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Years ago, I had a talk with myself regarding my troubles about love and relationship. My inner self told me: "I think your problem is that you are very serious about getting into and being in a relationship that you are missing out on opportunities that are yet to present themselves. When you meet a guy, you already categorize him to MIGHT or MIGHT NOT have a future with. You have judged them as to what they have initially shown you. When you yourself are holding back in the beginning. At the start, both people are expected to hold back a little, so by putting a tag on a person early on, when he hasn't shown himself fully on all his potential is what's making you sad. What if he was actually good, but you didn't give him a chance to begin with?"
With that, I gave one guy a chance. The problem is, when I start to have a bond with someone, I trully give them all the chances and accept everything and overlook everything, even all the red flags. That it took me 4 years to realize that the relationship I was in was not the right one for me.

Was I right with the way I dealt with my issue before that landed me the 4 years relationship? It was. Because even when it was not the right relationship, I learned so much from it. So now, Im thinking of another change inside me. But I guess this time, I will focus on something else.

Recently, I had a conflict with a co worker who has become a friend. And someone gave me an advice that united my heart and my mind.. He said: Never pick a fight and make an enemy out of anyone. No matter how you dislike a person, deal with them with diplomacy and kindness. For you never know what they might bring to you.

That moment, I gave it deep thought. I have 3 options:
1. I will confront the issue with anger. With it I keep my pride and express to everyone that I am right. And that noone can step on me because I know how to fight back.

2. I will face the issue with apathy. Some people might think I'm wrong on the matter, some people might tale my side. But who cares? I will just act as if I don't care and it doesn't matter.

3. I will talk to the person involved sincerely using diplomacy. Even when she wronged me, I'll give kindness. This will kill my pride but it will keep the peace and won't create unnecessary drama and awkwardness at work. And if by it she still rejects my attempt to peace keeping, at least I will be at peace.

So, I chose option 3, anyway, the only thing I lost was my pride, temporarily. In the end, I kept my friendship and peace. That guy was right. A little diplomacy and kindness go a long way. And letting go of pride once in a while, gives me peace that I need way more than whatever prize pride will ever bring me.

Good day CS. I haven't wriiten in a while. but now, i have something I want to talk about, so here I am..

All my life, I've always been so careful and really cautious about my steps. Making sure that i don't make any wrong major decision. People around admired how my life is in the right direction. Giving praises to my parents on how they raised me well and and how lucky they are to have a chilf like me..

The thing is, I had people's admiration, but I was living under too much pressure. I thought I was happy with it, but it didn't feel like living my life the way that I can achieve the kind of happiness that goes through your soul. The kind of happiness that inspires you to be bolder and take risks.

I thought it was because of lack of a certain person in my life. A love interest to be exact. So I entered a relationship thinking that it would give me the push I needed. But instead of being pushed, I became more comfortable. Instead of bettering myself, I focused on bettering the other person that I put myself less in priority. After a long while, I realized the relationship is getting nowhere, and some triggering situations, I ended the relationship.

Then I opened myself up to dating again. I dated a few guys of different background, races, and personalities. Until I found one guy who suited all the criteria. He was one of the triggers of big changes in me. He is a great guy. Values, personality, availability. However, he made it clear that he cannot commit, so I stopped seeing him. It was difficult, but I cannot continue with something without guarantee..

I guess what I'm trying to say is, even when Ive tried to change my outlook and the way i see things, some values and beliefs never change. Ive changed so much, but I'm still the little miss cautious me..

Some of my blogs are inspired about current events and other popular blogs at the time. One such blog I did years ago was inspired by another blog. It was posted by a woman saying that men who played with themselves excessively would lose sensation. Okay, I did some research and found a few links to support her topic. I also read normal sensation would return when the men discontinued such activity.

I knew this woman's style of blogging and I was certain the work wasn't hers. I believe the correct term is plagiarized.

Her blog was funny to me, but I knew the inverse was true for women.

Typing away... and not doing cut & paste I wrote a blog that inverted what she said. If she said something a man did, I found a way to describe the same activity using a woman as the example.

Blogs on that site allowed for (up to) 5 tags (topics or categories) and I correctly tagged my blog with: satire, parody, humor, joke

Unfortunately, 'she' didn't see the joke and neither did her two friends.
It's not uncommon for me to blog then go out for a while. I'll check back after a few hours to see if I had any comments.

