What right does a man have to shout at a woman (91)
jac_the_gripper: Anger is a common and natural part of grief.
Often grief anger can be irrational, for example, people can get angry because the dead person left them, or angry because medical staff didn't save them.
I'm not saying he had the right to roar at you, or shake his first at you. I'm not saying you should accept his behaviour.
I'm just trying to explain how his behaviour was to do with him and not anything you did wrong.
Often grief anger can be irrational, for example, people can get angry because the dead person left them, or angry because medical staff didn't save them.
I'm not saying he had the right to roar at you, or shake his first at you. I'm not saying you should accept his behaviour.
I'm just trying to explain how his behaviour was to do with him and not anything you did wrong.
agreed. that how it sounds to me too
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The point of shouting is wrong. A couple core strength comes from the ability to turn the other cheek or bounce back. I've been married 32 years but that does not make me a professional. I can only tell you the way I see it.
The more you make of these issues the worse they are. Understanding that it's human nature to blow off some steam and when your married you catch each others. With that in mind the next time this happens you can smile knowing they are just blowing off steam. Safety glasses optional
The more you make of these issues the worse they are. Understanding that it's human nature to blow off some steam and when your married you catch each others. With that in mind the next time this happens you can smile knowing they are just blowing off steam. Safety glasses optional
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What is strange she calls him her BF and is NOW her ex.....
BUT looking at the threads she started from 2015
Looking for a nice Kilkenny man in Aug 2015
and again 2016
i wish someone would ask me out Oct 2016
and again 2017
screw it im going on First date ireland Jan 2017
So this all BS at it's finest..
So it may have been her ex BF from 5 years ago...
She isn't very clear in her OP. and if that was the case she should have just sent the card... and not gone over to his house in the first place..
BUT looking at the threads she started from 2015
Looking for a nice Kilkenny man in Aug 2015
and again 2016
i wish someone would ask me out Oct 2016
and again 2017
screw it im going on First date ireland Jan 2017
So this all BS at it's finest..
So it may have been her ex BF from 5 years ago...
She isn't very clear in her OP. and if that was the case she should have just sent the card... and not gone over to his house in the first place..
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"OPApr 21, 2016
I'm pure sick
I'm pure sick of looking for Prince charming . Turned out he cared more about his mother than me . I'm sick of being treated like dirt I want a real man a man who treats his woman with respect who cares about her not his love for Liverpool. I'm officially looking for mister right to bring me off on a date before I crack up . Get in touch lets get drawing ??????"
Do you recognize this post Lassie?
So, you've been in a relationship for five years?
You want to change your story...?
I'm pure sick
I'm pure sick of looking for Prince charming . Turned out he cared more about his mother than me . I'm sick of being treated like dirt I want a real man a man who treats his woman with respect who cares about her not his love for Liverpool. I'm officially looking for mister right to bring me off on a date before I crack up . Get in touch lets get drawing ??????"
Do you recognize this post Lassie?
So, you've been in a relationship for five years?
You want to change your story...?
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lassie806: A few days ago my boyfriend now my x boyfriend roared at me . His mum lost his sister and i was dropping down a mass card to the house we were together 5 years and he roared at me to stay the fxxx away from the house his mother will not approve of me will take it very badly . I was just leaving ina mass card and leaving . He roared into my face stay the fxxx away from my mother im warning you fist together like i was about to get punched in the face . what did i do wrong
He's been under a lot of stress recently and by the sound of it you don't know when you're not welcome. In fact you seem to have overstayed your welcome by several years.
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Ha!!!! She's been here since 2010. This thread seems a bunch of lies and deception.
Right diagnosis, wrong person. As we all know the classic online narcissist is an attention grabber
A practicing psychiatrist can make a living on these blogs and forums. Just kidding, there is no cure for them...
Next case:
Right diagnosis, wrong person. As we all know the classic online narcissist is an attention grabber
A practicing psychiatrist can make a living on these blogs and forums. Just kidding, there is no cure for them...
Next case:
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The same as what right does a woman have to scream at a bloke.
I get tired of woman playing the victim card.
I get tired of woman playing the victim card.
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Exactly. If she's not going to listen, give her a black eye.
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seaworthy: Ha!!!! She's been here since 2010. This thread seems a bunch of lies and deception.
Right diagnosis, wrong person. As we all know the classic online narcissist is an attention grabber
A practicing psychiatrist can make a living on these blogs and forums. Just kidding, there is no cure for them...
Next case:
Next case.Right diagnosis, wrong person. As we all know the classic online narcissist is an attention grabber
A practicing psychiatrist can make a living on these blogs and forums. Just kidding, there is no cure for them...
Next case:
You're right, most of us feeling passionate to help and support...but we don't know who's playing us....therefor we might also become a case to study.
Just kidding.
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cmon Lassie its time to walk, you need some exercise huh..
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It doesn't really matter who, if anyone, is playing us.
It doesn't really matter if the information we have been presented adds up in our understanding. Maybe we don't have enough information, or clear information. Maybe the OP is presenting a scenario.
The salient points are that a man who is grieving shouts and shakes his fist at a woman who expresses her condolences. It's no skin off my nose to reflect on that scenario. I haven't lost anything by doing that.
Unless more information is presented we can do no more. Trying to guess at things from a posting history is not the same as being presented with more information.
Even if we were being played, our reflections may be a useful exercise. Understanding that other people's behaviour is to do with them and we can only take responsibility for our own is developmentally important. It's the stuff of a healthy self-esteem.
