Double standards? (41)
It’s not a straight forward yes or no answer. Parenting varies from culture to culture albeit with many similarities. Where countries have different views and policies on gender it becomes very problematic.
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All families are different. And my mom gave all of us a clip in the ear when needed.
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Oxycodone: It’s not a straight forward yes or no answer. Parenting varies from culture to culture albeit with many similarities. Where countries have different views and policies on gender it becomes very problematic.
Good point
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Sir_T: All families are different. And my mom gave all of us a clip in the ear when needed.
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Parents tend to hit boys a little more and explain to girls how whatever happened made someone feel bad.
Teach to the boys that all that effort could pay off in the real world it’s not just the thought that counts. A sea of pointless tasks that just like to see you try is more a woman than a man.
Teach to the boys that all that effort could pay off in the real world it’s not just the thought that counts. A sea of pointless tasks that just like to see you try is more a woman than a man.
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treating boys and girls differently is not what i see as double standards , why?
we dont have gender less individues yet that is one of the agenda of the shadow government
we dont have gender less individues yet that is one of the agenda of the shadow government
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ChesneyChrist: Parents tend to hit boys a little more and explain to girls how whatever happened made someone feel bad.
Teach to the boys that all that effort could pay off in the real world it’s not just the thought that counts. A sea of pointless tasks that just like to see you try is more a woman than a man.
Did you ask me if I hit my son?Teach to the boys that all that effort could pay off in the real world it’s not just the thought that counts. A sea of pointless tasks that just like to see you try is more a woman than a man.
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If I had a daughter she wouldn't be allowed out until I died
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My sister and I were treated differently. I am four years older than her. We are like night and day. She has a cavalier attitude and takes things with a grain of salt. Sometimes I worry too much and look at things from every direction but I'd rather take the safe road when making a decision.
I excelled in school whereas she was a wild child. My parents, especially my father wanted me to be the perfect child, to never make a mistake in life and to never give anybody a reason for them to talk about me in a negative way.
He was so obsessed with me being a perfect child that he beat me with a belt mercilessly when I was very young, thinking that he was teaching me a lesson. He never beat my sister even though she sassed him back, rarely went to school and stayed out all hours of the night.
When he learned that I was going to be divorced he was upset because he wanted me to be the only one in the entire family that didn't go through a divorce. Funny thing is that he picked out the man he wanted me to marry. I tried to get out of marrying that man but my father was controlling and I better do what he said cause daddy always knows best.
So yes we were treated differently. My father favored me, my mother favored my sister because she felt sorry for her.
I excelled in school whereas she was a wild child. My parents, especially my father wanted me to be the perfect child, to never make a mistake in life and to never give anybody a reason for them to talk about me in a negative way.
He was so obsessed with me being a perfect child that he beat me with a belt mercilessly when I was very young, thinking that he was teaching me a lesson. He never beat my sister even though she sassed him back, rarely went to school and stayed out all hours of the night.
When he learned that I was going to be divorced he was upset because he wanted me to be the only one in the entire family that didn't go through a divorce. Funny thing is that he picked out the man he wanted me to marry. I tried to get out of marrying that man but my father was controlling and I better do what he said cause daddy always knows best.
So yes we were treated differently. My father favored me, my mother favored my sister because she felt sorry for her.
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secretagent09: My sister and I were treated differently. I am four years older than her. We are like night and day. She has a cavalier attitude and takes things with a grain of salt. Sometimes I worry too much and look at things from every direction but I'd rather take the safe road when making a decision.
I excelled in school whereas she was a wild child. My parents, especially my father wanted me to be the perfect child, to never make a mistake in life and to never give anybody a reason for them to talk about me in a negative way.
He was so obsessed with me being a perfect child that he beat me with a belt mercilessly when I was very young, thinking that he was teaching me a lesson. He never beat my sister even though she sassed him back, rarely went to school and stayed out all hours of the night.
When he learned that I was going to be divorced he was upset because he wanted me to be the only one in the entire family that didn't go through a divorce. Funny thing is that he picked out the man he wanted me to marry. I tried to get out of marrying that man but my father was controlling and I better do what he said cause daddy always knows best.
So yes we were treated differently. My father favored me, my mother favored my sister because she felt sorry for her.
I excelled in school whereas she was a wild child. My parents, especially my father wanted me to be the perfect child, to never make a mistake in life and to never give anybody a reason for them to talk about me in a negative way.
