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Success Vs. Failure.
Success can be defined as the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. In simple words, one reaching their destination.
Accordingly, failure can be defined as the lack of accomplishment of a set aim or purpose or one not reaching their or set destination.
During this process, I found that keeping any set goals or purposes hidden or a secret does help not only reaching a destination faster but, avoiding sabotage from others who failed to reach their own destination, set purpose or aim.
In the end of the day, everyone has their own opinion or the so-called opinion.
Another hearing many differing opinions may lead to confusion.
The workings of the mind do come with intention and purpose in the expression of an opinion.
Not all express an opinion with good intentions or purpose.
It is up to another to discriminate between beneficial and not beneficial, healthy or unhealthy as in the discrimination between right or wrong.
Success as in the case of failure is a matter of choice and how it is defined by one may not be defined by another.
Failure for me is giving up, success is moving forward, marching towards a set aim or purpose, even it is just a small step.
Therefore, progress.
Progress can never be made through giving up marching towards a set aim or purpose, a destination.
Moving forward that is what success really is for me.
Progress and growth.
If there was growth from an experience, no matter how hard or difficult, unfortunate or negative then, there was never any failure.
Failure is the lack of progress and growth.
If another moved forward, even if this was a tiny little step then in reality, this was not failure but, success and a success.
Not reaching a destination but, marching towards a set aim or purpose or destination.
How do you define failure and success?.
Is this dependent on the external or internal?.
Does it regard money, a title or a position?.
Happy Wednesday, April the 11th.
"A gentle reminder"
Psychological abuse, often called emotional abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another person to a behaviour that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder...
It is often associated with situations of power imbalance in abusive relationships, and may include bullying, gaslighting, and abuse in the workplace.It also may be perpetrated by persons conducting torture, other violence, acute or prolonged human rights abuse, particularly without legal redress such as detention without trial, false accusations, false convictions, and extreme defamation such as where perpetrated by state and media.
General definition
Clinicians and researchers have offered different definitions of psychological abuse.....According to current research the terms "psychological abuse" and "emotional abuse" can be used interchangeably, unless associated with psychological violence
More specifically, "emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased. This abuse occurs when someone says words or does actions used to try and control the other person, to keep the other afraid and instill fear that, or kept apart from others or try to break someone’s self-esteem of themselves.
Emotional abuse can take several forms. Three general patterns of abusive behavior include aggressing, denying, and minimizing"; "Withholding is another form of denying. Withholding includes refusing to listen, refusing to communicate, and emotionally withdrawing as punishment."..
Even though there is no established definition for emotional abuse, emotional abuse can possess a definition beyond verbal and psychological abuse.
Blaming, shaming, and name calling are a few verbally abusive behaviors which can affect a victim emotionally. The victim's self-worth and emotional well-being are altered and even diminished by the verbal abuse, resulting in an emotionally-abused victim.
The victim may experience severe psychological effects. This would involve the tactics of brainwashing, which can fall under psychological abuse as well, but emotional abuse consists of the manipulation of the victim's emotions. The victim may feel their emotions are being affected by the abuser to such an extent that the victim may no longer recognize their own feelings regarding the issues the abuser is trying to control. The result is the victim's self-concept and independence are systematically taken away.
The U.S. Department of Justice defines emotionally abusive traits as including causing fear by: intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends, destruction of pets and property, forcing isolation from family, friends, or school or work. More subtle emotionally abusive behaviors include insults, putdowns, arbitrary and unpredictable behavior, and gaslighting (e.g. the denial that previous abusive incidents occurred). Modern technology has led to new forms of abuse, by text messaging and online cyber-bullying....
to be continued...
It is often associated with situations of power imbalance in abusive relationships, and may include bullying, gaslighting, and abuse in the workplace.It also may be perpetrated by persons conducting torture, other violence, acute or prolonged human rights abuse, particularly without legal redress such as detention without trial, false accusations, false convictions, and extreme defamation such as where perpetrated by state and media.
General definition
Clinicians and researchers have offered different definitions of psychological abuse.....According to current research the terms "psychological abuse" and "emotional abuse" can be used interchangeably, unless associated with psychological violence
More specifically, "emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased. This abuse occurs when someone says words or does actions used to try and control the other person, to keep the other afraid and instill fear that, or kept apart from others or try to break someone’s self-esteem of themselves.
