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'The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.'
Amelia Earhart

'Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.' Samuel Beckett

The decision not to act is also a decision. To act too soon can be disastrous!

Everything seems fine, got the room rearranged, giving up smoking, got a handle on my weed smoking somewhat, got my medical stuff straightened out. Been relatively happy for a while.

Is this real though or is this just a prelude to something. My luck usually don't be that great and I can't help thinking that something bad is just around the corner. I guess I am expecting something and can't help but to think that this is just a elaborate setup.

Maybe I'm just being paranoid.

I am giving up smoking cigarettes. Patch really works.

Everyone looks like that he can own four wives, which one you should love?
A rich man had four wives, his favorite love was the fourth wife.He gave her luxuary clothes and the most delicious food.He cared for her carefully and gave her the best stuff.
He also loved his third wife very much.He was honored of her and show her with his friends.But the rich man also was always afraid of her, he worried she would be with other men together one day.
And he also loved his second wife.She was patient, tender and caring.Actually she was his confidant.No matter what problems when he met, he always asked for her help.And then his second wife also always helped him to pull through the difficulties.
His first wife was a very honest partner.She contributed herself for their family.Although the first wife loved him very much and so deeply, he didn't love her and almost forgot her.
One day, the rich man got illness.Not long time he knew he would be dead.He remembered his luxuary lives and said:"Now i have four wives,but if i am dead i am lonely.How lonely i will be!"
So he asked the fourth wife:"I love you the most and gave you the best, now i will be dead, will you follow me and……""No way"The fourth wife said and left far away from his home.
The rich man was hurt by her response.So he asked his third wife: "All this life i love you so much, but now i will be dead , would you like to be with me together?""No" the third wife answered and said:"lives is so good and many men love me, if you are dead i will marry again!"the rich man's heart was cold.
He asked his second wife again:"You always help me to over the difficulties and now i need your help.If i am dead, can you be with me together? "“Sorry dear, this time i can not!”She answered:“ I can send you to the cemetery at most !"The rich man shocked and dispaired.
At this time a sound come:"I will be together with you!No matter where you go , no matter where is heaven or hell, i will follow you all the time!"He looked up and his first wife stand there. She looks skinny, long-term malnutrition.The rich man was sorrow very much and said:"I should take good care of you, but……"
Actually, all of us have four wives in our life:
1.The fourth wife is our body.No matter how much we spent on it and how long we took for it to protect its good status, as beautiful face, we always be satisfied with its all needs.But when the time is over, it will leave us.
2.The third wife is our authority, power, reputation and wealth.No matter how much honors it gave us, when we are dead, all of it is belong to others.
3.The second wife is our friends and relatives. No matter how closed we are in our alived time, they can only accompany us to the cemetery at most.
4.Actually the first wife is our soul.When we chased wealth and enjoyment of body, it often be forgotten.
Never lose yourself.

Feel who is comfortable , to be with them.Including friends, family members too.Tired ,far away.
Make others be happy is not far as make self be happy.
Rather is lonely, never sorry to heart.
Rarher is pity, dont make do with.
If a person can come into your heart, regard him as your kingdom.If he can not, to disdain for.
Past is important or not but emotion is clear, is light.
Experienced happy and sad just like a mirror, is calm.
If understand , to cherish; if dont ,far away.

Wondering how one know's honesty of a person in a long distance friendship or a relationship.

My thoughts of today: For my children: Karen, Krystynn, Camille and Sonny


when you are bled to death and the last drop of that blood seems to last forever, you then turn around and say: it isn't my time just yet, I still have a lot of mountains to climb
a bunch of beautiful flowers to witness to bloom
furious and perilous rivers to cross
wild and vast oceans to navigate
gales and winds to test your strength
but none so like that of raising children
who gave you great and lovely grand children
to run around with until you are all drained
of temporary but recurrent energy
to laugh and scream with joys until your belly explodes
to roll your eyes with when they ask you direct and very unadulterated questions
to lack the time to think knowingly so that you have lost the knack of strong and positive opinions
which was your forte of decades ago
and yes, you come to terms that with each day
you don't have to let anyone bleeds you because
life is: beautiful yet challenging
disappointing at times yet comforting
but most of all, nothing can equal your pride
of knowing that you have these creations
around you, with you and in front of you
saying in unison: Mom and Dad, thank you for
all the love you have given us, and now we give it to our children
hoping they would to their children and goes on and on
Forever.

