Broken heart, how long did it take to mend? ( Archived) (30)

it never goes away, you just get use to it.

I don't know every person is different...it depends on if you're still holding out hope that some day you might get back together which only prolongs the agony or really moving on....after my marriage ended it probably took me the longest which was well over a year...but that's not because I was upset about the marriage ending cause I was the one who ended it....but I knew I needed the time to work on me and heal scars that came from the marriage before I was ready to date again....


Good Luck....

The saying "it's all in the mind" is so true...The problem is not your "broken heart", but your "infected mindset". How long does it take to move on? That depends on at what stage you're gonna change your mindset about this matter and move on. If you don't do this you can be forever caught in a world of "dreams and could have beens.." Life is too short not to move on and start living again.

I agree that we all have our own way of dealing with it. I thought I had been doing pretty well at trying to forget. But when the fire alarm went off tonight the first thing I did after waking up was to reach over and grab for him. Yes, we do need to focus our minds on what we want to do with our lives now. I do miss having that safe feeling, but I know if it is meant to be someone will appear when I least expect it. Will take time for me to regain trust.

Thanks to all who have responded. It's getting better at times these days. But as soon as I tell myself that I hear a song, or his name, or he'll email me a "hello" and I'm mush!! My heart starts to beat in my chest so hard I can't breath.

He's with someone else now and you think that would have done it for me right! I was on here just yesterday and guess who's picture came up! I'd love to move on, I'm trying, but I feel like I'm just going through the motions.

He'll always have my heart - and my mind...

Looking for Mr. Amazing, take my breath away and make me forget him, or even better - make me feel alive and special again!! We will find eachother I hope!!

That's another point some of you have brought up, I have to let go of the hope that he'll wake up and see that I could have been the best thing in his life - what we could have been to eachother! What might have been, could have been, no SHOULD have been!

Thanks again all!

Oh Sandcrab...

I feel for you, I do. YOu are now where I was years ago when my husband left me for another.

But you know, you need to think about you. Push him to the back shelf for now, do not give him airtime.

You will be trying to work out what you did wrong, yes?

Who knows, his kids do not, they aresyaing stuff to make you feel better.

So stop trying, think about you and your recovery from this, how you can move yourself to a better place.

As hard as it is, not to breakdown over times spent together, you have to try, you have to get up and look in the mirror and not be beaten down. Smile at people in the street, think about what you want, draw silly pictures, of what and where you want to go, look after you, see yourself as aquring a daughter, what would you say to her when she asks you why? You would not know the answers, would you? But you would hold her, let her cry, let her sob it out.

Then you would encourage her to go out, have some fun, be there when it gets tough and help her to work out what is best for her.

Take your own hand now, sit yourself down and tell your self that there was nothing you could do.

Then smile, get a mirror, let yourself know that you are still here and that you deserve a life, put your favourite lipstick on, make your face up, dress in your fave clothes and walk down that street and smile.

You will attract like minded people, you will feel great and he will fade from your existence, he will be pushed to the back because you are so busy building your self esteem.

I cannot tell you how long it will take, but for me, it was when I woke up each morning without crying.

You will, maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow.

But you will.

I am certain of it.

holy batman morgan

that new picture is *sizzle*





hi sandcrab


my best hopes for you

sometimes there is just simply something better for us yet to come

i mean likely youre not falling apart

could be youre falling together

The damage is too extensive ... never to be mended.





Ah, well ...

It doesn't take that long. You just need good mind control...

They never really mend, they just ooze slowly.

Broken heart, how long did it take to mend?


still working on it. Princess cannot compete with addiction

Sometimes you never quite completely get over some things......you just keep going because there is no other choice.

ditto.....that's how I have been feeling lately

no one can

I don't know that mine will ever fully heal.

But what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

sometimes that is cold comfort

but i believe you
after all-youre the doctor

The trick is to not put yourself in that position!!

sometimes ya decide to try

spose you would say thats the rub

I think its just until you realise what you really want, what you had, what you have now left behind for whatever reason and the desire and determination to not let any of this ruin even a minute's worth of happiness in your life.

This realisation or rather self evaluation of your situation and feelings could take just as long as you would allow it to. I think one should talk to closest of friends and family , let the feelings and sorrow be expressed .. it does feel better !!

Annndddd prepare mentally to start living your own life as you fully again.

Its in our own hands. But with the help of few others, things can get back on track sooner than expected.

Noo I am not saying you will forget or it wont hurt. But it will ONLY hurt soooo much for sometime. Gradually your heart will learn to hurt lesser.



Theres just as much room for tears as we allow them ....