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Raye07

New beginings

Well I must say the first 7 days on this site have been interesting to say the least.

I have made it here which is further than I expected to last. Usually I will start something with good intentions and then when it doesn't seem to be helping or fill the void that I am desperately trying to, I just give up and think it was worth it anyway. So after 7 days of being on here and I'm still continuing to go ahead with why I signed up in the first place it must mean that I am getting something I need or am just more determined than other times in my past.

This is where the self-improvement comes in to play. I want to be the person that can be depended on but also the one that can depend on someone else. My kids are great but they also don't need to be the crutch I lean on either.

I have had a life filled with disappointments. Some obviously very good as I have 4 beautiful young adults, but I have never had that kind of connection that I see in all the happy couples and families that surround me. I am trying to change my way of thinking from detrimental and self destructive to positive and fulfilling. As one of my friends tells me all the time. When you get a complement accept it for what it is. Don't brush it off and say "ya ok" because it is meant to make you feel better and the truth. Compliments have always been hard for me to accept just because I have never felt worthy of them. When your daily life is built around being yelled at, put down and made to feel unimportant you tend to start believing it.

This is where I am at today trying to put together the pieces of my life that have been stomped on for many years and am unbelievably going to the vast unknown world of the internet to help me do that. It matters not if anyone wishes to comment or converse, (although it would be great) but the fact that I am putting myself out there to see if this will help. We all have to start somewhere and for me this is it.

Thanks for reading
Raye
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Vierkaesehochonline today!

Combatability, verses combat, within a relationship.

Now, there's the rub.
As we age, gracefully, trying to enjoy every moment, it seems we have less time for some things, and more for others. Sure, not at all profound thought, but, as with common sense, it's seemingly not very common, as we all rush about in this modern life.
We each have a list of that which we have learned auger best for forming a healthy and healthful relationship. For me, trying to remain patiently open to new ideas, while sometimes a challenge, is important. Several other works in progress at self improvement also come to mind. These seem to vary with most of us in finer details, but I bet there is much overlap on the main points.
Things to avoid, and to snuggle up to. Certainly trying to keep others from getting free rent in our heads.
We are, after all, mostly responsible for our own happiness.
Philipsen

Addressing one of my biggest fears.

Happy New Year!

For the past few years, pretty much ever since I got out of the navy, I have had a relatively big fear of holding a gun in my hands. I know, this sounds silly, with me expressing a desire to join the army and everything. But one of my biggest fears, is actually guns. It's weird, because I have no issue with violent shooter video games. I think it's because I know that video games aren't real. The gun I am holding isn't a real gun, and the people that I shoot aren't real people. The same thing with movies. I know that the guns shot in movies are dummy guns, shooting blanks. Whenever someone dies, from being shot, in a movie, it's fake. The person is alright at the end of the take.

In order to combat that fear, I have begun watching YouTube channels, with guns as the main focus. Demolition Ranch is one of them. That channel practices safe gun handling, as well as educating people on the guns used. I used to watch FPS Russia as well, since that channel was meant to entertain about gun safety, as well as demonstrating just how destructive a gun really is. I found another gun channel, called Hickok45, which is being described, as a "drama-free, "family-friendly" shooting channel". I have yet to dig into the videos, but the titles and thumbnails look interesting.

Now, I want to attend a gun range at some point in my life. It would then seem fitting, that I visit one when I am in New York. I just need to figure out which one to visit, since there are a LOT of ranges to pick from. It has to be one that gives clear and good instructions, regarding safety, posture, education about the guns and generally makes me comfortable with shooting a gun.

This is where you come in: Do you know of any gun range in the Albany/Troy area, that practices any of the things I have listed? I would love to go to an outdoor range, if possible. Not a requirement, though :)

Please keep the comments to the topic. I will delete any comments that aren't relevant to the subject
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always_besides

{On Loving___ Living & Non-Living Things.}

Friends,
Love is a magic word in the English language. It not only brings happiness, but on a more subtler level, it is a harbiger of comfort and success. The world is in total mess and turmoil. Its a materialistic world of make believe, films, fake sadhus, psyseudo happines and true lies. You bring happines to a person by faking your emotions in such a style that he starts believeing you instantly.This may take time for you to learn; it is by trail and error. You tug at the long rope of {politics} to get there. And all this program is not easy; your fake charm should look real and impresve to your friend, relative, boss or any of your associates. This type of life is not real.