It doesn't really matter if the information we have been presented adds up in our understanding. Maybe we don't have enough information, or clear information. Maybe the OP is presenting a scenario.
The salient points are that a man who is grieving shouts and shakes his fist at a woman who expresses her condolences. It's no skin off my nose to reflect on that scenario. I haven't lost anything by doing that.
Unless more information is presented we can do no more. Trying to guess at things from a posting history is not the same as being presented with more information.
Even if we were being played, our reflections may be a useful exercise. Understanding that other people's behaviour is to do with them and we can only take responsibility for our own is developmentally important. It's the stuff of a healthy self-esteem.
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I concour wholeheartedly, my balls are mightily impressive to me at least.
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jac_the_gripper: It doesn't really matter who, if anyone, is playing us.
It doesn't really matter if the information we have been presented adds up in our understanding. Maybe we don't have enough information, or clear information. Maybe the OP is presenting a scenario.
The salient points are that a man who is grieving shouts and shakes his fist at a woman who expresses her condolences. It's no skin off my nose to reflect on that scenario. I haven't lost anything by doing that.
Unless more information is presented we can do no more. Trying to guess at things from a posting history is not the same as being presented with more information.
Even if we were being played, our reflections may be a useful exercise. Understanding that other people's behaviour is to do with them and we can only take responsibility for our own is developmentally important. It's the stuff of a healthy self-esteem.
It doesn't really matter if the information we have been presented adds up in our understanding. Maybe we don't have enough information, or clear information. Maybe the OP is presenting a scenario.
The salient points are that a man who is grieving shouts and shakes his fist at a woman who expresses her condolences. It's no skin off my nose to reflect on that scenario. I haven't lost anything by doing that.
Unless more information is presented we can do no more. Trying to guess at things from a posting history is not the same as being presented with more information.
Even if we were being played, our reflections may be a useful exercise. Understanding that other people's behaviour is to do with them and we can only take responsibility for our own is developmentally important. It's the stuff of a healthy self-esteem.
If she's been lying all the time why would we assume she's telling the truth now, Jac...?!
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jac_the_gripper: It doesn't really matter who, if anyone, is playing us.
It doesn't really matter if the information we have been presented adds up in our understanding. Maybe we don't have enough information, or clear information. Maybe the OP is presenting a scenario.
The salient points are that a man who is grieving shouts and shakes his fist at a woman who expresses her condolences. It's no skin off my nose to reflect on that scenario. I haven't lost anything by doing that.
Unless more information is presented we can do no more. Trying to guess at things from a posting history is not the same as being presented with more information.
Even if we were being played, our reflections may be a useful exercise. Understanding that other people's behaviour is to do with them and we can only take responsibility for our own is developmentally important. It's the stuff of a healthy self-esteem.
It doesn't really matter if the information we have been presented adds up in our understanding. Maybe we don't have enough information, or clear information. Maybe the OP is presenting a scenario.
The salient points are that a man who is grieving shouts and shakes his fist at a woman who expresses her condolences. It's no skin off my nose to reflect on that scenario. I haven't lost anything by doing that.
Unless more information is presented we can do no more. Trying to guess at things from a posting history is not the same as being presented with more information.
Even if we were being played, our reflections may be a useful exercise. Understanding that other people's behaviour is to do with them and we can only take responsibility for our own is developmentally important. It's the stuff of a healthy self-esteem.
I have to respectfully disagree with your premises. Understanding, if we're being the victim of a fraud is most important to us .......all of us........as this becomes the foundation for further involvement with such poster. Like I and many have said here.....a no contact rule is important when dealing with a dysfunctional personality ie: a narcissist.
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lassie806: A few days ago my boyfriend now my x boyfriend roared at me . His mum lost his sister and i was dropping down a mass card to the house we were together 5 years and he roared at me to stay the fxxx away from the house his mother will not approve of me will take it very badly . I was just leaving ina mass card and leaving . He roared into my face stay the fxxx away from my mother im warning you fist together like i was about to get punched in the face . what did i do wrong
while others debate, i will offer a solution
Earplugs ,baby, earplugs
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seaworthy: I have to respectfully disagree with your premises. Understanding, if we're being the victim of a fraud is most important to us .......all of us........as this becomes the foundation for further involvement with such poster. Like I and many have said here.....a no contact rule is important when dealing with a dysfunctional personality ie: a narcissist.
I concur I consider it as 'trolling'.
I didn't come here to be part of an experiment nor a case study.
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Maybe give the woman a chance to come back and explain it fully, before labelling her with the disorder of the day.
She was obviously upset writing it, and didn't explain everything fully.
I am not saying she was right or wrong, but she should be given a chance either way before damning her.
She was obviously upset writing it, and didn't explain everything fully.
I am not saying she was right or wrong, but she should be given a chance either way before damning her.
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mollybaby: Maybe give the woman a chance to come back and explain it fully, before labelling her with the disorder of the day.
She was obviously upset writing it, and didn't explain everything fully.
I am not saying she was right or wrong, but she should be given a chance either way before damning her.
She was obviously upset writing it, and didn't explain everything fully.
I am not saying she was right or wrong, but she should be given a chance either way before damning her.
Maybe the woman should refrain from posting such personal details about her private life, when the person she is slandering isn't here to defend himself!
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you probably did nothing wrong. This is a difficult time for him. apparently. You might cut him a lot of slack with the death of a close family member. If your presence upsets him stay away for now and give it some time. I know some like to send meals, food and such. If you want to do that, have someone else take the dish over or even the Mass card. You could always light a candle at the church instead. Time heals