BOREDOM AND LONELINESS, MOST POTENT WHEN ALONE?
Flooded with so many questions on my mind, life altering decisions are of immediate need to be made. Postponing it will only make it difficult but my problem at the moment is not knowing what to do first.This decision that I will make will definitely impact my life in terms of economic and personal arrangement in the future. I have to be very careful, I have to exercise caution. I can't afford to make a mistake. Time and youth is no longer at my side so precision is a matter of great value.
Lately, I have been acting on impulses and while the adventure led me to a wild and interesting life, it cost me so much pain and sorrow. I know for a fact that we avoid the road of these negative traits if we can and do anything to make us happy. Or at least we think can make us happy. Spontaneous and unplanned courses of our actions eventually lead us to a deep boredom and loneliness.
Thinking of my past, I can't ever remember anytime when I was lonely and bored at the same time. My life was always full of activities that provided not only happiness but fulfillment. I had a very rewarding career and a family that was so loving.
When financial and economic blunders happened, my life dove to an abyss. So deep and so dark, I thought I would never see the glimmer of sun again. I did. But now, whenever I make a decision, it takes a long process with the hope that blunders are not repeated.
Today I am overcome with boredom and loneliness, and, I wonder if being alone has anything to do with it.
Thanks for all your reads and comments.
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Then think of the three quarters of the world that don't have what we have, no health benefits, no basic needs, no clean water, etc.etc, and yes what am I complaining about?
But so did Robin Williams, now tell me about it, will you?
Regarding loneliness. Well clearly it is harder to be lonely when you are not alone.
Coping with being solitary is an art by itself. Some can handle it for months and years, many can't. It depends on many factors.
Now boredom I can relate to. Get a hobby. Trust me it helps. Once in a while get with some other folks who share the same hobby. Conventions, shows, etc. Then you are neither bored nor alone.
Perhaps understanding the inner part of ourselves and don't depend on someone else to make us happy is a key.
On Robin Williams, it must have been a very difficult decision but how do we know if what he did was in fact a happy decision for him and his family.
All I can say looking back - it is not a good time to make decisions, if you can, get someone level headed to talk everything through or if possible, don't decide on anything of importance now.
Take care of yourself & I hope you have a shoulder to lean on.
That's the time to put $10.00 in my pocket for a couple of beers and go dancing. Women love to dance so there's no problem having some fun and then it's go home....alone!
A road not too easy to take.
I just might really take time and be in the wait and see mode.
Thanks my friend.
How are you Johnny.
SR
I haven't, but I am on my way to the Russian River Jazz Fest next month. Since I can't e-mail you I will blog about it. I will stay in Santa Rosa and also add the name of the motel. Hope to see you!!
Sometimes boredom and loneliness converge...so what do we do?...it is tough to be alone sometimes and we do need distractions in life besides work!!...I enter contests on line, my new hobby...and spending time with my sister and niece also a must...perhaps what your feeling is a loss from both emotional and financial perspectives...you cannot look back but plan for the future...I have made some goals for myself and this occupies my thoughts...hope you are doing better...
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