An Honest Look at Getting Over a Relationship

Let's face it – being in a happy and loving relationship is an experience that is unmatched by anything else. But sometimes, even a relationship that looks perfect comes to an end. And when relationships end, they usually come with a tornado of emotional disturbance and hurt. Not all relationships are destined to last forever. But does this mean that having a relationship end is the end of the world?

First things first – there is no magic bullet or secret pill to getting over a relationship. There is no tip or trick which will "get you over your relationship in 12 hours or less". Healing from a broken relationship takes time, and one must accept this fact. Accepting to yourself that it is over is a big part to getting over it. If you entertain even the faintest hopes that everything will be alright again, you are impeding your own progress. You must face the cold, hard truth and move on. You must believe firmly that you are capable of falling in love and finding a wonderful person again. This relationship need not be the last that you will ever be in.

If you want to reminisce about what went wrong, by all means, do so. But don't overanalyze. Remember that what is done is done. You cannot go back into the past and change events. Obsessively dissecting your own or your ex's mistakes will lead you down a spiral of emotional turmoil. Don't do it! If anything, look back at the lessons that you learned from the relationships. If you were too needy or too insecure, then use this as a reminder to keep you from repeating your earlier mistakes.

That being said, it is impossible to be completely objective about a person you once shared a deep emotional connection with. So give the sorrow its due. If you need to cry or talk to a friend to let it out, by all means, do so. Let the grief fade away before you can begin anew. Sometimes, it helps to realize that even after your best efforts, some things are just not meant to be. But this is no cause for despair. Use this time to reconnect with people that you might have given less time to over the years when you were in a relationship. You never know when you might run into someone new. Try to stay busy, take up a new hobby, or start learning a new skill. This will keep your mind occupied and help you get through this difficult time.