Hey Jacko!!!! In response to your comment about those closest WILL hurt you the most ... my reply is they have the ability to do so but should may be not be turned into a generalisation ...
I think that what you suggest for Elley to do is what he is working on achieving ... It takes a lot of going over stuff that has hurt profoundly to be able to let go ... doing it in a public forum means sharing and "admitting/facing up" which helps in the process of letting go ...
As a boy, he was walking through the streets of his little village when he suddenly heard his name being called ... The voice (of his Nan) was coming from an empty house that had all windows and doors shut (unusual for Spain back then) so he had a look through the key hole ... Through the key hole, he saw his Nan laying in a coffin ...
He ran all the way home to find out that his Nan had just passed away calling his name as he was the only one of the family who was not present at her passing ...
My most amazing journeys have been spiritual during meditations and visualisations ... Also had a couple of awesome experiences related to and encompassing "pure" energy and "white blinding light" ...
And for those of you thinking OMG!! She's got a screw loose!!! NO I was NOT abducted by aliens!!!
Elley may I add that if ever one catches oneself thinking or saying "look what they've done to me after ALL I have done for them" then may be ones generosity was not as generous as one would like to think (of oneself) but was "loaded" from the start because of the expectations of "gratefulness" from the person who was "helped" ...
So may be one needs to only "help" and be generous when there are truly no expectations for one self ...
One more point ... Very often when we "offer gifts" (of any kind) to others we are so focused on receiving "gifts" back from that very same person that we miss the great gifts put on our path by the Universe or given to us by others they be known persons or strangers. In other words the gifts we offer are not always (in fact seldom) returned to us by those we have offered "gifts" to ... This is a beautiful thing to be aware of as it opens ones perceptions and enjoyment to/of the kindness of others and brings with it some peace of mind which in turn improves the quality of ones life ...
And by the way colour blind people do NOT have "an absolute truth" about colours ... so again we go back to perception ... What you see as red they see as green ...
Actually Antcus there are many "ugly" people who are trully beautiful AND many "beautiful" people who are trully ugly ...
So to use beauty/ugliness as an example of what is a truth or a lie is a perfect way of showing that everyone's truth is only relative to their own perceptions and experiences ... Which I know, is not at all what YOU meant to explain but by choosing that example without wanting to, you are in fact demonstrating that evrything is relative ... Especially opinions ...
Done that ... been there ... bought the t.shirt ... was wrong size ... sent it back ... repeated procedure a couple more times ... and decided to wear t.shirts no more!!! Just a cowboy hat!!!! Seems to have done the trick!!!
Got no more house, no more furniture, no more job ... But I have something far more important that money can't buy: my freedom, integrity and a future made of whatever I choose, where ever I chose, experiencing something beautiful .... which has nothing to do with bricks, mortar or bank accounts
You know when you're onto something beautiful when the time you spend together feels likes "that's how it's always been and it always will be" from the moment you meet. When you can be who you are and they can be who they are & like and appreciate one another because of it rather than in spite of it ...
Hey!!! You listen to your Mum!!! It's ok I'm pretty good at reading between the lines!!
I'm doing pretty cool!!! Leaving for UK mañana to go get some of my stuff ... We're gonna drop in on some of our friends and family along the way on our travels through Spain, France and UK ...
Well !!! Wobble!! Let me think!!! since I can't put you in there ... I'll have ... a concept put in there!!! Yeah!! I vote for ADVERSITY to be thrown into room 101!!! Why??? Because we as a human race are already far too clever at created our own hurdles so who needs the added challenge brought on by adversity!!! Thank you Wobble!!!
Jan I wasn't meaning that what you were saying was wrong ... I didn't mean that the external factors would keep us on a wrong path, I meant just say " or on a particular path" but I see the way I wrote it sounded like it though ...
And I know and do believe you are a good kind person
What I have experienced in the past, on several occasions is that external factors have made some of my decisions very difficult to carry on and yet I have persevered against all odds rather than give in ... to later discover the decision had not been a good one for me ... So external factors were trying to prevent me from making a mistake ...
Not so long ago I was about to make a big mistake with a life changing decision, but I listened to and paid attention to the external factors and had to wait anyway because everything was being blocked through MANY things I had no controle over (so many that it became unreal) ... it so went on just long enough to give me more time to find out a bit more about "my decision" ... The same day I decided to "change my path away from the life changing decision that I had made " I started getting communications about the "blocked things" and they started getting sorted ... It was quite an amazing experience as after I made new different plans it was the opposite and everything I planned, even unlikely things just fell into place as if by magic ...
I think there is something about London ... You either love it and simply HAVE to be there or hate it and can't wait to get away ... I lived in Kent for many years and I have friends who get withdrawls symptoms if they don't get their "dose" of London regularly ... Me I only like going every now and then for a show or a something similar ...
As for immigration ... my parents emmigrated to France when I was a baby and I lived there for about 19 years ... but I never "felt" French ... After that I went to UK to improve my English and stayed for 27 years but never "felt" British ... I have finally now returned to my country of birth and culture (southern Spain) and it feels just like home!!! Just as well I never changed my passport all these years!!!
Jan how do we know that some of "the external factors" are not actually "happening" to prevent us from continuing on a wrong path or equally to encourage us to stay on it?
My rebelliousness comes from family issues???? Constanza ... I am a 47 year old granmother who has longggggg got over being rebellious DUE to family issues!!!!
However, how I approach my personnal spiritual development has defenately sprung from not accepting the teachings and norrow mindedness and bigotry and judgemental way of treating people that christian people like you have tried to shove down my throat ...
And for your information I have more respect for God (Devine Spirit/ Devine Power) than you do, NOT through fear though simply through TRUST. I Trust in God's all powerful and protecting love for ALL humans ... even those who think they know it all ...
Now isn't there some flower arranging for you to do at your local church or something ...
RE: What`s the most ridiculously funny or macabre story you`ve heard about someone you know?
Hey Manolito ... didn't think it was macabre or funny as in hahahaha! Was thinking more in the sense of funny peculiar/different ...PS. Hope you're fully recovered from your bike crash and your parents have forgiven themselves for putting the phone down on you 3 times!!!