He was so obsessed with me being a perfect child that he beat me with a belt mercilessly when I was very young, thinking that he was teaching me a lesson. He never beat my sister even though she sassed him back, rarely went to school and stayed out all hours of the night.
When he learned that I was going to be divorced he was upset because he wanted me to be the only one in the entire family that didn't go through a divorce. Funny thing is that he picked out the man he wanted me to marry. I tried to get out of marrying that man but my father was controlling and I better do what he said cause daddy always knows best.
So yes we were treated differently. My father favored me, my mother favored my sister because she felt sorry for her.
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I'm surprised you say your father favoured you, after you said he beat you mercilessly, am i missing something??????????
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tomcatty: I'm surprised you say your father favoured you, after you said he beat you mercilessly, am i missing something??????????
Sometimes when you cherish someone you go to the extreme to show that you care.If you read where I said he wanted me to be perfect, to never do anything that would cause people to talk about me in a negative way, that was his way of favoring me...........protecting me from gossip.
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secretagent09: Sometimes when you cherish someone you go to the extreme to show that you care.
If you read where I said he wanted me to be perfect, to never do anything that would cause people to talk about me in a negative way, that was his way of favoring me...........protecting me from gossip.
Ok Secretagent.If you read where I said he wanted me to be perfect, to never do anything that would cause people to talk about me in a negative way, that was his way of favoring me...........protecting me from gossip.
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secretagent09: My sister and I were treated differently. I am four years older than her. We are like night and day. She has a cavalier attitude and takes things with a grain of salt. Sometimes I worry too much and look at things from every direction but I'd rather take the safe road when making a decision.
I excelled in school whereas she was a wild child. My parents, especially my father wanted me to be the perfect child, to never make a mistake in life and to never give anybody a reason for them to talk about me in a negative way.
He was so obsessed with me being a perfect child that he beat me with a belt mercilessly when I was very young, thinking that he was teaching me a lesson. He never beat my sister even though she sassed him back, rarely went to school and stayed out all hours of the night.
When he learned that I was going to be divorced he was upset because he wanted me to be the only one in the entire family that didn't go through a divorce. Funny thing is that he picked out the man he wanted me to marry. I tried to get out of marrying that man but my father was controlling and I better do what he said cause daddy always knows best.
So yes we were treated differently. My father favored me, my mother favored my sister because she felt sorry for her.
As I know nothing except what you have posted ,may I ask was your Father a bully and was your Mother afraid of him ,as I could never stand by and watch one of my children be physically attacked mercilessly . by a belt. He certainly would not have selected my husband for me either.I excelled in school whereas she was a wild child. My parents, especially my father wanted me to be the perfect child, to never make a mistake in life and to never give anybody a reason for them to talk about me in a negative way.
He was so obsessed with me being a perfect child that he beat me with a belt mercilessly when I was very young, thinking that he was teaching me a lesson. He never beat my sister even though she sassed him back, rarely went to school and stayed out all hours of the night.
When he learned that I was going to be divorced he was upset because he wanted me to be the only one in the entire family that didn't go through a divorce. Funny thing is that he picked out the man he wanted me to marry. I tried to get out of marrying that man but my father was controlling and I better do what he said cause daddy always knows best.
So yes we were treated differently. My father favored me, my mother favored my sister because she felt sorry for her.
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germanspitz: As I know nothing except what you have posted ,may I ask was your Father a bully and was your Mother afraid of him ,as I could never stand by and watch one of my children be physically attacked mercilessly . by a belt. He certainly would not have selected my husband for me either.
My father was a bully that ruled with an iron fist.My mother loved and worshiped the ground he walked on.
She wouldn't dare tell him to stop beating me.
If she did he would yell and scream at her so she backed down.
As for selecting my husband this goes back to 1958 when I met my husband. I married in 1962 when society was very different than it is now. My father worked in the same business that my husband was in so he knew him very well. He thought my husband-to-be would be a rich man someday and that is why he pushed me into the marriage.
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My parents raised us to know that there wasn't any gender specific chore to do. My brothers washed dishes just the same as my sister and I. We, in turn, helped pack away wood when we had a wood furnace and 20 cord of wood was delivered.
Myself, I have 2 daughters and 1 son. They are treated the same. No one gets away with something that the other 2 got punished for (my girls say my son is spoiled because he's the baby). Sometimes it's all due to perception and not necessarily a double standard.
