I think being afraid of things like commitment etc. comes with age and experiences made.
Things were easy and just a given when I was young. We assumed things would go their way as planned and there will eventually be a happily ever after.
I became single in my mid-thirties and was in for a major surprise - suddenly I met guys with baggage that either don't want or can't have a relationship. But there are tons of guys that have no problems with climbing up on anything with a pulse (with some I'm not even sure about the pulse requirement).
There is no point in trying to change (or even trying to understand) imo. I know what I want and what I need to be with someone. The only possibility for me is to have a partner that actually WANTS to have a relationship, still be there when we're both old and grey, full fill EACH others wants, needs and desires...
There are not a ton of people that are compatible out there, but there are a few special ones, so don't give up and I hope you'll find him.
First comment of a (farming) friend of mine - I think we're getting food poisoning.
You have a whole lot of chopping and filling bowls to do, buy lots of raclette cheese, but it's a yummy and relaxing way to have an evening with food (hope no one is completely starving, the pans are quite small).
I did my leaving in the only girls school in town. We had a huge percentage of girls with backgrounds from different cultures, religions, etc. It wasn't a problem, we all were one crew, there wasn't a group of girls that stuck to themselves and didn't mingle.
Also when I started working the place I worked had a mixed workforce and again no problems there.
Looking around now, this seems to change - and that is where more and more problems starts. If people choose to come to life in Europe, they have to integrate - this incl. language as well as customs.
People should integrate into the culture where they choose to live - I'm living in a different country than my home country myself. I'm made an effort to integrate, speak the language, have a job and pay taxes. I also choose a country where I don't have any problems with the culture.
I went to school with lots of girls from all backgrounds and it wasn't a problem as all of them were integrated, spoke the language and mixed with everyone.
The problem starts when people don't want to integrate.
I'm German and we always had a lot of people from all backgrounds. If someone wants to come to Europe, they have to accept the European culture - as everyone has to accept a Muslim culture when going working in the Middle East.
They can live here but have to accept the European culture.
Hi fw, I would think that if people are having a temporary contract and their employment is depending on their performance that they would pull their socks up.
I think common sense gets less as no one wants to say "no" to their kids and be unpopular, and I think a lot of kids don't need to take responsibility for what they do. A lot of kids these days don't need to work as a lot of us when we were younger - the responsibilities that came with that aren't there anymore and more time for doing nothing.
His new girlfriend wanted to absolutely meet me (he said ehem, he probably dropped my name a couple of times in conversation) and unfortunately I only met her once so far. I would have hated to have anything happen to our friendship, but would have understood. She is nice, pretty and down to earth and I like her, shame that they don't go out a lot (not that I'm going out that often anymore). We always talked a lot on the phone anyway and keep that going. Himself likes him as well (and vice versa).
Glad it worked out with the new squeeze, it would have been a shame to loose a friend.
Enjoy your Sunday, going to fix blinds, powerwash and drill on my outside walls now.
.I just read about spayed/neuter...and maybe it's good ...but will she be happy not be able to attracts males any more? I think I could not do that...:)
Do you think your cat is happy to have a heap of kittens 3 times a year because she can't do anything about it?
I find that I have less friends as getting older and I'm ok with it. A lot of friends I made here 10 years ago was during the times I was out and about socialising a lot. Have cut down contact with some of them due to distance and different living circumstances and I'm simply not that close to them anymore.
I'm not devastated about it, what would hurt me would be if my best friend and me would drift apart. We don't see each other that often (he got a (very nice) girlfriend and she doesn't seem to want to go out socialising), but we do talk on the phone a couple of times every week. I'm also close to my mum and my brother, we talk about everything and I have the kind of boyfriend I can do the same with.
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RE: What are you afraid of?
Yep Molly, you're absolutely right there.