I don't label love as "real love" or "love of my life". Unfortunately love can go away, but still, there was love at some stage.
I have loved in "different degrees", but I don't think that comparing does any good. If you have something special, enjoy it and try your best to keep it going.
It might be fine to meet someone now that is older - but as you got older, he will be OLD. If you want children, he mightn't see them growing up. It was a worry my dad had (I came unplanned a got bit behind my siblings) and I was lucky to have him as long as I had. He died in his mid sixties.
It is your life and if that's what you want go for it.
For me, I want to have things in common with someone and age is one of them. Was never interested in older guys tbh.
The point I was trying to make Gypsy is that you know that you need a lot of alone time. Find someone who is ok with it and that gives you that much space. If expectations are discussed and accepted, it shouldn't be a problem. If it is, it won't work between 2 people anyway.
I do know people that don't know what they want besides their next meal - they do drive me bonkers and I keep away from them. Know a few pretty great people thankfully.
I think at some stage most people know what they are comfortable with. It's a matter of finding someone that wants similar things and both can talk about their wants and needs.
I know it is a plot that was used before but it simply is a great idea - 2 strangers meet on a train and fantasize about killing their partner. Nobody knows they know each other and they kill the other person's partner - police are stumped for a motive.
Not to put a downer on things, but what does work is someone falling through a roof - a farmer around home wanted to repair the roof of a shed and fell through the roof on his head. Didn't survive the night, 3 small kids.
Slurry tank or having a couple of round bales falling on someone should do the trick as well.
If a relationship is complicated, I don't think it will go anywhere.
I would talk about what each of us want and where we see this going beforehand, and if we both want the same, things should run smoothly. If you want to be with the other one, you automatically want to spend time with each other.
Rich or not, mentally these countries are stuck in the stone age. I'm very sorry to hear what that woman has to endure and I wouldn't have the slightest bit of interest to travel to these countries.
Also, you can see here and on another post in the forum how absolutely clueless males from this culture are.
RE: Cosmetic surgery
Would not be for me, but if it makes people feel better, it's their decision.