Emotional abuse can take several forms. Three general patterns of abusive behavior include aggressing, denying, and minimizing"; "Withholding is another form of denying. Withholding includes refusing to listen, refusing to communicate, and emotionally withdrawing as punishment."..
Even though there is no established definition for emotional abuse, emotional abuse can possess a definition beyond verbal and psychological abuse.
Blaming, shaming, and name calling are a few verbally abusive behaviors which can affect a victim emotionally. The victim's self-worth and emotional well-being are altered and even diminished by the verbal abuse, resulting in an emotionally-abused victim.
The victim may experience severe psychological effects. This would involve the tactics of brainwashing, which can fall under psychological abuse as well, but emotional abuse consists of the manipulation of the victim's emotions. The victim may feel their emotions are being affected by the abuser to such an extent that the victim may no longer recognize their own feelings regarding the issues the abuser is trying to control. The result is the victim's self-concept and independence are systematically taken away.
The U.S. Department of Justice defines emotionally abusive traits as including causing fear by: intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends, destruction of pets and property, forcing isolation from family, friends, or school or work. More subtle emotionally abusive behaviors include insults, putdowns, arbitrary and unpredictable behavior, and gaslighting (e.g. the denial that previous abusive incidents occurred). Modern technology has led to new forms of abuse, by text messaging and online cyber-bullying....
to be continued...
Kindness... The most beautiful "art"...
I have a neighbor… He comes from a family of criminals… Yep… They are on the web… Killers, robbers, drug sellers… But… He seems to want to do things “right” in his own way… And he is absolutely adorable with me… I have not a single complaint to make about him… He told me he loved lasagna, once… I asked him his birth date and said to him: “That day, we are going to eat lasagna… You and I”…
That day he was all dressed up… I said “Happy Birthday!!!”, hugged him and we started walking… I said: “Let´s stop at the bakery… A “pit stop”, jajajajajajajaja… He laughed and I told him to wait for me outside… I bought everything I thought he would enjoy eating… When I came out, we walked to a park and sat… I started taking all the stuff out and he was shocked… We had pizza, a huge piece of a very yummy cheese, sodas, ranch dressing… At one point, his eyes were teary and he said: “Elena, I will never forget this day”… I said: “Well, that´s my intention… To make it unforgettable”… At that moment, I saw a 56 year old man, with the face of a seven year old on Christmas Eve… My heart smiled… BIG… He saved some of the food for his youngest boy at home… He has TEN kids… All of them almost grown up, now… But they grew up under very hard conditions… We kept walking to our main destination and stopped for his birthday piece of cake… He picked the chocolate one and I picked the “Tres leches”… I had all the people there sing “Happy Birthday” and again, he had teary eyes… I bought another piece of cake for him to take home and after that, we couldn't eat anything else, but I bought him that lasagna anyways and he took it home… He hugged me and said “Thank you so much… I love you”…
A few days after, he knocked on my door and told me I had forgotten to turn my external lights off... I said: "Thank you so much for being so sweet to me"... He said: "You are the most wonderful neighbor, anyone can have, beautiful... Anything you need, just let me know"...
I believe kindness is contagious... I have seen it...
Do you agree with me?... Would you like to share your thoughts on this subject?...
That day he was all dressed up… I said “Happy Birthday!!!”, hugged him and we started walking… I said: “Let´s stop at the bakery… A “pit stop”, jajajajajajajaja… He laughed and I told him to wait for me outside… I bought everything I thought he would enjoy eating… When I came out, we walked to a park and sat… I started taking all the stuff out and he was shocked… We had pizza, a huge piece of a very yummy cheese, sodas, ranch dressing… At one point, his eyes were teary and he said: “Elena, I will never forget this day”… I said: “Well, that´s my intention… To make it unforgettable”… At that moment, I saw a 56 year old man, with the face of a seven year old on Christmas Eve… My heart smiled… BIG… He saved some of the food for his youngest boy at home… He has TEN kids… All of them almost grown up, now… But they grew up under very hard conditions… We kept walking to our main destination and stopped for his birthday piece of cake… He picked the chocolate one and I picked the “Tres leches”… I had all the people there sing “Happy Birthday” and again, he had teary eyes… I bought another piece of cake for him to take home and after that, we couldn't eat anything else, but I bought him that lasagna anyways and he took it home… He hugged me and said “Thank you so much… I love you”…
A few days after, he knocked on my door and told me I had forgotten to turn my external lights off... I said: "Thank you so much for being so sweet to me"... He said: "You are the most wonderful neighbor, anyone can have, beautiful... Anything you need, just let me know"...
