I don't get much mail either, other than friends on the forum. I just ordered a new digital camera so I'll take new shots soon. I think I'll spice up my photo, show my figure and maybe that will help. I've noticed that guys tend to flirt more with a woman who has a figure revealing picture. Me, I get treated like Betty Crocker!!! LOL
I live out in the boonies where most of the population is over 40, married or computerless. I read another thread where the fellow complained that there were few women in his part of the country on the site. What does a person have to do? Move to a more populated urban area?
Sometimes that kind of ritual is very satifying. Back when I was younger, my very first boyfriend ditched me by disappearing into the Navy. I took his letters, mementos, etc, put them in a pile outdoors and burned them. Has anyone else done this kind of thing?
Baggage - don't talk about your past relationships, intimate details of your life, what your therapist says, your hopes and fears, your grocery list of what you want in a partner. Keep it light, simple, mysterious and the person won't be overwhelmed and may even be curious to know more about you.
Thre's always hope of meeting s new, fun person. That's what is so great about modern communication. Even if dating isn't possible, sites like this can bring you new friends!
I once met a man - he was tall, dark, piercing blue eyes - what a hunk!!!!! But he could not read, smoked cigars in the bathtub and wanted to build a house and live in the capped foundation. he was great to look at....BUT!
The most unique experience I had is raising my youngest son. He was born premauturely, weighing only 1 pound 11 ounces. He's severely handicapped. I had never dealt with any handicapped people before and usually would not interact with them when I encountered them. Now I live life from the other side and I see how people look at the handicapped, how they stare, avoid and give help only to make themselves like they are doing someone a favor. It's been an amazing education. Keep doing those random acts of kindness, BeN21, they are what it's all about...
This statement I think assumes the other person wants to go, and the best you can do for YOURSELF is to say bye bye and not wait around for them to return.
I guess it depends what you call "Luck". I have met many nice people through emails on this site and others. Usually it goes no further than that. On the forum, I chat with a group, but it's only chatting.
I had one local guy who seemed interested, but after a month of chatting, he wanted me to drop in at his place and was not available when I suggested we meet at a public place.
I guess what slows all this down is distance - does the person live near enough or have the means to visit you? - and - does he have the incentive to step up and say "let's meet in person in a public place"?
And finally, it's luck and fishing - you just have to keep casting your line out there and hope that you get a bite!
Yep, remember when, at last call, guys would hang around the ladies room door and hit on any women who passed by? Looks or personality was not a factor....
I think we all WANT to be smart, but when that adrenalin, testosterone, estrogen kicks in and the guy or girl is just a peach, all bets are usually off :)
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RE: Do women get full mail boxes here? Especially if nice photo?
Now maybe we should all get webcams - then we could show everyone our "orbs" - I mean eyes!