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I miss Alec :sigh:

This is a girls only blog so far, any guys out there with ideas for ideal LDRs?

Sadly - and all ladies take heed - some guys specialize in them because that way they can run several relationships at once. Cyber-bigamists. Still, they tend to be the most charming ones, hehe, and charming is SUCH fun

Ooh. Maybe I could become a cyber bigamist!

I miss Alec :sigh:

Lucy, we still like each other. You don't spend that intense a year together without getting to know each other very well, we still text or send messages most days. But we now know each other too well!

I miss Alec :sigh:

My last one was several hours flight and we met up about every other month, eventually, it was getting bloody expensive. Still, the wheels only fell off when the holidays started getting longer, too. Way too domestic.

He did become a friend – all that chatting we did, it was almost inevitable – and even still occasionally pokes his nose into CS every now and then, although he gave me custody of the site when we parted. I usually get a message disapproving of the men I flirt with. he thinks my taste is abysmal. Well, er, yes. Pots and kettles and all that.

I miss Alec :sigh:

Lucy, the joys of living in a big country. 4 or 5 hours in Scotland and I would have crossed the country and be falling in the sea. I suppose there's always England.

Or those lovely accents across the Irish sea ...

I miss Alec :sigh:

Min, the time thing is important. Apart from the midnight calls, yikes!

I miss Alec :sigh:

Cake, it is absolutely that. Having your, well, cake and eating it too.

Needy is a problem. Takes a certain type of person. Hmm. More flaws in this than I had realized.

I miss Alec :sigh:

Short distance? Anything too accessible. Less than 2 hours, and he's either here too often or you're wondering why he isn't ...

I miss Alec :sigh:

I like being on holiday, really. There's a buzz to that in itself. Add to it the buzz of being with a man you are happily potty about and

I miss Alec :sigh:

Lucy, what distance does do is condense the whole experience. One intense phone call is worth two days of some guy lolling in front of the TV and looking up to ask you to get him a beer ...

I miss Alec :sigh:

Min, you are the QUEEN of the LDR! Men fall in love with you all round the world!

I miss Alec :sigh:

The trouble is, of course, that most men who do LDRs are dodgy in the extreme, because if they were any good they'd be besieged by women!

On the other hand, if you don't have to see him too often, you can overlook his fatal flaws.

I miss Alec :sigh:

Aw, Lucy, you're a romantic

I miss Alec :sigh:

Ideal fella should also be up for making his LDR GF the centre of his otherwise full and busy life.

That's important to me, anyway, that his life is full and busy, I’d far rather be visiting than being visited. I love Scotland, but it's awfy mountainous, not to mention damp, when visitors want to be shown the sights. Edinburgh's built on seven hills. Scenic as hell, sure, but tiring.

I miss Alec :sigh:

Ooh, ooh, important location details. Not TOO long-distant, a couple of hours away, unless and until the teleporter is invented.

Sunny would be nice, scenic or interesting is more important.

Same time-zone, by preference, for convenience (I enjoys my Skype, I does).

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C, not to be glib, perish the thought, but if you are finding it hard to be true to yourself, maybe you need to rethink yourself.

Are you really THAT cross with yourself, or are you being harsher than you would on - random example - a friend of yours who was doing the same things?

Step away, look at whatever situation it might be, imagine it is happening to someone you like very much, and give them advice?

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Haha mainly designed to irritate Europeans. The rest of the world - bar Australia - can poke and laugh.

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Hi Kitty, and yes, they are glib.

There was also one in my mailbox about a couple married for 65 years and they were asked the secret - the wife said they married in a time when if something broke, you fixed it, you didn't throw it away.

Not quite so glib, perhaps

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milk? mile.

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Angel, pop on this blindfold and walk a milk in a straight line, would you? You might be the exception that proves the rule!

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Snookums - we can always try harder but sometimes it only delays the inevitable

Hey I'm depressing myself. All these motivational things are not working!

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Cake, yup, it's a maze. Sheesh.

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Usha, yay, a happy customer.

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Minerva - that's why the with is crossed out.

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actually Angel you'll probably keep going to the right if you're righthanded anyway. Apparently when we are lost we walk in huge circles, not straight lines ...

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You're a hard lady to please. Go left.

RE: First Date Questions Men Really Want To Ask

Coch - applause!

RE: First Date Questions Men Really Want To Ask

Coch - right there in the shop window?

What did you say? I'm so nosy ...

RE: First Date Questions Men Really Want To Ask

Oh MAN I liked most of those guys! Okay not the drug one, he would have been bounced before the second course, but I love someone who says exactly what is on his mind. Then I can say exactly what is on mine, and we know exactly where we stand. Bliss.

I'm a bit of a failure as a woman, I think. I prefer straight talk to polite bs, even when bs is so much more socially acceptable.

RE: Does size matter

Sometimes, Sola, finding out you have something in common is a warm and fuzzy feeling, especially on a dating site. Oooh, you think.

And sometimes, like learning they eat the things you like to keep to yourself, is a disaster. Any flirtation we ever had is over!

RE: Does size matter

Back away from the M&Ms, nice and slow. That's right. Stand against the wall. Take it easy and no-one gets hurt.