Ive tried being harder, and more closed, but I find that closedness feeds off itself it you are not careful, and you end up not giving ANYTHING of yourself at all. I generally end up miserable and resentful then, and thats no way to live, IMO
Re "picking your battles", yeah, I know what you mean there. I feel very strongly about things that matter to me, and tend to dive in sometimes at the deep end. But I still feel that Id rather be like that than deny my feelings. Im prepared to take the risk.
It doesnt mean Im not tactful, because I think I am. Just passionate about most things in life, I guess..
Absolutely agree with you. I firmly believe that you have to be open and honest, and express your inner being in order to achieve a real bond with someone.
Agreed. I posted the question really because I tend to be a bit too open about my feelings sometimes, and it has left me open to be hurt in relationships, and also cause myself to be disliked and riduculed for my beliefs.
I sometimes wish I was a cold, calculating person; I probably would have got more material things out of my life being that way inclined, but I would never have felt comfortable in my own skin being that way..
They say some people wear their hearts on their sleeves. Do you openly show your emotions and feelings? Or do you tend to keep them private, and hidden from people around you?
Do you consider it a strength or a weakness to keep your feelings to yourself in relationship issues?
I’m the kind of person who does tend to be open with my emotions, not necessarily always for the best, perhaps. I show my feelings, whether its joy or anger, love or hate, like or dislike. It’s just the way I prefer to be; it makes me feel alive, but I’m uncertain as to whether it is always the wisest course of action! It does leave you open to be hurt in a relationship, but it’s a risk I personally would rather take than to deny myself and not express my feelings.
I feel it better to be true to myself and show my feelings and face the possibility of being hurt by loved ones, rather than deny myself the possibility of happiness. But that’s just me..
They say some people wear their hearts on their sleeves. Do you openly show your emotions and feelings? Or do you tend to keep them private, and hidden from people around you?
Do you consider it a strength or a weakness to keep your feelings to yourself in relationship issues?
I’m the kind of person who does tend to be open with my emotions, not necessarily always for the best, perhaps. I show my feelings, whether its joy or anger, love or hate, like or dislike. It’s just the way I prefer to be; it makes me feel alive, but I’m uncertain as to whether it is always the wisest course of action! It does leave you open to be hurt in a relationship, but it’s a risk I personally would rather take than to deny myself and not express my feelings.
I feel it better to be true to myself and show my feelings and face the possibility of being hurt by loved ones, rather than deny myself the possibility of happiness. But that’s just me..
Well, thats true enough, FM, but Im sure its better Merc's son knows the true economic picture here before travelling so far. Its up to them then, to make their informed decision. No point in looking at it through rose (or Oirish green) tinted glasses...
Seriously, there's a book by Alan Carr - The Easy Way to Stop Smoking..
I know it sounds like an american con book, but I know people who have smoked for years and have read this, and have given up completely..Check it out..Its supposed to be brilliant
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Being Open and Honest..
But you are still open to being close to someone again?