I got a rare mail and went to reply as I have become far more well mannered in my encroaching middle age and answer most mails these days. Anyhow, he had a few profile pics up and each one said "back in the day" "I have more grey now" etc - seems funny to go to such effort and not put up a "this is me" photo. Not totally off putting as he had a well written profile but odd.
I tried one in the Burren with the kids but they were a little bit too young and had blood, snot and tears before we ever got close to finding a cache. Maybe when the weather gets a bit warmer we'll try an easy one. Think it's a great idea though.
I spaketh of that bane of failing to control ones foot coverings at all times with vigilant eye. It can create the rise of nations and so make it's demise (think Don Johnson - proof of what can happen)
No one has it in for you but if you take a victim's mentality that's all you'll be. If you believe you are undateable - it wont change. Threads here change and evolve just as conversations in real life do - today I wanted to talk about making a new line of baby goth stuff with my mum and I end up measuring for new blinds and changing a toilet seat ... sometimes that's what happens. Go with the flow, don't fight it (unless of course you happen to be swimmimg off the coast of Clare and the tide has turned)
Just don't end up signing up to any family tree subscription sites - they'll keep appearing on searches but you really only need them once you have exhausted all you can do yourself. Definitely ask in the extended family as there's usually somebody who has had a go at digging around before you. Happy hunting
If you can find their death certificate (my dad's is online now - he died 20 years ago) then you'll get the D.O.B and full name, which you can use to try and find a birth cert - easier if you have a parish to search I think. The birth certificate will detail their parents and you can check the same parish registers for anyone with same surname born in the same era & check if they were siblings - then the same for marriages.
best place to start is with your own family - put down all you know or think you do and then trawl around the long lost cousins and great aunts, look at old family photos. There are loads of paid genealogy websites but you'd probably be able to find out loads without them initially.
If you have names and an idea of birth dates you can start to find out quite easily but it is time consuming - especially if you have to find originals of parish records but I'd say it would be great to put the puzzle together.
Oh remember reading about Ellis and all his little rituals and then the - was it Pointpierres after that or before? Close call for your sister there so - even more perilous than internet dating....
My illegitimate uncle's wife traced the debauchery of his (our shared) lineage back to the 16th century but on my dad's side my nan wouldn't even tell us who her grandmother was. She thought genealogy in schools was a big conspiracy theory to uncover Germanic ancestry by Margaret Thatcher ... one of many conspiracy theories ...
Hang in there. It will get easier. I used a hypnosis cd at night - I really think it helped & it only cost ten euro or something like that. Put all the money you would have spent on cigs in a jar or I used to go to credit union as soon as I got paid & put the week's cig money in there. It soon added up and made it seem much more worth it.
I put in as close a match - I think the ones I excluded were the larger framed descriptions as you did. Point is, I was suprised at how slim the pickings were.
I'd have thought you were right about there being loads more men on here BUT I put in your parameters as a woman seeking a man - the only thing I did differently was "smokes - never" and for Dublin area as well. Got a measly 28 results that had been online within the last 2 weeks! So has the place had its day?
That was my philosophy too - there was a guy from Tullamore and I just refused to even consider meeting, even though we got on well - I just couldn't see how it could ever work. Ended up with a guy from Kildare and pass the Tullamore turn off about half way. Things definitely change when it's heart ruling head and not the other way around.
Two couples I know that have been together longer than most people have more than a 15 year age gap - one is younger woman/older man the other older woman/younger man. They have so much in common though, that you don't even notice it. My only concern would be that it is more likely that the younger person may end up in the role of carer for the other partner whilst they are still relatively young.
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RE: dated photos/profiles
I got a rare mail and went to reply as I have become far more well mannered in my encroaching middle age and answer most mails these days. Anyhow, he had a few profile pics up and each one said "back in the day" "I have more grey now" etc - seems funny to go to such effort and not put up a "this is me" photo. Not totally off putting as he had a well written profile but odd.