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Starting on July 1st, I have laid a budget, that I am going to adhere by. I made a spreadsheet, where I wrote my income and my expenditures, and when all is said and done, I will have money left. That's the benefit of moving to a place where I know my rent in advance. Where I have a flat fee to pay. I also came to realize, that I have too many streaming services. I spend $109 a month just on streaming. I need to look into cutting down on them.. But I need them all.. I might just keep them all, actually. They are pretty handy to have, and I will not run out of content anytime soon.

Now it's time for some money stuff! The biggest post I have, apart from rent, is my food budget. A massive $196 in total each month. What can I say, I am a foodie.. I am always looking for ways to improve my cooking.. Anyway.. I have three expensive months, and nine "cheap" months. The expensive months, I spend $1244, and on the "cheap months, I spend $1211. I get $1474 each month, so when all is paid, and I have put some money into savings, I will still have money left over. That's a first for me, since I used to spend all my money in 14 days.. Sometimes 7 days.. When I moved to Scotland, I got the biggest reality check ever, which I needed. Since then, I have been managing my money. Rarely have I fallen behind on bills, and it's almost six years ago since I came back home.

Speaking of saving up money.. My dream is to own a house. It doesn't matter where it is, as long as it's mine. Or maybe just an apartment somewhere. Apartments are cheaper than houses anyway.. But I would like to own some property one day. I am thinking with my trucking job, I can save up even more than I am now, because if I don't change my spending habits, I can comfortably send almost triple into my savings than what I do now.

But we'll see what happens. Right now, I plan to hold my budget for three years, minimum. I am sure it's doable!

Get lost Liz , The Gaffa has a job for you licking commy boots

when we look in our ward robes ,how often do we choose our favourite shirt or blouse trousers or slacks ,
shoes are another thing where we have a pair that are so comfortable that they are a delight to wear,
and yet we never buy two ,
it is only after they have disappeared from the shops that we wish we had bought a second pair,
in reality most of the clothes and shoes that we buy , we very rarely wear,,
the same applies to your cooker why do we always choose the same gas ring or electric ring to cook on if only using one pot or pan,,
the same applies with driving to work or the shops ,,the same route taken time after time ,,
which in turn makes us creatures of habit or does it have to be this way,,
i always started my day with a cup of tea and later followed by coffee,,
but i changed my habit by alternating my morning drinks, and also changed my drive into the city and so i see and do things differently which actually makes the drive more enjoyable and not the hum drum that it used to be ,
it is surprising that small changes to the norm actually affect your senses and adds to your awareness ,,,

many people have this weird fight within . They keep fighting for years seeking medical advice too . Every day their brain plays a new trick on them . Some even give up and also give up their life . But there is more to life than suicide and we must encourage these people as well that suicide is not an option .
This was or actually is my problem too , every day my brain would play new tricks on me . My way of copping was ignoring it also seeking mental advice . Also occupying my mind , i joined various groups on facebook , book groups , video game groups , mental health groups and also more focus on my job so my mind would be occupied .
the main thing about this that an empty mind is easy enough to trick but an occupied mind can easily ignore . but that was my case i occupied my mind and that worked for me . i told my self that this world had more to offer than my twisted imagination , there are so many things to do . i made a phrase ''100,000 years worth things to do in this 80 years life '' . By this i copped . but this is my method and it worked for me . Other people have other methods that works for them because every mind is different.
But suicide should not be an option , life is very beautiful . but some people have difficulty seeing this . We must encourage them motivate them that they don't have to give in and show them the beauty of life .
Also seeking professional advice is a must , i repeat seek professional advice . there's nothing wrong about it . A lot of people visit the shrink once in a while . So seek professional advice . Also encourage the people as well . this life is too valuable for suicide .
Please give your opinion .

It's official! I have moved out from my old place into my new room, in a very small apartment. The move took around 40 minutes, all included. That's 40 minutes from pickup to delivery, because we could fit everything in a trailer. My sister's boyfriend helped, and he borrowed his fathers SUV, which meant we could bring everything on the first go, and not do multiple trips.

So now I am unpacking. I am almost finished. All I need to unpack is my clothes, and then I need to find a suitable place for the moving boxes. I am thinking under my bed, since it's tall enough to make them all fit.

I am looking forward to exploring this new city I have moved to. So many places to find, plus I look forward to my mental health being just a little bit better, now that I don't have to walk on eggshells all the time! It's gonna be awesome!

