IS someone's girlfriend or partner already!
But, if you and Pedro have broken up and there's no hope of a reconciliation ... why not go visit the restaurant on your own and begin by asking ' Would you happen to be free to accept an invitation...?'
Sure, they get hit on 'all the time' but it always 'puts them in a tight spot' ... they have to do their job and serve the patrons, refusing a guy in front of his family / friends can be embarrassing and many places have a staff rule in place.
Then again ... what makes you think she's not already in a relationship?
If 'she'd make a good girlfriend' then she probably already IS someone's girlfriend or partner already!
But, if you and Pedro have broken up and there's no hope of a reconciliation ... why not go visit the restaurant on your own and begin by asking ' Would you happen to be free to accept an invitation...?'
That's a very polite invitations !
Is that for Pedro or girl ?
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rainbowdream2017: That's a very polite invitations !
Is that for Pedro or girl ?
Is that for Pedro or girl ?
Erhhh, yes ... now that's a very, VERY good question !
Maybe an early reconciliation with Pedro would be best ... for Phil and for all womankind ?
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Lonely1: Easy: scout out the restaurant until she is on shift again, then ask for a table in the section that she serves.
It's easier to say that then it is to do it. First, we don't go out to eat all that often. Second, when going out to eat, we're always together, as you might expect. Then there's the fact that the next time we go, she may not be working there anymore. I will say, it's good advice though.------ This thread is Archived ------
philmaster: It's easier to say that then it is to do it. First, we don't go out to eat all that often. Second, when going out to eat, we're always together, as you might expect. Then there's the fact that the next time we go, she may not be working there anymore. I will say, it's good advice though.
OK, begin NOW by quitting all the excuses, then growing a pair Phil and after that, have a couple concrete pills to harden up dude !
Unless of course you're telling us that you're NOT ALLOWED OUT on your own ?
If you are (allowed out) then just go do as the nice man told you !
Whats the worst that can happen ... she reads this thread, moves jobs to stop you stalking her cos you were so freaky staring at her last time ... you get a decent meal and maybe you spot a different waitress who would make a BETTER girlfriend to stalk ...
Peace
Beers
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HexagonKeySet: OK, begin NOW by quitting all the excuses, then growing a pair Phil and after that, have a couple concrete pills to harden up dude !
Unless of course you're telling us that you're NOT ALLOWED OUT on your own ?
If you are (allowed out) then just go do as the nice man told you !
Whats the worst that can happen ... she reads this thread, moves jobs to stop you stalking her cos you were so freaky staring at her last time ... you get a decent meal and maybe you spot a different waitress who would make a BETTER girlfriend to stalk ...
Peace
Beers
Laughter
I didn't mean that, I was simply saying that going out to eat is something we do as a family. I'm sure the same can be said for everybody else.Unless of course you're telling us that you're NOT ALLOWED OUT on your own ?
If you are (allowed out) then just go do as the nice man told you !
Whats the worst that can happen ... she reads this thread, moves jobs to stop you stalking her cos you were so freaky staring at her last time ... you get a decent meal and maybe you spot a different waitress who would make a BETTER girlfriend to stalk ...
Peace
Beers
Laughter
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HexagonKeySet: Erhhh, yes ... now that's a very, VERY good question !
Maybe an early reconciliation with Pedro would be best ... for Phil and for all womankind ?
Be cruel to be kind ? Maybe an early reconciliation with Pedro would be best ... for Phil and for all womankind ?
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philmaster: My family and I went out to dinner last Sunday. The food was great, but we had this waitress I wanted to ask out. I think she would've made a good girlfriend. The problem was, I didn't want to hit on her in front of my family. Both my grandparents would've said it was inappropriate, and I would've been embarrassed if the waitress had shot me down. So, I just kept my mouth shut. I just acted like any other customer. I'd hate to think I missed out on a chance at a girlfriend just because I didn't want to make my move in front of my family. Advice please!
You did the right thing, dining out with your family is not the right time to hit on women.
