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relationships

Are they really that difficult to form? I have been on this dating site for over 2 years...think I am pushing 3, but who is counting. Before a relationship (speaking of couples here...married or unmarried but exclusive to each other) can start, it is very typical for people to date first to see what level of compatibility they have. If the dating process goes smoothly with each person, a relationship may very well develop.

This is a dating site and I have heard of very few dates in my umpteen years I have been on here. As just mentioned, dates are just the usual beginning of potential relationships. Some on here may feel that since there is long distances between people here, that blogging is a good way of getting to know somebody. However, there is only so much two people can find out about each other with blogging and messaging. I have found it very rare that people are willing to share their bad traits in public format or even private messages, bad traits that could easily make or break any sort of relationship from potentially moving forward. So, blogging and private messages, in my opinion, cannot replace actual physical dating.

The long distance between people is a reasonable reason why some dates actually do not happen. From what I have seen, not all people have this huge distance between them and meeting up for dates is very possible...with a little effort. With that said, there are not many dates that I am aware of that have took place here in my years.

What are our intentions on this dating site....or any dating site for that matter? Are we very cautious to jump into a relationship and just patiently sitting back and waiting for that indisputable magic person to show up...that person who can break down our walls we have surrounded ourselves with?

I wonder...even for myself...the feelings I have that I am not even looking forward to even going on a date at this moment. But, I will...if some sort of magic person befalls upon me. ....the idea of a relationship. wow


Does anyone else share with this?
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thank you blog

Never done one of these before, but here it is. I joined this site over 2 years ago, it might be pushing 3 now, with the sole intention of finding a relationship. Instead, I discovered the addictive nature of these blogs and made many true friends.

The blogs have been awesome. I learned so much about the world we live in and the different cultures that make everything what it is. During the years here, I have posted and participated in many blogs. In doing so, I got to expand on many questions I had about life and in addition, honed my social skills. Not to mention, I discovered a little more about myself.

Most importantly, I found that we can be across the globe, talking over a computer...or a phone in some cases, and we are....for the most part....all supportive of each other. That is refreshing to me, to see true caring for almost complete strangers.

As far as the relationship building for me on this site, I think it might be tough to do, but not impossible. I am not giving up on it...but, I am not solely relying on it either. During my beginning time here, I think somebody mentioned that I was lacking in self-esteem. After looking at myself, I think they were right. The blogs have given me additional confidence with myself, confidence I was lacking in...the confidence I needed to engage in real life situations.

Thank you all.

To everyone here......handshake hug
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spirit of men

This has nothing to do with Nam...but only a realization after tonight. Though it is very sad to hear about Nam, one can only hope he does recover....may happiness ensue him. sad flower sad flower


Tonight....some of my friends.

To know them during the day they seem on the surface like just another man. Doing his deeds, those of which are required of him to survive. Talking with them, everything is just fine, there is nothing wrong they'd say. My life is going smoothly, "can't complain."

Why? I now wonder to myself. Why can't they complain? Perhaps, because they are man. They are suppose to be a man...strong and to be anything less would be a disgrace within the norms of society. But they are also human and not without emotion, human feelings.

By night, these same men are still men in the public arena. They laugh, they joke, they socialize as they should. But when alone, they hurt. They have so much pain that it is unbearable to speak of most times. A strong, jovial man. A biker at one time, a muscle car fanatic to the day...long hair, long beard...he sits and tells me about his time in war. With tears falling from his face, his next two bottles of beer turn him back into a man.

A close friend of mine, one could argue he leads an angry life. His story is different. After becoming very close to him nearly 15 years later, I would also argue he seems a bit bitter. Out of the public spectrum, he breaks down to me. After discovering his brother dead from suicide and shortly afterwards his true love lifeless from an overdose...he goes on to tell me, she wrote on the bathroom mirror in her lipstick earlier that day, "love you, will see you later." However, the bottle brings his manhood back up to status quo.

There are a couple more stories...

Have we mistaken just how strong man's spirit is?
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can science be a bad thing?

The immediate answer to this question is yes. But just how bad can science really get? Of course all of our weapons were developed from science. Then there are many great things that science has produced. How about science holding us back from realizing our true nature on this planet? There are so many things out there that science cannot explain.

I am watching Ancient Aliens on the History Channel and I keep hearing repeatedly, episode after episode, science cannot explain this or that, or the other. We as conditioned humans just automatically do not put much credence into these things and just somewhat ignore them. What if there is something out there that is right under our noses and because of the limitations of current science, we are ignoring some sort of important message.