I believe kindness is contagious... I have seen it...
Do you agree with me?... Would you like to share your thoughts on this subject?...
Shakespeare for Idiots, or non-readers
Romeo & Juliet- The modern version by William Mapshake
At a nightclub in 1976 Romeo was doing his best to impress a bird he fancied called Julie, His dancing skills worked and they fell in love.
The next day they walked hand in hand to a chemist for an after the act contraceptive pill but found out they had not been invented yet.
Over a Costa coffee they decided that although their parents hated each other due to Juliet’s dad selling a shite car to Romeo’s dad they would get have to get married in secret.
They flew over to Vegas and at the Elvis Presley One Dollar Church they got married, gambled a bit and watched a Tom Jones show before returning to England.
Juliet’s high school sweetheart named Paris had meanwhile appeared on the scene after a lengthy prison sentence for theft of kitchen and kitchen related storage items and wanted “His bird”.
He knew how to appeal to Juliet’s Mom and bribed her with a huge amount of Tupperware so he could marry Juliet and in time take over the used car business; Juliet was a bit angry but had to agree as she knew her mom had already used the salad spinner and 3 freezer containers.
After a few Gin and Tonics Juliet decided to fake her own death as she couldn’t be arsed marrying Paris, Her dealer pal gave her some sleeping pills and she took them and fell asleep.
She looked dead so was laid out for the family to look at, Poor Romeo saw her stiff lifeless body and promptly hanged himself with his new floral orange and brown bedspread.
When Julie awoke she heard that her secret love and hubby and kicked the bucket, she decided that she would also kill herself and did.
The moral of the story…Tupperware is rubbish and not worth dying for and condoms save lives.
At a nightclub in 1976 Romeo was doing his best to impress a bird he fancied called Julie, His dancing skills worked and they fell in love.
The next day they walked hand in hand to a chemist for an after the act contraceptive pill but found out they had not been invented yet.
Over a Costa coffee they decided that although their parents hated each other due to Juliet’s dad selling a shite car to Romeo’s dad they would get have to get married in secret.
They flew over to Vegas and at the Elvis Presley One Dollar Church they got married, gambled a bit and watched a Tom Jones show before returning to England.
Juliet’s high school sweetheart named Paris had meanwhile appeared on the scene after a lengthy prison sentence for theft of kitchen and kitchen related storage items and wanted “His bird”.
He knew how to appeal to Juliet’s Mom and bribed her with a huge amount of Tupperware so he could marry Juliet and in time take over the used car business; Juliet was a bit angry but had to agree as she knew her mom had already used the salad spinner and 3 freezer containers.
After a few Gin and Tonics Juliet decided to fake her own death as she couldn’t be arsed marrying Paris, Her dealer pal gave her some sleeping pills and she took them and fell asleep.
She looked dead so was laid out for the family to look at, Poor Romeo saw her stiff lifeless body and promptly hanged himself with his new floral orange and brown bedspread.
When Julie awoke she heard that her secret love and hubby and kicked the bucket, she decided that she would also kill herself and did.
The moral of the story…Tupperware is rubbish and not worth dying for and condoms save lives.
This is what I want...
to find me on CS a horse, a mule, a sheep, a goat, and a wife
in that order.
in that order.
introspection
How much do you know yourself?
Just like we stand in front of the mirror everyday to look physically beautiful and look at ourselves, do we do something like that everyday to make ourselves beautiful from inside (character, behavior, etc)?
Just like we stand in front of the mirror everyday to look physically beautiful and look at ourselves, do we do something like that everyday to make ourselves beautiful from inside (character, behavior, etc)?
The Appalachian Trail
In early America Mountain Men and Native Americans had developed a series of foot paths they used for traversing mountains and following game animals. America developed, Mountain Men and some Indian tribes became history, but many of their paths through the woods and over mountains remained. In 1921 the American Congress approved the concept of determining which foot paths could be connected as a means of preserving past ways and heritage while offering traverse of rural American woods and desert. In the 1930s with the help of Roosevelt's Civilian Conservation Corps (CCC) some of the trails were extended and opened to the public. The Appalachian Trail (AT) is one of them.
