How do you handle finances when you are in a M relationship? (26)
"Separate bank accounts with bills shared 50/50 with separate investments and charities"
I've had the unfortunate experience of sharing a joint account with my now ex-husband, as well as heard about other women who'd lost their savings at the hands of their respective spouses. It is not something that I wish on any one else (and maybe, not even my worst enemy).
I've had the unfortunate experience of sharing a joint account with my now ex-husband, as well as heard about other women who'd lost their savings at the hands of their respective spouses. It is not something that I wish on any one else (and maybe, not even my worst enemy).
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I normally pay for everything and also have to fork up a large sum when separated.
Relationship 1: I gave away a house.
Relationship 2: I gave away all the money in the bank.
Relationship 3: I gave away a large sum of money and paid rent for ex.
Relationship 4: I had to hand over a large sum of money.
Plus alimony for 4 children. 1st 20 years, 2nd 17 years and still paying for two.
Plus buying cars, holidays and equipment and what not.
The price you pay for heavy balls!
Relationship 1: I gave away a house.
Relationship 2: I gave away all the money in the bank.
Relationship 3: I gave away a large sum of money and paid rent for ex.
Relationship 4: I had to hand over a large sum of money.
Plus alimony for 4 children. 1st 20 years, 2nd 17 years and still paying for two.
Plus buying cars, holidays and equipment and what not.
The price you pay for heavy balls!
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Jaavisst: I normally pay for everything and also have to fork up a large sum when separated.
Relationship 1: I gave away a house.
Relationship 2: I gave away all the money in the bank.
Relationship 3: I gave away a large sum of money and paid rent for ex.
Relationship 4: I had to hand over a large sum of money.
Plus alimony for 4 children. 1st 20 years, 2nd 17 years and still paying for two.
Plus buying cars, holidays and equipment and what not.
The price you pay for heavy balls!
Relationship 1: I gave away a house.
Relationship 2: I gave away all the money in the bank.
Relationship 3: I gave away a large sum of money and paid rent for ex.
Relationship 4: I had to hand over a large sum of money.
Plus alimony for 4 children. 1st 20 years, 2nd 17 years and still paying for two.
Plus buying cars, holidays and equipment and what not.
The price you pay for heavy balls!
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Didi7: "Separate bank accounts with bills shared 50/50 with separate investments and charities"
I've had the unfortunate experience of sharing a joint account with my now ex-husband, as well as heard about other women who'd lost their savings at the hands of their respective spouses. It is not something that I wish on any one else (and maybe, not even my worst enemy).
Sorry to hear that Didi7. Both of my M relationships had joint bank accounts. No regrets doing that. We did however, maintain separate pension plans with investments to them proportional to our individual incomes.I've had the unfortunate experience of sharing a joint account with my now ex-husband, as well as heard about other women who'd lost their savings at the hands of their respective spouses. It is not something that I wish on any one else (and maybe, not even my worst enemy).
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galrads: Sorry to hear that Didi7. Both of my M relationships had joint bank accounts. No regrets doing that. We did however, maintain separate pension plans with investments to them proportional to our individual incomes.
Glad to know that. It's good to know that some people exercise good ethical behaviour concerning other people's finances.
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the traditional marriage...back in the 1950s...women would handle all the finances...pay all the bills with the mans money...buy the shopping etc...but in these modern times...i would advise a man...to keep hold of his money...don't have joint accounts with a woman and never let her get a credit card in his name
too many modern women are materialist and love money more than most things sadly
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galrads: will there be a relationship 5, 6 or 7 ... ?
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Jaavisst: I have already set aside funds for closing costs.
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Mixing them up jac?
About Lee I know little to nothing is he still a virgin?
About the swedish car wrecker at 193cm I believe his story.
And hope he will be less generous in the future economically.
Look like he only was with dig-golders.
About Lee I know little to nothing is he still a virgin?
About the swedish car wrecker at 193cm I believe his story.
And hope he will be less generous in the future economically.
Look like he only was with dig-golders.
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actually, his and her banks and accounts of choice.
one joint for the household costs which both put into and both signatures required. basic utilities split the costs. one each in each name. electric mine, gas bill hers. joint lease for renting. any other "splurges" related to the household discussed and split accordingly.
just remove or transfer one if things change. joint account can be split or walked away from. all other accounts are still personal and intact.
no. not married. most likely never will be again.
even a long term relationship and arrangement should reflect two.
one joint for the household costs which both put into and both signatures required. basic utilities split the costs. one each in each name. electric mine, gas bill hers. joint lease for renting. any other "splurges" related to the household discussed and split accordingly.
just remove or transfer one if things change. joint account can be split or walked away from. all other accounts are still personal and intact.
no. not married. most likely never will be again.
even a long term relationship and arrangement should reflect two.
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Grandsiozzie: Mixing them up jac?
About Lee I know little to nothing is he still a virgin?
About the swedish car wrecker at 193cm I believe his story.
And hope he will be less generous in the future economically.
Look like he only was with dig-golders.