One of the most awesome concept of spirituality is to love anything ___ living or non living unconditionally. Living means human beings, birds, plants, animals; whilst non-living things may mean anything.___ your shoes, your sleeping bed, your cliothes, your items in your house. To-day's times are difficult times for friendships and associations. At the outset, relationships can fly out of the window over the cuckoos head and not to be heard of again. Associations are coming at a premium and friendship is dead and buried, never to surface again. And what is left now? Everything is destroyed, nothing is saved, but you can start the salvage operations. You pick up piece by piece, join together and see what picture you can paint.

On the other hand, there is an excellent {other} way to find contentment, joy, bliss, which are higher virtues than the so called happiness. You are in possession of one of the greatest word in the world called {love}. You can start loving non-living things. Have you thought of loving your pillow on which you put your beautiful head to sleep? Wish it long life to serve you bettter with a great thank you. what about your shoes? Say thank you every time you slip your feet into them. Shoes are fantastic accessories for a man or a woman for grooming and looking like a King or a Queen on wearing them. Those deprived to have them look poor, desolate and lost in life. And the tables and chairs on which you enjoy a hearty breakfast, a quick fix lunch or a lazy dinner with your family and friends? Have a soft corner for this furniture that cannot talk, but perennially inviting you to come and sit and use them to your heart's comfort. You can always talk to them and thank these non-living pieces of art and you will definitely hear a reply in the corner of your heart.

One of the most important non-living things is the {bed} on which you lay down your tired body after a day's struggle at the work place. How do you thank it? At night, bsfore you go to sleep, be aware of it by thinking of it as your dear friend. Keep your bed clean by changing the bed sheets properly from time to time. Can you sleep without a clean bed containing mattress, bed sheet, pillow with a possible roll over long {Dhool} in which you dig your ever tired legs for comfort? No way! Wish good night to this friend before sleep; you wil really feel good. How many times have you flashed your eyes on your time clock, hung in the prominant place in your room? Many times, but you have never thought of the services it has given you, minute by minute, day by day, year by year by ticking endlesly in its body? Have a humble heart to say to it ___ {a big thank you!}

You will never feel lonely, if you start loving non-living things. Moreoever, to-day's relationships is available at a price; non-living things never set a condition and they are 100% free; save, of course you pay a one time small amount to buy these from the market. Actually, you are not buying, you are forging a life long friendship with this lifeless object, but metamorphically a live concept.
Manohar Bhatia.
Tiger_Moth

Freedom of speech

How does one define this "freedom of speech"

'Freedom of speech is the right to seek, receive and impart information and ideas of all kinds, by any means. Does this then give others the right to cause insult and hurt to others with our free speech.

As decent human beings we never have to accept what others say without question and are entitled to cast an opinion ,yet many times we are castigated for daring to challenge someone .There is much controversy and hate in our World today whether it be political ,religious,colour,creed or even jealousy, which sadly continues to divide and separate us from others.

You don’t have to accept or even approve of all of the other person’s attitudes or behaviours .The most important skill in communication is the ability to listen to others. Rather than doing all the talking, take the time to stop and hear what others have to say. Refrain from interrupting or talking over other people. Sadly we forget the "rules of engagement" for want of better words as can be seen frequently on the Forums and blogs.

Is conversation good for the soul or can it be soul destroying?
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Akeldama40

The garden of life

One night I had a dream I was walking upon a valley and off in the distance there was a garden.
As I came near to it I saw its bounty of many varieties of fruit and vegetables ripe for the picking.

Next to the veggie garden was a thicket of weeds and thistles and briars and next to that a patch of flowers of all kinds of beauty.

As I pondered why were they divided by weeds and thistles I could not understand why anyone would grow such an array.

Then a voice from the clouds said unto me "oh foolish man what do you not understand? Is it not clear what you see?"
I cried out to the voice "No I honestly do not know why anyone would let weeds grow between such a lovely garden."

The voice in the cloud said, " Son of man open your mind and eyes. You see the bounty of veggies and they look ripe for the picking for they are the food of thought and dreams of many in the garden of life but, as full and ripe they may seem, there is barrier of weeds and thistles that must be cleaned out to bridge the gap to reach the flowers of beauty.
Yet, there is no one willing to tend to the weeding
As the hope of reaching to the flowers of beauty and the veggies which feed those who hunger for knowledge and understanding there is much work to be done to clear out all the negativity in the hearts of the laborers.
As I the lord above the clouds can provide all the light and water to nourish the ground, I give life to everyone who seeks it.
Hence, all I ask is to clear out that which is blocking the veggies and flowers so they can bridge one another and share the bounty of love and life they so desperately need.
In time with proper nurturing, you will reap the bounty and benefits of the garden of life before you.
Seek it's truth and do not be discouraged for the garden will feed you what you need.