Myself, I have 2 daughters and 1 son. They are treated the same. No one gets away with something that the other 2 got punished for (my girls say my son is spoiled because he's the baby). Sometimes it's all due to perception and not necessarily a double standard.
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secretagent09: My father was a bully that ruled with an iron fist.
My mother loved and worshiped the ground he walked on.
She wouldn't dare tell him to stop beating me.
If she did he would yell and scream at her so she backed down.
As for selecting my husband this goes back to 1958 when I met my husband. I married in 1962 when society was very different than it is now. My father worked in the same business that my husband was in so he knew him very well. He thought my husband-to-be would be a rich man someday and that is why he pushed me into the marriage.
How sad for you Secret, and for your Mother to be so blind sided by love she overlooked a terrified child.I hope you came out of it well and hope it didn't reflect too much on the upbringing of your own children ,as sometimes this can have a knock on effect and I'm not referring to the beatings.My mother loved and worshiped the ground he walked on.
She wouldn't dare tell him to stop beating me.
If she did he would yell and scream at her so she backed down.
As for selecting my husband this goes back to 1958 when I met my husband. I married in 1962 when society was very different than it is now. My father worked in the same business that my husband was in so he knew him very well. He thought my husband-to-be would be a rich man someday and that is why he pushed me into the marriage.
I was engaged on my 21st Birthday in 1961 but broke it off 6 weeks before the wedding as my future husband was a Mummy's boy. My dad was upset but very understanding as I told him " Dad you visit for afternoon tea on Sunday's I have to live with him for the rest of my life"
My parents divorced during the war when I was 5 and it had a huge affect on me but my Father whom I lived with was extremely proud of me and my achievements and scholarships, and I like to think that he was the person who taught me ethics and manners. He was also a great dancer bless him.
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What do you mean various genders
Only two biological genders exist
I think Boys and girls will be treated differently and should be treated differently...cause they are biologically different
Only two biological genders exist I think Boys and girls will be treated differently and should be treated differently...cause they are biologically different
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secretagent09: My sister and I were treated differently. I am four years older than her. We are like night and day. She has a cavalier attitude and takes things with a grain of salt. Sometimes I worry too much and look at things from every direction but I'd rather take the safe road when making a decision.
I excelled in school whereas she was a wild child. My parents, especially my father wanted me to be the perfect child, to never make a mistake in life and to never give anybody a reason for them to talk about me in a negative way.
He was so obsessed with me being a perfect child that he beat me with a belt mercilessly when I was very young, thinking that he was teaching me a lesson. He never beat my sister even though she sassed him back, rarely went to school and stayed out all hours of the night.
When he learned that I was going to be divorced he was upset because he wanted me to be the only one in the entire family that didn't go through a divorce. Funny thing is that he picked out the man he wanted me to marry. I tried to get out of marrying that man but my father was controlling and I better do what he said cause daddy always knows best.
So yes we were treated differently. My father favored me, my mother favored my sister because she felt sorry for her.
I excelled in school whereas she was a wild child. My parents, especially my father wanted me to be the perfect child, to never make a mistake in life and to never give anybody a reason for them to talk about me in a negative way.
He was so obsessed with me being a perfect child that he beat me with a belt mercilessly when I was very young, thinking that he was teaching me a lesson. He never beat my sister even though she sassed him back, rarely went to school and stayed out all hours of the night.
When he learned that I was going to be divorced he was upset because he wanted me to be the only one in the entire family that didn't go through a divorce. Funny thing is that he picked out the man he wanted me to marry. I tried to get out of marrying that man but my father was controlling and I better do what he said cause daddy always knows best.
So yes we were treated differently. My father favored me, my mother favored my sister because she felt sorry for her.
Oh my goodness! Your dad had high expectations for you. Beating you with a belt or anything else is horrible. The favoring of one child over and vice versa just had to be difficult to live like that.
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Taralyn: My parents raised us to know that there wasn't any gender specific chore to do. My brothers washed dishes just the same as my sister and I. We, in turn, helped pack away wood when we had a wood furnace and 20 cord of wood was delivered.
Myself, I have 2 daughters and 1 son. They are treated the same. No one gets away with something that the other 2 got punished for (my girls say my son is spoiled because he's the baby). Sometimes it's all due to perception and not necessarily a double standard.