Next up is to schedule a weekly dinner appointment with K. I asked her if she was game for that, which she was. So now we just need to find a day of the week, and when the first dinner appointment (not a dinner date) will be. I am thinking Wednesday, since it's in the middle of the week. It could also be Saturday, which could no doubt involve a movie afterwards.

All I know is this: It's gonna be the BEST. THING. EVER!!!

Live is Life by Opus



Will be obliged if someone could post this song for me please.

TIA

How do you respect somebody who does not respect themselves; therefore, making it likely they do not respect others.

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My first suspicion, ...help them past that harsh self-inner voice would be a good start. As just read about...this voice is most likely developed from childhood and is most likely not even relevant in adulthood...but it is still something that needs to be addressed in adulthood.


It is a vicious cycle...one feeding the other....making things internally darker in the suffering mind.

By the way...this is a real experience I am tending with as I type this. It is emotionally painful....especially when it is a person that is very close. Something tells me...a lot of this is going on given the recent climate of society and Covid.

Holy Grail noun

Definition of Holy Grail

1: GRAIL

2. often not capitalized : an object or goal that is sought after for its great significance
Examples of Holy Grail in a Sentence
Finding a cure for cancer is the holy grail of medical researchers.


I read so many self help books in my life that I read out, probably a better word for that; some were betters than others, some i might have learned a little from. But none of them had "the answers", they might have the authors answers, but if you didn't have the same experiences as the author you could only learn what you were ready to learn. One of my first books i read in my young twenties was the Art of Loving by Eric Fromm. I struggled with that one a bit, but at least some of it appealed to me and made sense. I believe my Holy grail was something i hadn't know in my younger years, Love. Another self help book I recall i read later on but i don't recall the author was "Love Is All that's Real." That was a much easier read for me at that time, and i had a much better understanding of what the author was saying. At one point i was tired of reading them, maybe i realized i wasn't going to get my answers from a book, you learn love by loving...i thought so anyway...still i hope there's a light...a transformation from awareness. I haven't found my grail yet...Just to Love and be Loved in Return.

This is what happens when you take social distancing way too far.
In compliance, somebody wasn't thinking this matter all the way through.
They sure-did put their mark this bench to comply with social distancing.
It's TOTALLY USELESS now.

It's in front of a grocery store and a few steps away from where they spray carts with chemical sanitizer. I'm thinking maybe they could have peeled back a portion of the screening so the bench could be used by one person and spray it a few times a day.

From time-to-time people ignore the orange mesh and use the bench sitting one at each end.

35 years ago I worked for a high-end custom cabinet shop and the owner had a sterling reputation to his clients. His relationship to the employees was very different. But... one thing I learned from him was not to use the word hate. He said it was the 'end all' and there is no way coming back from using it... especially if it pertains to a relationship, business or personal.

That said, I disliked working there. His expectations from everyone he employed was often unfair, even when they did a good job.
Our biggest disagreement was his method for calculating the amount of time allocated for a cabinetmaker to work on a project. He used a 'man days' formula that was strictly by the sales price and not by the difficulty of what was sold.

A lacquered wall unit could take a few days to build, then go to the finishing department to be stained and painted.
If it was a mica unit, the cabinet maker would need nearly the same time to cut and build but the laminating didn't go to another department. It was the job of the cabinetmaker to do all the laminating and assembly. More work (for the cabinetmaker) than a painted product.

Two totally different procedures but the boss used the same calculations in the time needed to build the furniture.

I was in charge of production scheduling using his formulas and suggested we use different formulas for wood cabinetry and mica cabinetry. It was as though he wanted the guys making mica furniture to fail as no one could achieve the time schedules imposed on them.

We would give a cabinetmaker drawings of what was needed and how much time allocated to do the work. Depending how desperate they were for a job, many would pack their tools and leave.

Putting an ad in the paper for a cabinetmaker was a joke as he probably employed everyone in the county at one time or another. He had quite a reputation for having a bad company to work for.

Hurricane Andrew struck and the area was without power for nearly 2 weeks. The owner demanded I work outside in the sun, so I took a portable drafting board and folding table and set up in the parking lot making shop drawings for the upcoming orders.

I stayed until a door of opportunity opened and I moved on.
Often when asked who some of my previous jobs were I mentioned that place and so many knew how bad it was there.

While I wanted to say I hated working there, I always said, I disliked it.