It makes me thankful that I grew up and live in the Western world.
Thanks for posting this loulou and highlighting the issue again, it's interesting to see the true colours of some people emerging - name calling and quarreling when the topic is the misery of other people - but can't say I'm surprised.
Does your neighbour have other cats? We had a lot of cats on the farm and even though some got bullied, they always came home. Maybe the company always brought them back?
I think putting as much in writing and getting it signed beforehand is the way to go.
A pre-nup is a good idea, being fair and agreeing on how things should be split before the resentment starts. There is no talking to each other once you resent the other person.
I wouldn't want it all, but I would want half of your fund.
Then try to change legislation Cat. Yes, everyone can make mistakes but it's him who has to change something. It doesn't need to be like this.
There is different legislation in other countries and sometimes kids live with their father and that will be taken into account when we're talking alimony there.
I just find it sad to hear about something like this and kids being involved.
This is what is happening and public opinion enforces it.
I disagree Cat, he is a guy who though with different body parts than his brain and can't stand up to her.
We had a case like that in the family, and yes, she is a terrible person, but he was an idiot for putting up with it. This is about making bad choices and I wouldn't go as far as bringing public opinion into it. The rest of your life is a long time and people should pick carefully, simples.
Laws are different in that regard in Germany. Women can go back to work when kids are in kindergarden or school and the partner not having the kids living with them has to pay for the kids but not the former partner.
Cat, I don't actually know any guy who is like that.
Why let themselves being suppressed? I grew up in a household where both my parents discussed their decisions, each of them had their strength and they complemented each other. There was never any fighting or telling someone what to do.
I don't know any women around me who "want the men to walk around in their scants".
If someone let "political correctness" dictate what to say or do I pity them. Again, no one like that in my family or circle of friends. Anyone saying "yes dear" to me I would laugh and hit the road.
I do think people should stop blaming society if they can't stand up for themselves though.
I don't get this blaming "society" or whatever. I had to do what I was told when young and living with my parents, but at this stage I'm capable of making up my own mind.
I don't need "society" to tell me what I should do and I'm not looking at "society" for guidance.
I wouldn't be interested in someone (as a partner or female/male friend) who would be that easily influenced - and I don't know many over the age of teenagers/young adults that actually are.
I like someone who is his "own man", I can bounce ideas off and who has a strong mind.
It goes both way yanno, I had a good few guys trying to figure out my financials. Also there are quite a few guys who (when meeting or on a first date) talk about their car, salary etc. I find this a turn-off (someone with a decent personality doesn't need that) but not everyone does - I'm just surprised that they are surprised that the opposite gender goes after their money.
We pick our partner ourselves - involving the brain in that process has it's definite advantages.
I only want to be with someone I'm on eye level with - someone who knows what he wants and goes and gets it. Enjoying the differences between the genders is something positive methinks and that doesn't make one gender better than the other.
I don't get getting married without a pre-nup tbh. Once you see what's going on around you, even without someone marrying you just for your possessions, people change and relationships can end. A pre-nup is a good way of protecting what's yours (and your partners) before you got married.
I would never ask something of someone I wouldn't want to give or do myself and have found that fairness and respect works fairly well.
Some people just want to meet someone very badly. Others have a different self-perception than other people would have of them.
There are a lot of people on the net who can't find someone or the type of person they want. That's when perception is used.
It takes time to get to know a person. There are people really worth getting to know, and others are better avoided. In an ideal case scenario, you'll get back what you are giving to someone.
Automation will continue like it did in the area of workplace over the last years (and decades).
I don't think that it will replace for most people human contact. We are "herd animals" and I think that most people do need interactions with others. I know it is not something I would want to miss.
RE: India's Daughter
It makes me thankful that I grew up and live in the Western world.Thanks for posting this loulou and highlighting the issue again, it's interesting to see the true colours of some people emerging - name calling and quarreling when the topic is the misery of other people - but can't say I'm surprised.