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RE: crazy things

Very nicely written with good content.

RE: My Cat Is Back!

Hello Cat...

What a great story...I was smiling all the way through it. I got a laugh when you mention the inconsistency with the story.


I am happy for you Cat and cat. :).

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KN,

I wonder how that would work with two incomes coming in...especially in a marriage? I would think there would be less of a burden on the man with two incomes.

I do agree with you too...about past experiences. They would certainly shape how I carry myself in the future.

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Hello Spring.

...nice to see you here and to hear from you. What you have said I believe is the way of human nature....or the way we are accustom to. :) It seems in modern days, this is trying to be changed with some people.


Thank you for your insight.

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Yes Cat. Something just didn't feel right to me whenever I read that in a woman's profile. I almost got the feeling, even as they were typing the word, it was done with conviction. LOL....maybe I am just weird too.

But I could not see how a relationship could exist if one person perceived themselves as independent. I must say, I have gotten a better understanding after posting this blog. Everyone has been very helpful.

Thank you for your perspective Cat.

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KN....I second that. When in a relationship, I do not think having a competition between partners would go too far smoothly.

We should be our own individuals, be independent, but together we should be a team that enriches each others' lives. :)

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Oh yeah USHA....sorry I didn't comment on your wellness last night...was very tired and forgot.


GET WELL SOON! You are a wonderful soul, and I hope you have the opportunity to enjoy all the beauty around you. :)

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Hello Dedo,

Yes, I think you are correct....SOME women might just be like that. I wonder if competition w/ men isn't why some women proclaim "independent."

But as previously stated, proclaimed independent may have different meanings to different people.

I like L.L.'s advice of being wise to your choice of partner.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts Dedo.

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Hi Wel,

Yes, KN certainly does have some great viewpoints. Thank you so much for stopping by. :)

I am looking forward to checking your blog today and seeing the animals. :)





May your day be wonderful as well.

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Hello KN,

Thank you for commenting.

In a sense, I would automatically assume that a women is her own individual and is independent. But, when they state they are a independent person....before this blog anyway...I somewhat interpreted it as "independent" being part of their perceived identity of themselves. I guess I was thinking of the hard-core feminist. :)

By the way it sounds, the word independent may have different meanings to different people. It may be a good idea to find out exactly what that meaning is to the person who states it in their profiles.

We all have are individual preferences of who we think would be our perfect match.....or.....closest to perfect match. :)

Again, thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

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Oh Yeah L.L.....in addition to my previous comment and to your comment about choosing wisely. INDEED! :)

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L.L.....I do agree. In no way is divorce a one way street. My professor taught us that if there are any problems in a relationship, it is never just one person's fault. He want on to say it is amazing how much communication can fix. :)

I think that is wonderful that women now have the ability to comfortably leave a relationship if problems arise and cannot be resolved.

I know when my ex-gf and I broke up...we were together for 13 years...not married...and I would like to think she was the reason we broke up (lol)....but, we still split everything 50/50...I was happy to do so. That was the fair thing to do.

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Hello Wallops,

I like the part where you state that women are quietly strong. I guess that is where the proclaiming the independent part kinda makes me feel funny. lol

There is no doubt....you do not want to p-off a lady. :)

Thank you very much for the additional information as well. That is something I learned, perhaps a bit too late, that women like the little things that show her you appreciate her.

Thanks again. :)

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I am sorry Wallops and L.L., I am too tired to respond to your latest messages.....but....first thing tomorrow.

Night Night....



P.S. checking for those black widows.

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Kal.....thank you for clarifying shares.


....you may have a point with the independent woman/hell thingy. :)




Okay folks.....I appreciate everything. Thank you all so much. one beer for me. :)


I will check on the blog tomorrow....until then...sleep tight or enjoy the beautiful day in front of you.

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L.L....was just thinking about sleeping....eyelids are getting heavy.

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Pepps...I didn't want your popcorn anyway.



Oops Wal.....I beat you to it. :) I bought my own.

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USHA....you may be watching but you are contributing some great stuff. I just watched the movie. So....women want to be the boss. :) Well....that is not the only thing I got out of it. Thanks for sharing.

Look at me...I bought my own popcorn.

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L.L.....I agree with you there. However, with so many divorces now days and feminism on the rise....I just wonder a bit. :)

Again, I am all for equality. But, does striving for equality and being an extreme independent woman equate as being the same?

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Wallops,

Only the hard core feminist would say differently...


That is an interesting concept. Yes....I think that hits the nail on the head. When I was talking about the moderate independent person and the extreme independent. Perhaps the extreme independent is the hard core feminist. :) ......So, would you say there may be some concern with a hard core feminist?

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L.L....

That might be a concern. You are right though....a lot of terrible relationships may make them have a low tolerance. Hmmm...an independent woman with a chip on her shoulder sounds like a tough one. :) Hopefully....the independent woman with a chip on her shoulder has become more wise....but has an open mind. :))

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....and USHA too? I am needy...in need of popcorn.

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What the heck you women....Pepps/Wall....too independent to share your popcorn?

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Okay L.L.,

I can understand that rational.....a lot of women are stereotyped as gold diggers or clingy. I can see where stating they are independent would ward away such stereotypical statements. :)

Nice.

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Hello Kal,

Thank you for sharing your perspective here. :)

I understand your independence is based of of minimum standards for self-support and shares.

I am not sure what shares are.

Also....yes.....that is the age old secret...."never let the other think my life is hell w/out them." I am somewhat guilty of this myself. I can understand why a person would do that.....but....I think....no matter how hard you do not let the other person know it is not hell without them....especially if it was a long-term relationship....I think the other just knows it is hell. My 2 cents. :)

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Hello Sweet FB,

-own ways of thinking

-own ideas

- do not want to be controlled


Wonderful input. I am assuming if you got into a relationship you would be willing to share with ways of thinking, ideas, and control when it was pertinent? However, you can still remain your own individual within the relationship. :)

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Pepps, L.L., Wallops.....funny stuff.


Yeah....I understand now about the needy....needing me.....lol

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Wallops,

"Someone who has been independent in their living financially and emotionally does not need someone to make them happy BUT when their heart LOVES someone then they NEED that person to feel complete... this person has the need but preceded by love."


Your statement above I think answers a lot of my questions about the person who proclaims to be independent.

Thank you so much for sharing that.


In fact, I wrote down Stephen R. Covey's name. I am going to do some research on his work.

Again, thank you for sharing this.

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SA....exactly. When it comes to a relationship, I agree with you. I do not see anyway how somebody can be purely independent.

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Hello SA,

Hmmm, that is one aspect I did not realize....that men imagine women as weak.

So, independence to you is being able to take care of yourself. Perhaps...showing a man you are not as weak as he may think you are?

Thank you very much for your perspective.