Go out on your own as a mature person then you can go for it.
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Have you considered the possibility that she might appreciate your close family, and want you because you love your grandparents?
How bout the way she might feel about you, if she thinks she's not the kind of girl you introduce to your family?
If you don't hit on women in front of Tutu, she won't mind if you do it once...
You think she can't tell you seriously like the woman?
How bout the way she might feel about you, if she thinks she's not the kind of girl you introduce to your family?
If you don't hit on women in front of Tutu, she won't mind if you do it once...
You think she can't tell you seriously like the woman?
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Asking a person out in their work-place is not cool.
It puts her in an awkward situation, yet she still has to serve you.
It puts her in an awkward situation, yet she still has to serve you.
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philmaster: I didn't mean that, I was simply saying that going out to eat is something we do as a family. I'm sure the same can be said for everybody else.
Then. are we assume to YOU are NOT ALLOWED out on your own ?
That sure is how it's looking ... and IF that's case, you ain't EVER EVER EVER gonna get a date, mate !
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try to inform by a regular or co-worker if she is looking for a partner.
It is hard to be a good girlfriend if you are not interested or already occupied
It is hard to be a good girlfriend if you are not interested or already occupied
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I don't want to be cruel here but... there are several things here that don't add up.
First you seem to have changed your body type from disabled to average.
Are u out of your wheelchair now?
Second while you claim to feel frustrated I sense a bit of anger in your post, you make it sound as if given the case she rejected you it was going to be your family's fault just for being there. They blocking your mojo or something?
Third you say you ''missed your chance at a girlfriend'', notice how you already give her the title of ''girlfriend'' how creepy is that?
Fourth nothing is stopping you from returning to the restaurant with whatever excuse to see her again, something like:- I think I left my ID on the table- or whatever. Only reason I can see for you not doing this is because you feel safer fantasizing about what could have been instead of actually making it work.
I'm sorry if my comment sounds harsh but that's the way I see it.
First you seem to have changed your body type from disabled to average.
Are u out of your wheelchair now?
Second while you claim to feel frustrated I sense a bit of anger in your post, you make it sound as if given the case she rejected you it was going to be your family's fault just for being there. They blocking your mojo or something?
Third you say you ''missed your chance at a girlfriend'', notice how you already give her the title of ''girlfriend'' how creepy is that?
Fourth nothing is stopping you from returning to the restaurant with whatever excuse to see her again, something like:- I think I left my ID on the table- or whatever. Only reason I can see for you not doing this is because you feel safer fantasizing about what could have been instead of actually making it work.
I'm sorry if my comment sounds harsh but that's the way I see it.
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philmaster: My family and I went out to dinner last Sunday. The food was great, but we had this waitress I wanted to ask out. I think she would've made a good girlfriend. The problem was, I didn't want to hit on her in front of my family. Both my grandparents would've said it was inappropriate, and I would've been embarrassed if the waitress had shot me down. So, I just kept my mouth shut. I just acted like any other customer. I'd hate to think I missed out on a chance at a girlfriend just because I didn't want to make my move in front of my family. Advice please!
Win some, lose some. Don't make a big deal out of it, you're putting pressure on yourself when what you want to be is relaxing all over her.
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HexagonKeySet: OK, begin NOW by quitting all the excuses, then growing a pair Phil and after that, have a couple concrete pills to harden up dude !
Self-defeating advice. It's talking to another human being as tho it was the most natural thing in the world, not marching into battle. Love is a lot easier when you don't think of it like a war.
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BritishLondon: Self-defeating advice. It's talking to another human being as tho it was the most natural thing in the world, not marching into battle. Love is a lot easier when you don't think of it like a war.
So, you're advising him to keep on making excuses and stay home ?
I do actually think that it IS a VERY natural thing for an mature adult male to go to out and meet a woman - without necessarily having all of his family with him.
You don't?
The MOST natural thing is probably ... not shaving :-)
Tell me, do you use your head as a space to keep budgies ?????
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