That sounds a lot like my upbringing. I have one sisterr r. She is 6 years younger than me. We don't have the same dad. My mom was previously married to an abusive man, my biological father whom I've never met. So when my dad met my mom I was a toddler. He never once ever made me feel like a stepdaughter. He is my dad and I'm his daughter. Although my sister and I are technically "step sisters" we have never thought anything but the the fact we are sisters even though we weren't biological. My dad is a good man.Myself, I have 2 daughters and 1 son. They are treated the same. No one gets away with something that the other 2 got punished for (my girls say my son is spoiled because he's the baby). Sometimes it's all due to perception and not necessarily a double standard.
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I don't understand the question.
What do u mean various genders?
There's only 2.
What do u mean various genders?
There's only 2.
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Lasagna: I don't understand the question.
What do u mean various genders?
There's only 2.
I'm sorry, I didn't word that correctly. If you read the post after your question, I explained it to Lee. I accidentally skipped over your post/question by accident.What do u mean various genders?
There's only 2.
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You should have ONE standard that your family lives by. One of common decency. But boys and girls should definitely be raised differently.
If you don't know why you maybe shouldn't have children.
If you don't know why you maybe shouldn't have children.
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Friskyone: Same here
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It's not the gender, it's the character of the child, that should be under consideration.
As example: a clever child, who listens and learns, who understands the connection between action and consequence, who behaves responsibly, should be given more freedom.
A child, who doesn't listen, who expects someone else take responsibility for its actions... well, it's Lee Charming and shouldn't be let out from his mother's basement. As in "ever".
As example: a clever child, who listens and learns, who understands the connection between action and consequence, who behaves responsibly, should be given more freedom.
A child, who doesn't listen, who expects someone else take responsibility for its actions... well, it's Lee Charming and shouldn't be let out from his mother's basement. As in "ever".
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There's 7 of us in my family . I'm 5th youngest , only 2 girls my sister and I , back to back but 4 years apart . Then my youngest brother .
My dad treated me like my elder brothers , for some reason he couldn't transition from boys to a girl , until my sister was born 4 years later . My faither leathered me a lot , used to pull me about by hair , just drag me to the room he was lobbing me in . My sister started to see it , don't know what age but she stood in my faithers way and did the shouting back thing . He stopped using hands , just objects and words. But never in front of another soul. Then he get caught on the nanny cam dragging me down the patio by my hair .It changed when I had my boy , but he never saw it , he never understood that I was not like him and my brothers . Yet my sister is exactly like my brothers and our faither doesn't care . It's bloody bizarre .
Anyway ,I think it depends on the person in the long run . The rules from girl to boy are very different , but not in a bad way . Rate of growing up is different , boys are quicker at the start and I think it takes longer for girls to catch up , but then we mature faster but with no break in between , am I making sense ?!
Anyways , sorry for the super essay . I really thought this through , didn't I 
My dad treated me like my elder brothers , for some reason he couldn't transition from boys to a girl , until my sister was born 4 years later . My faither leathered me a lot , used to pull me about by hair , just drag me to the room he was lobbing me in . My sister started to see it , don't know what age but she stood in my faithers way and did the shouting back thing . He stopped using hands , just objects and words. But never in front of another soul. Then he get caught on the nanny cam dragging me down the patio by my hair .It changed when I had my boy , but he never saw it , he never understood that I was not like him and my brothers . Yet my sister is exactly like my brothers and our faither doesn't care . It's bloody bizarre .
Anyway ,I think it depends on the person in the long run . The rules from girl to boy are very different , but not in a bad way . Rate of growing up is different , boys are quicker at the start and I think it takes longer for girls to catch up , but then we mature faster but with no break in between , am I making sense ?!
Anyways , sorry for the super essay . I really thought this through , didn't I
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Tulefell: It's not the gender, it's the character of the child, that should be under consideration.
As example: a clever child, who listens and learns, who understands the connection between action and consequence, who behaves responsibly, should be given more freedom.
A child, who doesn't listen, who expects someone else take responsibility for its actions... well, it's Lee Charming and shouldn't be let out from his mother's basement. As in "ever".
My friend As example: a clever child, who listens and learns, who understands the connection between action and consequence, who behaves responsibly, should be given more freedom.
A child, who doesn't listen, who expects someone else take responsibility for its actions... well, it's Lee Charming and shouldn't be let out from his mother's basement. As in "ever".
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dillydally: My friend I think I love you a wee bit .....
I think I love you a wee bit too.....
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michaelright: I think I love you a wee bit too.....
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LeeCharming: History has a habit of repeating itself
So do you. 
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