Ron I can identify with your scenario....i never had an affair, but i was very very lonely...for the companionship of my husband...mind you when he was around, he tormented me...but I guess at the time any attention from him was better than none...
When i said i had been a "Lady of Leisure"..it was not what i had chosen to do...it was what was required of me as his wife at the time...I learned to be a Lady of Leisure because i had no choice...I had not been allowed to do anything else...
I have been both...enjoyed both lifestyles...but know which one I would prefer...
How about you?...Which of these lifestyles would you like to have?... and i don't mean which one are you living right now...but which one do you think you'd like to have if you had that option?
You will always be able to come up with a reason why NOT to do it...it is much harder to find a reason why you SHOULD do it...that is why anything earned this way...is worth more than its weight in gold...
I had wondered if i had stepped over the line earlier...but after reading everyone's replies today....i'm glad i did it...and you know what...it gives me hope for tomorrow...
I didn't get my nickname because i was necessarily "bad" i got it because i always believed life is an adventure and everything has a humorous side...when my mum attached Wikked to my name...she was usually laughing...
It was as Alex pointed out...it was her "strength" that made me do what i did...
All i could think of is what she must have been feeling as he was led away...there were no other family present there....and perhaps the shame one feels when associated with someone that has done wrong...I just didn't want her to feel alone...
You know i said that today...It has been a long time since i have been in a government building...and now i remember why i left that particular job so many years ago....it is a building full of the most uncaring people...i don't know if its necessary to be so detached...but i do remember making that comment in there...especially about the lawyers...not one of them seemed to be really "concerned" for their clients...
I did not think to feel "stupid" about my actions until my family brought it up...and then i questioned if i should have intruded on this woman's privacy...
But you have given me an answer now...I supported her STRENGTH...her husband did not leave her with the option to be "weak" now....
Today I went to court to attend my personal business...I sat in the courtroom as the charges were read to another person in there...and it was a long list...involving DUI..apparently not his first, the Judge was very firm in his sentencing and advice...i watched as they handcuffed him and removed him from the courtroom to begin serving his sentence....
I also saw when his wife got up and left the courtroom...and i got up and walked out after her...she was sitting on a chair shaking like a leaf and crying....I went and sat down beside her and hugged her...I asked if there was anything i could get for her...she thanked me hugged me back and smiled...I got up and went back into the courtroom....
When my family asked me why i did that...I had no answer...I don't know why I did it...but i do know it felt right to do it...
My question is...how do you determine if your actions are right or wrong...or whether it should be done or not...
J your life is just starting out...this is the time to take chances and risks...you don't have anything to lose...and lots to gain...do it...if you don't accomplish what you want...it won't be for lack of trying...and there is always a measure of satisfaction in that alone...
When your life seems overwhelming...and nothing seems to go right...and for every step you make forward...you seem to move back 10...what do you do to escape your "reality"...
Some days i want to get into my car and just keep driving...maybe even off the edge of the earth...lol... Other days reading can absorb me into "their" world...somedays i just want a hole to open up so i can drop into it...
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