How...

to clone a sheep from a wolf? look no farther, they're all here

waiting to be skinned by a sharp knife. crazy pointing there

and some more fromelephant thereconfused anyway
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always_besides

{A Commitment called Marriage}

Random Thoughts........"Does Marriage Help You To Grow As A Person?"

Answer:----- The answer is 'yes' and 'no'
Surveying the contemporary marriage scenerio, I can say with authority that by and large, marriage does not help a person to grow as an individual. At least, this is true in an Indian Household. There may be some stray examples here and there of a succesful marriage, where the couple display their talents in a free society, but on the whole, marriages in India have failed to bring happiness and help the individual's growth as a person.

Three important issues are to be in focus here.......MONEY, NATURE & RELATIONSHIP
Money is only artificial happiness, but it seems to work in a marriage. Money is solving about 70% of the problems between the couple. A female donkey is known as a mare; and we have heard the popular quote..."Money Makes The Mare Go Round" Most couples argue, disagree and fight, because of lack of money. House bills being not paid on time, children's school bills being not paid on time,
entertainment not given a top priority are some of the top 'hot' spots where excessive heat gets generated. These get solved instantly by the power of money.
But the couple need no worry. Next in line is NATURE. If you are having a sound head on your shoulders, you have nothing to fear. You can be happy, if you are having a beautiful mind. What is a beautiful mind? Well, a beautiful mind is a mind of abundance, not of money but of thoughts, attitude and a general nature of well being. Such a mind is possible by training yourself to think in a particular way. What's that?

Well, you have to look at the drama in this way. You very well know that you are not a beggar. You might be in any small, medium or large business, or you might be in service earning sufficiently to maintain yourself and your family. Start thinking how much you are 'having' instead of how much you 'do not have'. Make a list with 2 columns. After completing the list, you will mostly observe that a column containing 'have' list is more than the 'have not' list. Suddenly your mind will have refreshing feeling of abundance. If you go on thinking in this way, you will develop an attitude and a nature which seems to fill up the cracks in the troubled marriage. And then, slowly and slowly, you will rub off this nature amongst your family members. Now, you have won half the battle; the other half will be won in due course of time.

Lastly, the Relationship factor is only a by product of Money & Nature. The biggest factor working in a loving relationship is a term callled 'Accepting & Agreeing' This is very difficult as well as very easy. Imagine 2 persons are discussing a simple topic as........."What Looks Good On A Lady: Maxi or Sari.There is needless discusion and nobody wins an argument.
If you consider this type of discussion, it has no ending. But the couple will end upi in a fight of no consequence. The solution lies wherein one of the couple willingly and geniunely with love accepts the viewpoint and says 'Yes' And this is how the relationships develops between the couple. You can do such magic by destroying your ego and accept the other's point of view. If you go on accepting the other's point of view, a time will come when your opposite partner will also start accepting even your 'silly' points. This is the fast track to good relationship. This will also result in each person growing in creativity as an individual. You will be astonished at the amount of 'creative stock' that will be unleashed between the couple. The couple will begin to feel more confident, more loving and a whole lot of understanding will suddenly dawn on the couple. This will bring nothing but more and more happiness in the lives of the couple.
So, it is possible to grow as an individual in a tricky relationship called "MARRIAGe"
Manohar Bhatia.
missChelli

Not on Quarantine

Hello everyone. Long time no see. Hope you all are doing ok in this world craziness. Please stay healthy and safe all.

Anyway, in Riyadh still keeping the working hours. No matter how I wish to stay home to get some rest, I cannot. I was supposed to go home, but lockdown kept me here, so after my 2-year contract, I'm here and can't move. I am not complaining. Im am very grateful that I still have a job and get paid at the end of the month. However, I'm so freakin tired! I wish to have even just 2 weeks of rest straight.. sigh

But I'm ok. Thank God for keeping me healthy and safe althroughout this debacle so far.

Just ranting for a bit guys. Thanks for understanding.

How are you all? wave wave wave
teddybear
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