FlowerOfTheSnow Forum Posts (2,212)

RE: has anybody learnt anything interesting from any failed/romance/work/family/freinds relationships ?

Yes everything I know about life and people so far but all of them were "failed" ... anyway the word "failed" is very negative "change of path" is soooooooooooooo much more positive!!!

Will send you the details of my book when I have published it!!

RE: What country are you from

Born in Spain from Spanish parents

Raised in France from age 1

Went to UK aged 20 to improve my English as the Uni Lecturers seriously thought I was taking the piss trying to study for a degree with what they thought was appalling English basic language knowledge. Met husband number 1 and remained in UK working as a languages teacher and to bring up my kids near their dad although we divorced about 11 years later .

Now back in Spain starting a new life!!!

RE: are you faithful when in a relationship?

Yes

RE: what are YOU looking for? What's YOUR cake?

Beautiful story Mano!!! I can relate very well to the bit about the "burnt cakes" ... show compassion but DONT get involved!!! I had to learn the hard way!! But "grew" a lot in the process ...

RE: How much 'right' needs to have Mrs./Mr. Right?

For many years of our lives, you are probably correct on that one ... As one gets older one "learns" at least what doesn't work for us ...

the next best thing to knowing "what kind of person is perfect" is knowing "what kind of person DOESN'T suit us ... process of illimination!!! ?Could be why the divorce and broken relationships rate is so high!!! Everyone is working on the process of illimination!!

RE: help

I contribute monthly to an Organisation called Gorta ... very little in "real" terms I know but felt some sort of help was better than nothing ... I have now changed my life and am no longer working but that is still one of the very few standing orders felt running out of my account ...

You can find info about Gorta on: Gorta.org OR Gorta.ie

Gorta is the oldest of Ireland's Charities. Your charity donation will help third world countries and fight famine in Africa

RE: Good Luck to Scottishlass for that Cataract Operation tomorrow!!!!

thank you P_Seg!!

RE: Tillie....Maude.....Gertrude

3 birds on a bench are worth 2 strokes in a coat!!!

RE: How much 'right' needs to have Mrs./Mr. Right?

Someone's perfect Mr/Mrs Right could be someone else's imperfect Mr/Mrs Wrong ...

What makes someone Mr/Mrs right is how perfect they are "for us" ...

Something I have heard many times and have come to appreciate the true meaning of is "don't fall in love with someone's POTENTIAL" ... they are either RIGHT (values, education, character, interests, moral sense, emotional maturity, etc) right now ... or they're not!!!

RE: Good/Bad Hair Day?

Dyed!! Just because I'm a grandmother doesn't mean I want to look like one!!!

RE: Does the word 'COMMITTMENT' mean anything to you?

The TROUBLE with commitment within a relationship and even sometimes within friendships can be ...

that the emotionally immature or abusive person can use the "security" of the commitment of their partner to the relationship to perpetuate a series of "mind games" and emotionally abusive scenarios to feed their egos and their needs WITHOUT realising that part of their own commitment to that very same relationship should be to treat their partner/friend with the respect they deserve ...

Those very same immature or abusive persons will be the same ones who will CRY OUT and complain when the other one decides "enough is enough!!" and accuse them of "walking away" from their commitment .... The same can apply within a workplace or any other environment where humans have daily contact ...

Basically, I am saying that anyone walking away from a commitment that lacks balance and makes them ill or unhappy because all their efforts have been in vain should be "commended" not critisised ...

RE: Good Luck to Scottishlass for that Cataract Operation tomorrow!!!!

Good luck ScottishLass!!!

My Mum had same op on one of her eyes mid month and she could see better straight away than with the other eye ...
She having other eye done tomorrow too!!!

RE: whats ur favourite book

Not read that one will have to keep an eye out for it and buy it for my grandchildren!! (of course I'll have to "vet" it first make sure it's ok!!)

RE: What do you do to deal with your frustration/anger?

Great post!!

I also learned to work out if "the problem" causing the frustration can be solved NOW by ME ... if the answer is NO ... I let it ride ... there is no point in wasting energy over something I can do NOTHING about ...

Totally agree with you on the anger issue!! Although I have also learned "to give a piece of my mind" to the person who has caused to anger (if appropriate & in an appropriate way) rather than project it onto someone or something else ...

RE: whats ur favourite book

Some of my fav books:

The Wizard of Oz
The Trouble with gran, by Babette Cole
The Very Hungry Caterpillar, by Eric Carle
Le Petit Prince, by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Jonathan Livingstone Seagul, by Richard Back - The film is also absolutely fantastic
The Celestine Prophecy, by James Redfield
Mind to Mind, by Betty Shine
The Alchemist, by Paolo Coello
Women who run with wolves, by Clarissa Pinkola-Estés
Conversations with God, by Neale Donald
The Prophet, by Kalhil Gibran

RE: Are women really looking for a nice guy?

RE: Are women really looking for a nice guy?

So glad you pretended you were joking by adding a ROFL emoticon!!!

The energy and effort required for me to pretend to have any desire for you in order for you to pretend to be interested in me so that you can work your wanna be magic on me have already exhausted me just from writing this post!!! roll:

You'd be far better off spending your time sifting through the alleged multitudes of mails you are receiving ... :

RE: Are women really looking for a nice guy?

Drat!!! It landed in my glass of finest rosé!!!!! Now I gotta go get a re-fill!!!

RE: Are women really looking for a nice guy?

What do you mean NOT REALLY? Are you just pretending?

If no woman on CS can handle "your niceness" and you believe to be out of reach of any of them why are you "cheapening" yourself even further by being here?

I believe that some of what I wrote in one of my above posts probably describes some of your attitude from what I can remember of some of your posts!!!!