What about those crop circles?....just to name one.
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on my way home

Okay, this blog is about something I usually do not talk about but on my way home tonight I was listening to my Bible cd. conversing It got me thinking rather quickly when it spoke about how women are suppose to serve their men.

I could go on and on and on about the many examples here. I will just choose two.

Does feminism promote anti-religious behavior?

After all, the woman was created from Adam's rib and is suppose to be second to man. (Bible says)

and

The feminist movement has increased the divorce rate.


When listening to the Bible, it sure sounds like a lot of stuff that feminism does not support.

What do you think?
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Having a family

We are all on this planet because we were born from another human. If you do not already know, to naturally have a child/family, it takes two people of the opposite sex to procreate.

I do not know how norms, culture, and society works across the globe, so I can only reference the country I live in and how it operates.

It has been always the man's duty to approach the woman and take the initiative on creating the harmonious bond, where the couple eventually make a family in many cases (average family size 2 1/2 kids).

The man brought home the bacon and the woman fried it up in the pan.

The woman, man, and children lived a life under one roof and given our human nature, they bonded.

In some cases, that did not happen. There were tensions, but not in all cases. At worse, the man knew he was a father and the mother knew she was a mother....very rarely did it happen that the parents did not recognize themselves as parents.

Fast forward to today with feminism....and in many cases life is not like it was 20+ years ago. The man has become less valuable to some feminist women. I do not know the numbers or percentages on this...but they have become less valuable.

Our human nature, both men and women, are to procreate...otherwise our s*xual urges would not exist. These urges are beyond our control...they are innate. So with that said, it is our nature, both men and women, to produce offspring.

Now in traditional days...I would argue even today (because some women like to have their cake and eat it too) the female gender was at an advantage for having the opportunity to have offspring. Because of the tradition of men approaching women, they had ample more opportunity to engage in practices to produce offspring. Does that make sense? If she is getting approached by men and she is feeling her natural urges at a particular time, she then chooses to "engage." Some women got approached by men hundreds of times a week...some maybe ten times a week. In everyone of these cases, if she wanted to "engage", she could simply oblige.

With men, they didn't have that luxury. They might approach hundreds of different women per week, or some men maybe ten per week...and not get any female takers. The bottom line is, women decide. He had to prove his worth to the woman. She needed to know that the man was going to be there for her and not leave her high and dry...fending for the care of the family on her own. In addition, if the woman was not in the mood..no go. In addition, if the woman was not attracted to him...no go. In addition, if her friends gave the thumbs down...no go. Most men had it fairly tough...that is even in traditional days.

Today we have feminism. Even in traditional days, a man had to get "lucky" to get a woman in his life. The feminist days are going to require even more luck.

Now what about abortion? Say there is a man and woman couple together in today's society and they engage in their nature given urges and procreate. The man wants a child but the woman does not. She has a right to end the pregnancy.

With more difficulty of man finding a mate and the female having a right to abort....

When coming to genders, does that give the female more power over life than the male?

If so, is it fair?

I don't know myself...but a question to ponder...I think anyway.
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Modern Man and Woman

The way life is today, and it is continuously evolving, has change drastically in the last 20 or so years. The question is, what real value can a man bring to modern women?

Money....no
Security....no
Repairing Stuff...no
Children...not really (many women are holding off on that).
Sex...maybe...for a bit
Companionship...naw...too many social outlets on internet
Cooking...maybe lol
Rub her feet...perhaps
Be a dancing monkey...maybe


With all these perhaps and maybes....is that really enough for a woman to put up with the same man for many years?

What other things can a man offer a woman today?

Maybe protect her at the nightclub while she is picking up other guys? dunno
Maybe try to offer genuine compliments to secure her ego? dunno


Times have changed and roles have also. I suppose in another 10 or so years, we might find out where we all fit in.
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a night on the town...

Well...inspired by another person having a night on the town right now laugh

Last night a buddy of mine Nick and I went out to the big city....a city of about 5000 people. laugh That is huge around here.

