The point about a relationship, to me, as opposed to just having a bit of fun together, is that you stand shoulder to shoulder because together you're stronger. If the person who has your back disappears when finances change, it wasn't a relationship worth having. (Small consolation at a bad time, but there you go)
Ekself, soon enough someone lush will pitch up. You'll think yay for Elegsabiff now I know not to say yes without thinking, but I also know not to say no without thinking. Armed with information and ready to have a wonderful love affair
Minerva, wise but - oh dear - what happens when you meet The One? Will you say sorry bud, you make me laugh and feel giddy with delight but I'm walking away now?
So didn't want to be scary on a Sunday morning, but I scared myself when I was doing some book research, and I'm sharing it around. Some things are good to share around
Cocheta, yay, and ignore your kids, they simply don't have a clue. My parents divorced when my mum was 50 and she started a hectic social life, it only occurred to me very recently that she must have been roaring around doing a lot more than demure dinner dates. I'm glad she never told me at the time, I would have curled up in embarrassed horror.
Perhaps I should stop telling my daughter what I get up to, hehehe. She does sound horrified sometimes ...
Molly, yup. You can stand in life holding out one hand and thoroughly fed up with whatever you get given, or you can seize the day with both hands and turn it into something thoroughly satisfying.
PG, you talking to me? I just had the birthday, the other day. Now fully recovered and will take your excellent advice under consideration even if it was aimed elsewhere
Eks, so your life did end at 55. You just didn't realize a new more exciting and fulfilling one was waiting!
I left SA in 2000 and moved to the UK so yeah, my old life ended too. Right now I can't get any idea of the future. Maybe another big change coming up?
Not down, really, I just finished answering a whole bunch of birthday emails from family members who are, for the most part, much older than me and thinking I hope I never get old enough to need a hip replacement
Made me wonder if the first hip replacement is the turning point or if it kicks in before that!
But yup, you are entirely right. At 9, it was the clocks ticking into 2000, not the birth of the millenium, that I realized I would never see. Not the first time I've been wrong, mind. Won't be the last.
Well, if CS was your only way of getting in touch, it can't have gone too far. Chalk him up to experience, and one day you may learn the reason. There's a woman on the polls frantic to reach her guy because she's used up her limit of 100 messages a day and thinks he may be feeling abandoned.
I decided a while back to go with the flow, not try to push things. If something seems right, I drift along.
In retrospect, every time I have tried to make things happen, they've gone wrong. When I let them happen, they may be briefly alarming, but always turned out for the best
Secondly you said you can't afford to go to him, does that mean he can't afford to come to you? Oh be careful!
Thirdly, that you ever want to keep the Irish dream going means you know in your heart of hearts that you are being rushed.
The grass is always greener on the other side. Sometimes at a distance you can't smell the manure. It's there. No idea how much but trust me - it is there.
That said - it IS fun, enjoy, but in case I forgot to mention, be careful!
I have a Halloween date but no idea yet whether my cape and / or trusty black hat will be on call. Hell, I'll wear the hat anyway. I am really in the mood for trick-or-treating, going a bit stir crazy after a month, a whole month, spending too much time writing and not enough time out experiencing life so I can write about it
You've slept with HOW many people?
DC - you're thinking yikes, on-line fooling around, how many have you infected???