You sound like the typical "I am soooooooooooooo nice and I am doing you a favour by associating with you!!" Get real!!!

People whho feel the need to insult others in the process of building themselves up show a sign of emotional immaturity IMHO

RE: Are women really looking for a nice guy?

Don't agree ... might be WAY easier for a woman to get laid ... but that is not JUST what most women WANT or NEED...

RE: Reasons we should listen to that higher inner self...

Oh!! Yeah!!!!

RE: Eat to live or Live to eat?

Neither ... or both ... at different times ...

Sharing food with friends or loved ones is a wonderful side of "living" and enjoyable part of mediterranean life ...

but sometimes one just needs to eat quickly to be able to get on with the rest of living ...

RE: Reasons we should listen to that higher inner self...

And another one I also posted before but which is also about listening to "that higher voice"

LISTEN TO THE UNIVERSE

Listen to the Universe my friend
Listen well and pay attention
As you're searching for direction.
It will slam doors in your face
Stop you reaching that new place.
It knows what's in store for you
Will stop and stall, look out for you.

Listen to the Universe my friend
So when things just don't add up
And you're getting quite fed up
Stop! Listen! Look around!
Stay still and close to the ground.
It's showing you what might be wrong
Though you won't like its lonely song.

Listen to the Universe my friend
Trust it more than any human brains
Who say anything for their own gains.
Your pain they do not hold too dear
For all they want to know I fear
Is what they can get (for themselves) from you
Caring not a bit if they be hurting you.

Listen to the Universe my friend
So when someone whispers "I love you"
Think long and hard what's best for you.
Does he show you how much he cares?
Is he the kind of man who shares?
Or thinks himself a cut above the rest
Your wishes quashed as "he knows best".

Listen to the Universe my friend
When you are proud of who you are
Yet all he does is bark at ya.
When he tells you "I love you it's clear"
But not quite as you are now my dear.
You walk away head high and spirited
He whinges on! Look! I've been slighted!

Listen to the Universe my friend
When you're looking for direction
New people making a connection.
You will just know your path is right
Reach all your goals without a fight.
Now make new plans as is your will
With no more pushing water uphill.


So listen to the Universe my friend
For when THE one you finally meet
You shall be dancing on your feet,
No fireworks, head rush, nor flashing light
"It" feels so chilled, natural and "just right".
No false pretense, just being - warts an'all
The most amazing serene feeling of all.

Isabel Flower Of The Snow
January 15th 2008

RE: Reasons we should listen to that higher inner self...

A poem I wrote and posted before in the EU Forums about listening to ones gut instinct ...

Love in the "whirl" pool

Ripples of delight, tidal wave of warmth ...
Overwhelming feeling, Love - The Energy -
Safe and well protected from negativity.
Warning signed ignored, this love feels so intense
Would there be any danger? Not if love makes sense!

Ripples of delight, tidal wave of warmth ...
Blissfully unseeing as time went and flew by
When the first hole appeared no way would I get out.
I'm sure it's just a hiccup, not much to shout about.
Back, in the soothing cradle of love's soft lullaby.

Ruffled minds and feelings, mini waves of wrath ...
The undercurrents swirling, each of them more intense.
The love energy drowning, is there no more pretense?
The mind floading unhindered, with images of past
This story so familiar, when did it happen last?

Ruffled minds and feelings, tidal wave of warmth ...
What is this daunting feeling? - the one that grips your womb
When the first pull down under, leaves you gasping and numb
I still don't want to know "it", dive back in the love pool
No worries to be had, surely e-ve-ry-thing is so cool!

Ruffled minds and feelings, maxi waves of wrath ...
When next the whirlwind hits, me almost unawares,
I'd sorted out the ripples, learned how to dodge the waves.
So where are my sweet feelings, my joy, pride, serenity?
Glance over my shoulder spy them drifting off unsteady.

Dive back in muddy waters, gather up all my strength
When cutting through the debris, I haul myself ashore
To check and to discover, I'm much better than before.
Stronger yet from knowing, I'm clutching to my chest
Self-worth and self-respect, still working at their best.

I've given it some thought and pondered it at length ...
Love pools can be so magic but sometimes tragic too
Especially for people, who to themselves aren't true.
When we get that gut feeling, the one that's to protect
We owe it to ourselves, to show it some respect.

Isabel Flower of the Snow
10 Nov 2007

RE: Reasons we should listen to that higher inner self...

I find using the word freak quite upsetting when what you are describing is in fact a beautiful gift

RE: Did Rusty survive his struggle

If you were on a Harley with me on the back you certainly would NOT be dead!!!

RE: Happy Easter

Happy Easter Everyone!!

We're having ours without electric as a storm on thursday night blew "something up" that's stopping the whole thing from working!!!!!! AND as you all know it's EASTER WEEKEND!!!!

Now to give you an example of Spanish installation, at the moment, the bathroom and kitchen lightonly works if the stair light is on so easily solved ... we can still be clean and LOOK at the cooker, but we can't use it because it's electric !!!!

We have an extension lead from the neighbours into the kitchen for the fridge/freezer but only have a gas camping stove to rustle up culinary delights then eat it by candle light as the loung lights don't work!!!!!

This message being sent by candle powered modem!!!

We're gonna have to have another candle lit evening tonight playing strip scrabble!!! OOOOOPPPS that doesn't sound very spiritual!! I mean practising tantra!

All food parcels gratefully accepted by anyone kind enough to feel sorry for us!!!

RE: Did Rusty survive his struggle

Unless it's a Harley!!!!

RE: Bye for now

You have mail!!!

RE: Forum Etiquette ?

You mean "Can we discuss etiquette, please?"