We both concluded it as being a successful night...laying the ground work. grin It started out at the oldest pub in town, been open since the late 1800's, with some chick talking about slitting my neck. rolling on the floor laughing I didn't do crap to her. She was kinda mumbling to me and I didn't hear what she said. Later she came over and starting rubbing herself on my buddy and I. She told me she wanted to dance with me...there was no dancing going on and....uh oh ....I just kinda left the area and later told my buddy that the slit your neck statement was a deal breaker. laugh She was kinda cute. My buddy and I were speculating of how beautiful she would be if she brushed her teeth in the last week or so, put on a nice dress, and maybe a touch of make up and maybe some contacts. wow ...she would have been smoking. ...she was a short little red-head with a nice rack disguised by her sweatshirt.

We left that place to go to another place. There a woman I recognized from poker came over and we started talking. He had another poker lady player with her and another friend. We all chatted for some time until they moved to the next bar...telling us to come with them. Well, we were heading that way anyway. Don't make any mistakes, not really our types. But, we went to the next bar and we just walked by them. cool ...we didn't think they noticed us. laugh ....naw...they did. rolling on the floor laughing The non-poker player lady came over and asked why we didn't go by them. hmmm ...I said there were no seats over there and we were going to go over there. blushing laugh She didn't buy it. She started rubbing up to my buddy...while two 20 something chicks sat to my left. grin I started chatting with them. One of them recognized me...and they shared a sip of their drink with me. Success! Laying some ground work. laugh

Anyway, my buddy and I decided to go back to the bar where the psycho woman was at. Well...the one that was rubbing up to my buddy wanted to go with us. All the time, my buddy was giving me that look like...please rescue me. rolling on the floor laughing What could I do? I told her, sure...you can come with. I got all the pigs and shit out of the back of my car.

The moral of the story...it is nice when women approach men. More women should do that. :)
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what is the point?

Of pointing someone(s) activity on the blogs? We are all human beings with our own individual perspectives.

Are we trying to stop them from what they deem is fitting for them?
In other words, we are trying to control them?

or

Are we trying to mend some sort of internal shortcoming by convincing others that another person is acting in such an unorthodox way?
In other words, there is some sort of lack of self confidence....self worth...or insecurity??

Whatever the case, it does not really matter to me. I only write this blog because I believe people are allowed to be people...in all their own unique ways.

Not to mention...

We are all entitled, as the blog rules confirmed...to write what we feel is right.

If not...

The moderators surely would have removed the blog(s) by now.


Blog on everyone.

Take no offense if I decide not to check out one of your blogs....

That is also a choice afforded to me.


wave

This blog is not intended to condemn anyone here...either the blog writers....or the writers who write about blog writers.

The world is full of all types. It takes all types to make the world. But, I think it would be disappointing if some types felt that they could not freely express themselves for whatever reason.
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life

Life is a series of situations. Since we are alive, we really have no choice but to partake in these situations. The more mentally aware we are, the better we can assess and analyze the continuous situations we are uniquely a part of.

It is like driving a car, in fact...driving a car is part of life...but, like driving a car, we are constantly watching around us and assessing, so we drive safely.

If our minds are cluttered with self-conscious thought or other contaminating thoughts...our ability to assess and analyze begins to diminish.

Eating healthy is great for the mind and its function, as well as exercise.

I would even say meditation is helpful....anything that has our ability to consciously be more aware and assess when we are involved in our own personal situations...helping us to make proper decisions that fit ourselves and personalities best...should make our lives more enjoyable and easier.

wave


HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MOTHERS.

bouquet
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safe today

For those of you who like a little drama, I have a dramatic event about to take place today. I recently purchased an older home where the basement was not exactly the most inviting environment. The previous owner bought it in 1954 from an elderly gentleman who owned the local store. The previous owner was up there in age and her son didn't have any interest in the contents in the place. However, they did go through some things up stairs and never made it in the basement. After buying the place, I discovered a huge locked safe in the basement. applause laugh

I talked to a locksmith, he said he has cracked 100's of these safes and has only found worthless paper. moping So...I am not expecting much...but maybe a bit of drama. grin Now that I have sold the house, it has become time to do some cracking. The locksmith recommend that I cut the side wall out of it....so....I am heading to the store to buy a metal cutter.

Any guesses as to what I will find inside?


I suspect it will be worthless papers. moping But, in the lower right corner I am betting I find one 1937 silver quarter....worth approximately $6. So, the cost of my metal cutter and my time will not be recovered. crying


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food for your thought

Are you hungry?

Everyone is hungry.

Just that everyone has a different level of an empty stomach.

Give a homeless person a dollar....they are greatful

Give a millionaire a dollar...they look with disgust.

this example is with money...

but....it fits with everything a human values...

including a mate

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