Mine is a direct translation of my real Spanish name "........... of the Snow(s)", the flower bit is because many people have called me flower in the past ... Also because like the flower in the snow, however "harsh" the "environment" and however "desolate" the "ground" becomes, I always manage to blossom back, "better" than before ... So that's me: Flower of the Snow
I am not going to be reeled in anymore by whatever comments are made by whomever... anyone wants to think I have no compassion, no patiente yada yada yada feel free ... I'm done with explaining and justifying ... chapter closed
Wish I knew ... still haven't heard back from the courts about my divorce ... when next stage is in place ... may be before Xmas - may be after ... I am just but waiting an chilling and doing a bit of school supply to keep the brain ticking and not to live on my savings coz they'll be better employed when I get to Spain ... Still waiting and chillin is not too strenuous!!
I might sound like I'm the one needing the chill pill, but believe me I know someone who needs it a lot more than me ... in spite of the cool and chilled projection ...
After all anyone can project any image they want including with words ...
But may be you are right I was a lot more chilled earlier Thanks for reminding me
YES Giovanni24 both parties did discuss those control/protection mechanism they had utilised in the past, but it turns out only one of tem HAD DEALT WITH THEM, the other person was still in full swing !!!!
When one party has done years of work on themselves and has NOT used those mechanisms within the relationship (or other) but the other person is still in the infancy of dealing with them, in fact they only started aknowledging them and not yet dealing with them till AFTER their relationship broke up ... NO LOVE has been shown to them because the only love that was shown was CONTROLE MECHANISM and that IS NOT LOVE
Both these people ARE YEARS APART from TRUELLY (as opposed to paying lip service to it) being on the same wave length or sharing the same values... in fact unless the person who has done a lot of work on themselves starts stagnating they will never ever be "at the same place" emotionally because that person will contimue to move on and the other will not catch up (emotionally)
Both these people need to fnd someone who IS at the same stage of emotional development as themselves in order to be happy
FEAR