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"May or may not be such a good thing"

This is something I have been told many times in my lifetime. It is a nice compliment when it is said in nice a way.

What isn't so nice is the mentality that if one appears young one must also be young in the head.

Sometimes it is a little funny to watch people as they do this. After they talk with me a little while they think to ask my age. When I answer I usually get a surprised look (lol I love this moment). The good part is that most of them begin adjusting their level (it is noticable)... at least they adjust

The younger people sometimes have a problem with the adjustment part That's ok, I have learned the art of not giving them a choice.




"The young woman who called me girl"

I was on the phone trying to help my son get the title for his car from a car lot. The female on the phone was not nice to my son. I called her myself the next day. She tried to lie to me twice about what the DMV (Dept of Motor Vehicle) policies were. I simply said no and explain to her what they will do.

Then she got huffy and called me "girl"...
I didnt know whether to be mad or laugh (because only a b-word of a woman calls another woman they do not know a girl in such a manner in the first place). I asked her her age, she was 30, and then I laughed heartily... I said "well I guess I will take that as a compliment seeing as I am 15 years older than you"(Oh how I wish I could have seen her face at that moment) She was very nice after that. She even called me within a week letting me know that my son could come and pick up his title. My son smiled sheepishly at me because he didn't think I could get her to do it, "thanks Mom"

I can't stay in a relationship
where there is no love, and it
isn't fair to you to be stuck in a
relationship that's a lie. I hope
that you're able to move on, and
meet someone who will love you
the way you deserve to be loved.

I take a trip down the road of memories looking at pictures of the me I use to be...

Then a look in the mirror, a glance around me and I wonder where I am?

Time has brought many trails on a road I suppose I chose. It has changed the person I use to be.

Who was better she or me?

Is there a road back to the past? A way to click my heels and change ? Perhaps make different choices. Value and hold on to what I lost. Spending more time with what really matters. Make less mistakes.

How hard will that road be? The way back to finding me.....

Don't live in the past. You might
miss the great things happening
in your present.

Imagine you paint your old boat and decide to take it out on the lake, even though it’s a foggy day. As you steer through the fog, another boat slams into your boat damaging the new paint job.

Most of us will be furious why didn’t the person in the other boat watch where he was going? Just when we try to react in anger we realize that the other boat is actually an empty boat that is drifting.

Soon our anger disappears.

(A Zen story)

In Life we often come across people and events like empty boats.

Even if there was a person steering the other boat and he deliberately rammed our boat, his behavior had nothing to do with us and we have no control over his actions. What others do or say is done for their own reasons, and most of the time they don’t even know the reasons. They may be driven by unconscious forces of their own wounds and pains.


One thing we must always remember is that we only have control over our own boat and must not lose it. If we find it difficult to respond from an aware and empathetic place, we must always steer clear.

Ramming back at an empty boat will only ruin the paint bit more.!!!



Wish you a blissful journey this day!!!!

From last week I have been reading a story about Rachel Doezal,
she identify herslef as a black-person. <only she white>

Long ago I had a friend who is a white Jamaican,I had never thought about him being white.

I have 2 dauthers they are half and half,they are at home on the Island and very much at home here.

So my question is. If Rachel Doeszal wants tobe a black person

why not let her be the person she identifys with ??

You cannot avoid risk without avoiding life.

As Henry David Thoreau once said, “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.”

Living is a risk. Happiness is a risk. If you’re not a little scared sometimes, then you’re not doing it right. Don’t worry about mistakes and failures,
worry about what you’re giving up when you don’t even try. Worry about the life you’re not living and the happiness you’re forgoing, as you merely exist in the safety of your comfort zone. Give yourself permission to be one of the people who survived doing it wrong, who made mistakes, but recovered from them and grew into your truest self... #Jt

Be Kind

Yes, it seems obvious, but it’s easy to get frustrated with someone you love, who doesn’t seem to be getting over “it,” whatever “it” may be. It’s natural to feel yourself losing your temper, when this is something you think you could handle so much better.

Everyone goes through those times, and the best way to ride the rough waves is to endure them. It can be done; your loved one will survive, but he also needs to know it’s okay for him to let himself hurt. He can’t be in such a rush to “get over it” that he tamps the hurt down, where it can fester and make the future even worse.

So remember: Be kind when you’re looking for the
right words of encouragement to one you love. You will find the right thing to say. Just put yourself in their place, and imagine how you’d feel if you were on the receiving end of your words... #Jt

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"if I had a penny for every penny I didn't have."
would I be any the wiser?

Sometimes I feel like I should be a bit bad, as being too nice has always put me in trouble. Is it good to be bad sometimes ?