Yeah, I did.
I was getting lots of kudos and comments from people 'who got it' along with threats that I plagiarized HER work. They told me I stole her blog and I was being reported to the moderator. They were serious about this...


What's strange is we had commented on each others blogs in the past. I guess that abruptly ended!

Okay, so I dismantled my blog and rewrote another blog titled "I stole your blog..." where I explained my side of the story. If you only heard their side it appears that I was the devil. Actually that was one of the comments from her. If it really was bad, I'm sure the moderator would have deleted it. The blog stayed up.

The response/support to my new blog was overwhelming as though people were actually waiting for something like this. One of the private messages I received had two links. One to a story on a commercial site and one to a blog posted by one of my accusers, someone I knew and had shared comments with.

I was told there were more she had plagiarized.

Huh? The blog was copied? The woman accusing me of taking someone's work had been doing this (stealing) all along...
I wanted to puke over these findings, and I was asked to be silent by the person sending me the links

Thanks for reading my blog!

I plan to do a poll (this weekend) by the same name to see the response of which hand people favor. I'm guessing of the general public, left-handed are probably less than 10%

For the most part, I'm left-handed. Writing, playing guitar, brushing my teeth, cutting steak too all left-handed. Tennis and baseball... left-handed. Bow and arrow... I could only buy the cheap ambidextrous ones as the expensive models were only stocked right-handed.

Some musical instruments, woodwinds for example are only available right-handed. Many six hole Irish flutes and tin whistles can be played either way, but I learned right-handed.

My mother owned a shop for alterations (repairing garments) and dry cleaning. After school and when I didn't have music practice, I would work in her shop. All the sewing machines where industrial style. The knee control that raised the sewing foot and the drive wheel that went to the motor was on the right side.

She had a oversized ironing board with a large iron that got steam from a 'pressure cooker' with a long hose. It was impossible to use this setup any other way than right-handed. All of her scissors had perfect fit metal handles, so I had no choice but to use them right-handed. It's easy ironing now with a conventional iron... ambidextrous.
Razor knife... left-handed. House painting... left-handed, I have to force myself to paint with my right hand.

Telephone and cellphone, right-handed because rotary phones worked better right-handed.

Calculator and computer mouse... right hand and I consider this an advantage as I can write and 'mouse' at the same time and not have to put the pencil down.

Soda and sandwich... ambidextrous.


Blog Category: Self-Improvement, because the more things I can do with either hand, the less restrictions I have, especially with power tools.

Hi guys long time no speak, hope your all well, some may remember me as Wolfie, I had to get rid of Wolfie ( my jeep) last year, I now have a Nissan juke, who is red, and is called duchess. Anyways, I'm back for the Craic, and wanted to let you know.... I'm a record breaker whoop whoop... well we were a team, of exactly 2505 ladies who stripped off and ran into the Irish sea on June ninth in Wicklow... we had a ball, well, we had no balls actually lol..

So, any ladies up for it..? .....next year We are thinking about going international, perhaps a different country every year,

"You logged into blogland like you were walking on to a yacht
Your words strategically placed along the lines
Your pic, it was fairly dark
You had one eye on the webcam, and watched yourself smirk
And all the men dreamed that they'd be your 'cammer,
They'd be your 'cammer, and....

You're so vain, you probably think this blog is about you
You're so vain, I'll bet you think this blog is about you
Don't you? Don't you?"

With apologies to Carly Simon.

How many people, when they read that, thought "why is she writing about me?" Or, is that me, or is that so and so? How many people assumed that it was about them? Or someone here? Hmmm?

A major reason that we develop suits of armor, is because we assume that the other person knows what's in our heads. We assume their intentions, their motivations, and that their perceptions are the same as ours. We assume we know what's in their heads, and make up all kinds of stories in our heads to suit those assumptions. And sometimes, in a disagreement, we accuse them of those assumptions, without ever asking.

And how many of us have been dead wrong? And felt quite foolish afterwards for having assumed something that wasn't true at all? We assume that we're not only the centre of our own universe, but that we're the centre of others, as well. Ummm... no.

We all live in our own heads, with different perceptions based on our life experiences, and what we've been taught. So, when we're hurt or angry by something someone says, we assume they know what our experiences have been, and that they're attempting to upset us deliberately. But, how can a mere acquaintance know our experiences and what our buttons are?

