4 Reasons To Stop Dating A Co-Dependent Man

A co-dependent man is probably not someone you plan to get involved with. In the beginning he may appear to just want to spend all of his time with you because he loves you. While that may be part of it, a co-dependent man has other issues that make it difficult or impossible for him to do things on his own. The following are 4 reasons that you should stop dating your co-dependent boyfriend.

1. You forfeit all of your free time

One of the biggest problems in dating a co-dependent man is that he always wants to be around you. He could be around you non-stop for weeks and still not need any time to himself. If you go out, he's by your side. If you go to a different room, he's right behind you. Your only alone time seems to be when you go to the bathroom. Even if you're not doing something together, he wants to be right where you are, looking over your shoulder to see what you're doing, or asking you endless questions.

2. He'll never bring you lunch

Imagine that you're working from home one day to catch up on a project and you can't stop to make anything for lunch. You ask your boyfriend, who is also home for the day, to pick you both up something to eat. It's reasonable that someone would do that for someone they love, but don't expect it from a co-dependent man. This kind of man will expect you to take a break and go with him to pick up food. He won't do this simple, loving task without you.

3. He won't make any decisions for himself

On a daily basis you are asked questions as though you are dealing with a 5 year old instead of a grown man. He'll ask you what he'll be having for his meals, what he can do when he's bored, and what you guys will be doing on the weekend. He won't make any decisions or suggestions on his own. He feels perfectly fine leaving it all up to you. This is going to wear on you eventually. You'll get tired of having to come up with new ideas that please him and being responsible for making the decisions forever.

4. You feel more like a mommy, than a girlfriend

Being with a co-dependent man is more like having a child than a boyfriend. You feel like you're responsible for taking care of him and making sure he's okay. That is not the job of a girlfriend. The job of a girlfriend is to be a partner. As time goes on you will feel less and less like a girlfriend to a co-dependent man. He may even seem less sexually attractive to you.

Dating a co-dependent person is a lot of work. Remember that dating is supposed to be a mostly fun experience, not a job.