For some reason she belives I am somebody else. I even have a sign on a picture in my profile but she never looked. And I got a new passport last week and I am know only 191 cm. Age and heavy lifting is taking it's toll.About Lee I know little to nothing is he still a virgin?
About the swedish car wrecker at 193cm I believe his story.
And hope he will be less generous in the future economically.
Look like he only was with dig-golders.
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Jaavisst: For some reason she belives I am somebody else. I even have a sign on a picture in my profile but she never looked. And I got a new passport last week and I am know only 191 cm. Age and heavy lifting is taking it's toll.
Hehe, maybe one day I'll mail you for some car parts as I renovate a little on the side. Right now a subaru Impreza Gt 1998. I weld metal :)
About girls. I still find opportuneties here at cs, it's better than møteplassen.
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Grandsiozzie: Hehe, maybe one day I'll mail you for some car parts as I renovate a little on the side.
Right now a subaru Impreza Gt 1998. I weld metal :)
About girls. I still find opportuneties here at cs, it's better than møteplassen.
I only have Legacy parts. This site doesn't advertise enough to bring in new blood.Right now a subaru Impreza Gt 1998. I weld metal :)
About girls. I still find opportuneties here at cs, it's better than møteplassen.
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Jaavisst: I only have Legacy parts. This site doesn't advertise enough to bring in new blood.
Sure but old blood works well for me.Especially in Asia there are chances. Talked to a nice one from Indonesia, 52y old.
Serious, not a gold digger etc.
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By giving up control to the logical one less easily swayed by the power of impulse purchasing.
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Having been married for 30 years, worked all my life from 15yrs old, brought up 3 wonderful children "I worked night shifts within the NHS and Social Services" There wasn't a problem re our finances, the Judge ruled in my favour as I was earning a lot more than my ex plus my kids were grown up at this time. So not all women are "gold diggers" maybe "some" men are ? 
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if I was to do it all over again I would have separate bank accounts & split absolutely everythiing down the middle..Including paying for ourselves on outings
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I don't count what I spend on the other one and didn't have anyone calculating what they spend on me.
We want to do it and we do it.
Plus I have never been in a relationship where one is less financially able than the other.
We want to do it and we do it.
Plus I have never been in a relationship where one is less financially able than the other.
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Ten_of_cupss: I don't count what I spend on the other one and didn't have anyone calculating what they spend on me.
We want to do it and we do it.
Plus I have never been in a relationship where one is less financially able than the other.
You are welcome!We want to do it and we do it.
Plus I have never been in a relationship where one is less financially able than the other.
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You're dirty.
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Let’s consider that both work, and the salaries are relatively close. Decide on which bills are joint, and which are specific to individual. Pick a payer for the joint bills. When due, non-payer contributes exactly half. So, let’s say the mortgage is $1100.00, the utilities come to $400.00, and grocery/household comes to $500.00. Non- payer contributes $1000.00 into payer’s account. All other bills that are individual are paid by the individual needing them. This kind of home economics seems to work, and, amazingly, each has MORE spending money at the end.
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Miss_Cellaneous: Having been married for 30 years, worked all my life from 15yrs old, brought up 3 wonderful children "I worked night shifts within the NHS and Social Services" There wasn't a problem re our finances, the Judge ruled in my favour as I was earning a lot more than my ex plus my kids were grown up at this time. So not all women are "gold diggers" maybe "some" men are ?
Very true. I worked with professional, college educated women all my life who out-earned their male partners; yea, often supporting some lazy couch potato.------ This poll is Archived ------
rohaan: Very true. I worked with professional, college educated women all my life who out-earned their male partners; yea, often supporting some lazy couch potato.
Do you have any of their phone numbers.. ------ This poll is Archived ------
i think many have lost quite a bit in marriage turned divorce. i think many of us have already been married at least once. maybe some would like to remarry at some point
joint account for the household and not full joint accounts was a saving factor.
didn't care about giving the houses up.
i can buy a house one last time when i find one i want with in reason. the only way any one will be getting that one is in a will after i'm dead and buried.
2 adult kids. they're gonna have to liquidate every thing then split it.
then there is the other thing i hope many take into consideration. if you are in a relationship, you did have a partner to be considered as well.
time is a factor here. each has to think and decide for their own circumstance. if you're in a long term relationship but forego marriage, will you take your significant other into account as well?
we talk and consider things as if we'll be around forever at times. that's simply not the case in the long run.
joint account for the household and not full joint accounts was a saving factor.
didn't care about giving the houses up.
i can buy a house one last time when i find one i want with in reason. the only way any one will be getting that one is in a will after i'm dead and buried.
2 adult kids. they're gonna have to liquidate every thing then split it.
then there is the other thing i hope many take into consideration. if you are in a relationship, you did have a partner to be considered as well.
time is a factor here. each has to think and decide for their own circumstance. if you're in a long term relationship but forego marriage, will you take your significant other into account as well?
we talk and consider things as if we'll be around forever at times. that's simply not the case in the long run.
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Grandsiozzie: Do you have any of their phone numbers..
No. those guys eventually had to learn to fend for themselves. Sorry….------ This poll is Archived ------
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Created: Apr 2022
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