Thank you for a most honest reply...I don't think anyone was paying attention to the part about "what if you were attracted to"...it is easy to sit in judgement when YOUR emotions are not in play...but what if they were?
Of course looks play a part...no matter how much people try to deny it...no one walks up to someone they're interested in with a bag over their head hoping that person will be attracted to their personaility first...just don't know why it should be pushed on dating sites...
But I agree the one thing that i do like about "net" dating is the opportunity to actually have a "conversation" (of sorts) with a person before the physical aspect of it clouds my judgement!!
Well I wouldn't walk up to a complete stranger on the street and start telling them about myself...so i'm not sure why that is expected of us here on a dating site...
I feel its harder for women to make that decision Rich...because they feel "stuck"...you know financially...the children...all those things play a part in whether or not they stay or go...unfortunate but true..
I think its as Rich said...sometimes their "circumstances" dictate how they will react...no one wants to be cheated on..but they would rather accept that than to choose the "other option"...
I myself applied it to "others"...because i felt i was a positive and important part of thier life...but they wouldn't have known that until i walked away....
You know i did a search and found lots of thread asking women what they want...but none asking men?..and by the way do men really know what they want? Do they realize that some speak out of both sides of their mouths...that they push with one hand and pull with the other? They meet up with women they find interesting and compatible, but then use all the qualities that attracted them at the start as reasons why things "just won't work"...
So my question is do you men out there REALLY know what you want...and i don't mean the things you've brainwashed yourself into thinking you want...but what YOU really want?...and if you don't know..why can't you just say so?
If someone emails or flowers you...and they have no picture in their profile (and i don't mean pic pending) do you respond to them or not?
If you are contacted by someone for the first time with a lewd or suggestive message...do you respond..either way...to them?
I know there are some who will say that due to the "field of work" they are unable to post a pic (do you buy that?...is there companies out there that prohibit their single empolyees from joining a dating site???) but if you send your email they will send a pic for you...do you give out your email that casually?
I am feeling terrible over all the emails i am not replying to...but i just want to say again...I do not respond to profiles in which i cannot see a "real" pic...
I would not walk up to a stranger on the street and start telling them all my personal business...and i'm not about to do that on a dating site...
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RE: Newbee
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