Even in close relationships, we assume others intent and meaning. And then they assume ours. And before you know it, the fight is on, both assuming what the other one means. Neither one listening to each other. Sometimes, the intent is to hurt or retaliate for a perceived hurt on their end. And round and round it goes.

So how do we get off this carousel?

Learn to be impeccable with your word and to stop taking anything personally. Stop making assumptions. Instead of assuming other things are about us, start asking questions, in a calm and reasonable fashion. Start stating what we really want. Not words cloaked in manipulation, but clear concise statements about what we want and need.

The more we don't take anything personally, and don't make assumptions, the more we can communicate with others clearly to avoid misunderstandings.

How making assumptions works. Someone says something to us, and we start weaving a story in our heads - a negative story, about why they said what they did, and what they meant. So we write this huge mental story around them, assuming that it's true. Of course, if it is true, then we feel fairly self-righteous.

But many times, it isn't true. It's true for us, because that's our perception through our own eyes. Their perception may be entirely different, and unless we ask, we have no way of being able to clearly identify their intent or meaning.

So what if we didn't make any assumptions? What if we didn't assume we knew what was in other's heads, and stopped judging them negatively, because of what's in our own?

There'd be a lot less drama in our lives. We assume we know what others mean or think. We assume the worst, and judge others, based on the assumption that they have judged us. So if we stop assuming anything, we stop judging, we stop making up stories, and life becomes a lot less complicated. In fact, other people start to be a lot less threatening and a lot less frightening.

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"WARNINGS SIGNS"

ITs All Depend, At What Stage You Are At The Moment!
If you Already are seen Visions, If you Are Feeling Violent!, Toward Other People, If You Are Letting Your Self Go,You are not feeling Hungry To eat Your " Favourite Foods", If you are Staying in doors, Not wanted to See or Talk to Anyone,If You Feel Unworthy, If you Feeling Not Wanted to live Anymore.
"You Need To Seek Medical Help Immediate"
Get Your Self To A Near Hospital!
"Please Do it For Your Self And your Loves One"
"Medications Should Be The Last Result"
" And Just For Short Time" By Reducing the Doses Slowly! " This Is To Avoid Addiction!

What Help You To Overcome Depression!

To Overcome Depression: You Need To Express What You Are Feeling( Talk, Talk) If You Can Not Talk To A Love One ," Contact Head Space" Or Similar Helping Place ! As soon Is Possible!
They Will Counselling You, And you Will Feel Better And Better!
"Do Not Miss Any Appointmments"
...................................................Continued....................................................................................................By falicia
What Is Your Opinion?

I woke up around midnight and couldn't fall back asleep. Got up a couple times, played a computer game, didn't get sleepy, tried to watch a documentary on China history, didn't get sleepy so I let my mind wander.

Bear in mind for those that don't know me, I semi-retired two months ago and moved from one city to another. I now live ten minutes (probably less) from my aging parents. After working my whole life, going to school, raising kids I now find a lot of extra time on my hands. What to do?

I know I'm getting back into volunteering as I did that in the city I just moved from, the main focus was feeding the hungry but donating my time is on hold for now until I know what I want to do or am needed.

When I was younger I was gung ho to garden and loved what I grew, somehow I faded away from that but the juices to start gardening again have been flowing recently. My first attempt at tomatoe & eggplant in a "grow pot" was a failure. I'm joining a community garden which I think my last blog was about. I saw their compost piles and got even more inspired. The month of July and August are brutally hot here, to hot for most things except onions and okra but it dawned on me while I couldn't sleep and went into busy brain thinking mode that I could start seedlings in the house. I jumped up to go watch you tube on how to do things.

So far I built an egg carton greenhouse to start some bok choy seeds given to me and some cherry tomatoes. Then after several more videos I'm all into making some bean sprouts all of which I dearly love. Now I'm just waiting for it to get light enough outside so I can go get my soil to prepare, hence why I get to write a blog while I wait for the light.

If I were working, not being able to sleep would be very negative, but now that time doesn't matter I can turn it into a positive!

Of course I will probably fall asleep before I get to eat breakfast, so what, who cares!

its better to be born a bit crazy .becose when you go a bit crazy ..people wont notice it so much ….t. m dillonger..