Sola - I'm a loner. I LIKE being alone, so I rarely feel lonely. One can feel loneliest in a crowd, or with someone, and THAT's a terrible feeling.
For those who can't bear to be alone and are utterly miserable when they are, your option is their dream. May there always be someone, anyone, for them to be with.
Sola, contentment settles into comfortable boredom. Nothing else. Call it anything you like, call it love by all means, but it is safe harbour and nothing more. And nothing less, to be sure. One could settle for a lot less.
It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence. I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, 'Yes.'
It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
What's love got to do, got to do with it, what's love but a second-hand emotion ...
Oh THANKS. Now I've got Tina Turner stuck in my head for the day.
I married for the reasons you quoted and do think marriage is an entirely different kettle of fish. You look there for staying power and a deep and abiding affection. One can be wildly in love with insanely unsuitable people and never DREAM of marrying them!
A lot of people settle for contented companionship rather than be alone. That's fine until boredom sets in and fatal when temptation presents itself, but then most people are boring anyway, and temptation can be resisted. The older we get, the less time stretches ahead to get bored, and the fewer temptations there are. For those 60 and over, a contented life has a lot to offer.
For me - it hasn't got to be perfect, (oh good another song) but I did the contented thing once and it didn't take, I'd rather be alone than bored to tears. I do have to be stimulated and pleased by someone's company, to care very much. But who knows what I will think in a few years ...
Hi DC - I hope your mom pays you occasional bonuses in the form of shares, though! Cash is king, but company shares worked out nicely for me once before
You have your Sunday photo up, I see, very relaxed
Hi Johnny I think the stockmarket worldwide is in a state of flux, and they do say when the US sneezes, the rest of the world catches a cold! I wouldn't normally go near it but my investment is tiny and it could be the start of an absorbing interest
Yup, retiring for the night shortly, midnight here, but also whizzing away to Spain shortly for a week. Won't THAT be nice and peaceful? Unless I can get on line while there, of course, and get me a CS fix every now and then.
Sands, long time no see! Listen have I got a girl for you - whoops, no, I forgot, I don't match-make any more
TBH it does look too engrossing for me to ever risk serious money without serious knowledge but I am fascinated watching those fascinated by it. No wonder you aren't on here much, but we miss you ..
Sola and LAF - very good advice! I would never advise anyone to hand over their dosh and wait expectantly for rich rewards
This is a slightly different case - this is an old friend, when he stayed here recently he checked on line about 6 times a day and I was intrigued enough to ask lots of questions. He said (probably to shut me up because he wanted to concentrate) that one of his ventures was an investment group which loans cash to small businesses, relatively low risk but interesting, and that I should try it. I looked horrified at the thought so he (very nicely, I thought) said he would set up a separate partnership for us both, starting from scratch with a small monthly kick-in. We're equally investing around the price of a carton of cigarettes, those $$ signs in my eyes are wishful thinking. (But you never know ...)
I'm only explaining in such detail as your respective comments made me realize I could be implying that people with perhaps more money than sense should leap into financial bed with people with more sense than money and gamble their all. Noooooooooooooooooo!!!! Don't do it!!! My buddy takes it seriously but even he isn't hugely committed. He earns perhaps £1000 a year in dividends to top up his income, enjoys it very much, and was offering me a very small part in a giant worldwide fascination shared by millions so I could enjoy it too without having to break my teeth learning the hard way.
Red, that's a good idea. Become a celebrity and you could push your prices sky-high I believe Carly Simon is a professional knitter and sells her stuff for a small fortune ...
I know of one place in the Australian outback where the houses are nearly all below ground level because of the temperature extremes, there's just enough above ground for the doors to the outside.
When I was visiting a relative in South Australia the temperatures hit 51 degrees C and we retreated to the enormous cellar and pretty much lived there until things cooled down a bit. I can't even imagine what it must be like living in Dallol, Ethiopa
Nice luck on the timing, Red! My previous employers twisted our arms to buy shares, turned out the best luck ever when they were bought up and the share price went from around 2 quid to over 8. THEN I was sorry I hadn't bought every chance I could get.
Funny, no-one else has mentioned any other ways of making some extra dosh yet. No-one running a little workshop from their garage? Guess you'd be too busy to come on line if you did.
I saw an article last week in registering your home / garden / whatever with an agency for possible use as a film set - one example was the very neat, tidy but unremarkable suburban house where Harry Potter lived with the Dursleys, the owners of that house must have done quite nicely out of the films ...
Red - I've chatted to a few bloggers on line and they were pretty much as expected, it was fun. I've also chatted to a few hopefuls on line and YIKES hahaha but what a timesaving!
Tried one group chat with 2 bloggers and it was weird, I could see the person talking, then the image would change when the other person started to talk, no impression of all sitting together have a good blether. But yup, a skype party would be ... interesting ...
You can skype. It still isn't a true reflection of someone, because skype isn't an ideal medium, but it gives you a much better idea of how they look, how they speak. Hard to hide on skype.
My BFF in Canada has been in for years and has done pretty well. Her husband wanted to take over the portfolio but after a few hair-raising arguments he now has his own and they compete (on a friendly basis) one up, then the other. He likes risks, she likes steady!
Ob, oh dear, your grandparents would be disappointed in the company you keep.
Or you could get an attitude adjustment and lighten up a little, even at the expense of your immortal soul, especially as I suspect you don't believe in immortal souls.
Life will get better. Or worse. But if you think positive, it will seem better.
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RE: What’s love got to do with it?
Niayana - may you find someone and lose your bitterness