And the good thing is: we can all do it, regardless of colors, beliefs and ways of life. Yes, we can all do it. with million more of years to come sustained by this old but only earth we know, we can all do it. Perhaps not of the same intensity but in our own individual ways, we can.

So let us love one another and stop calling on to bleed anyone for we are all children of this world, no more no less.

I love you all.




Note: my acknowledgement of the fact that life has to be sorted out not with violence but with an overwhelming effort to spread love even to those who seems cold about it.

When I was sitting at the foot of a guru....who was wonderful by the way, he used to always say, "Seriousness does not equal sincerity".

I have watched and observed 'serious' people. I used to be one of them, to a degree. They have no innocence, no child-like enthusiasm (enthusiasm means 'in God'), no life. They are like frozen blocks of ice.

I watch people who are sincere. They love life. They are willing to be foolish and vulnerable and not predictable. They act as if authenticity is the highest virtue. I am aiming to be like them....but in my unique way. :)

I find that people who are themselves may have any number of 'disorders' or not, but they do not worry about how they look to others. They are happy in their own skin and they are willing to show themselves, no matter how un-perfect they may appear to be to others.

I love people who show up. I love people who lack pretense. I love people who don't give a crap what I or anyone else thinks of them. These are my hero/heroines.

The people who act as if they know everything about anything, the people who can't laugh at themselves and their idiocy, the people who constantly tell others how they ought be....those people bore the living bejeezus out of me. No thank you....move along.

And let's start the new week with love and peace in our hearts...

I shall start....

Red you are like golden sunlight on CS and your rays of warmth shine through

Lady Itchy...you are beautiful and smart..and always make me laugh.

The Elegant one..how funny and intelligent you are...inspiring

Blue...I like Blue. It's a nice colour...and you're damn smart too

Sweet Tim...you always have a kind word to say...and your thoughts are appreciated

Sir Rob..real. ..lucky is the woman who steals your

Nam the working man...may you find peace on your journey...you are amazing

Beautiful Lindsy...you are amongst the most intelligent I know..you deserve peace and love

Lady Seri...how witty you are...to match your beauty...

Free be the hand which inspires beautiful thoughts and fantasies..you write in magical ink...

Usha...you grace us with your presence

Mr. Trav...keep your heart open...she is probably looking for you too

Gentlejim...you are sweet and kind..


Lady Gypsy...a wondering angel. With a heart of gold

Angel Leony...those who have been blessed to discover who you truly are know your magnificence. ..you have touched my heart...

Robrt...what a gorgeous sense of humour. .you are a stunning individual

Dan. .you are wise beyond measure...I hope love finds you

I'm sorry to those I left out..you are all beautiful..and inspire me greatly..

Let's pay it forward and have a wonderful week ahead..

Many people are unaware of their negative emotions. Today the first of the 11 most common examples of negative emotions, so that you will be able to describe the emotion when it appears. Here are some definitions according to Wikipedia:

Anger

Anger is “an intense emotional response. It is a normal emotion that involves a strong uncomfortable and emotional response to a perceived provocation. Often it indicates when one’s personal boundaries are violated. Some have a learned tendency to react to anger through retaliation. “

Some self-development gurus treat anger as something wrong, the destroyer of peace of mind. Yes, anger can make you blind. I have devoted a whole chapter about this emotion.

However, anger is a completely normal and often healthy human emotion. The problem starts when it gets out of control and turns destructive. Then it can lead to problems: in your personal relationships, at work, and in the overall quality of your life.