The AT is a marked foot path about 2,200 miles (3,500 kilometers) long. Located in 14 Eastern States it wanders North and South. By design many of the areas it traverses are designated as National or State Parks and intentionally kept wild and rural. In some parts of the trail a person hiking may be more than 30 miles from the nearest town or paved road. There are places where the trail unavoidably descends into a town and passage through the town is unavoidable, but those are intentionally rare. Wild animals (both dangerous ones and not dangerous ones) are often encountered on the trail. Much of the AT is over mountainous terrain. It is not unusual for someone hiking the entire Appalachian Trail (thousands do so every year) to lose 50 or more pounds (i.e., 80+ kilos) during the months long hike. It is said if you are not physically fit when you begin, you probably will be by the time you finish the Trail.
The AT does cross many roads. Sometimes by an overhead bridge, and sometimes you have to run or walk across the road. It also of course connects with or crosses many other trails, some marked, some not marked. Some go East and West, some go no where in particular. Follow the patches of white paint on trees and signs (a few posted by volunteers) to not get lost. You need to bring your own food and water and a sleeping bag. Be prepared to go to the bathroom in the woods as public latrines are few. Please bury your poop and don't litter. For the most part weapons are prohibited on the trail, but camp knives are permitted in most of the states.
Hikiing the AT is considered a rite of passage. It changes you. Many start the hike, then quit after only a few days. When it rains the rocks get slippery and everything becomes mud. The scenery is often beautiful and breath taking. Hopefully you remain hydrated on the really hot days. If the idea of waking up in the morning to find a spider crawling on you, or see a snake slithering by terrifies you, the AT is not for you.
Two weeks ago with my friend (unofficial step daughter) I hiked a portion of the AT in Maryland. Maryland is considered one of the easiesr states on the AT because much of it is flat. Nonetheless I hiked up to Annapolis Rock (elevation 1,700 feet). A fairly rocky and steep walk of several miles. We saw folks of all races doing the hike. Men, women and even some with children. I enjoyed it a lot and recommend the AT to all.
Annapolis Rock from the ground
Annapolis Rock from the top facing West. 2 years ago a tourist slipped and fell to his death from here.
Me on the trail in MD (on the flats)
The AT is a marked foot path about 2,200 miles (3,500 kilometers) long. Located in 14 Eastern States it wanders North and South. By design many of the areas it traverses are designated as National or State Parks and intentionally kept wild and rural. In some parts of the trail a person hiking may be more than 30 miles from the nearest town or paved road. There are places where the trail unavoidably descends into a town and passage through the town is unavoidable, but those are intentionally rare. Wild animals (both dangerous ones and not dangerous ones) are often encountered on the trail. Much of the AT is over mountainous terrain. It is not unusual for someone hiking the entire Appalachian Trail (thousands do so every year) to lose 50 or more pounds (i.e., 80+ kilos) during the months long hike. It is said if you are not physically fit when you begin, you probably will be by the time you finish the Trail.
The AT does cross many roads. Sometimes by an overhead bridge, and sometimes you have to run or walk across the road. It also of course connects with or crosses many other trails, some marked, some not marked. Some go East and West, some go no where in particular. Follow the patches of white paint on trees and signs (a few posted by volunteers) to not get lost. You need to bring your own food and water and a sleeping bag. Be prepared to go to the bathroom in the woods as public latrines are few. Please bury your poop and don't litter. For the most part weapons are prohibited on the trail, but camp knives are permitted in most of the states.
Hikiing the AT is considered a rite of passage. It changes you. Many start the hike, then quit after only a few days. When it rains the rocks get slippery and everything becomes mud. The scenery is often beautiful and breath taking. Hopefully you remain hydrated on the really hot days. If the idea of waking up in the morning to find a spider crawling on you, or see a snake slithering by terrifies you, the AT is not for you.
Two weeks ago with my friend (unofficial step daughter) I hiked a portion of the AT in Maryland. Maryland is considered one of the easiesr states on the AT because much of it is flat. Nonetheless I hiked up to Annapolis Rock (elevation 1,700 feet). A fairly rocky and steep walk of several miles. We saw folks of all races doing the hike. Men, women and even some with children. I enjoyed it a lot and recommend the AT to all.
Annapolis Rock from the ground
Annapolis Rock from the top facing West. 2 years ago a tourist slipped and fell to his death from here.
Me on the trail in MD (on the flats)
note to self...
Find a YouTube video on headlight adjustment
Pay three bills tonight
Scan some documents for accountant
Pay three bills tonight
Scan some documents for accountant
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