KNenagh Blog Comments (3,678)

RE: If you were on Death Row...

There has to be ice cream GG.

I think something like that would haunt witnesses forever.

RE: Gramma's in an empty nest at 43

Sorry about your parents not being well healthwise Enigma. My family is in Germany and seeing that my mum gets older, I always keep in touch but also try to visit as often as possible and we would be going off doing things for the day. It's tough not having your family close by, would be great for everyone if you could see the little ones more often.

RE: Vaccinations?

There are diseases that have been eradicated through vaccines. I do think that vaccinating against these are important. There are others where it is a personal decision, like flu vaccine etc. There have been a couple of deaths through flu here in Ireland last year, it would be interesting to know if these people got a flu shot or not.

RE: I have been feeling so alone of late,

It happens Non. Mostly when things are not going well in life.

If you have no one to talk to to take away the loneliness, change something fundamentally to make yourself happier and to distract you. Just going out and meeting people can help. People have busy life's and if you can't spend time with people you know, try to widen your circle of acquaintances. It is hard to do something different when stuck in a not so good place.

RE: Gramma's in an empty nest at 43

I do get that, but it is good to see each other in person. Sounds like they are happy where they moved to.

One day 2B.

RE: West and East

Try to get into a good place for yourself. The rest will follow eventually LS.

RE: If you were on Death Row...

A well-done steak, veg and ice cream.

I don't know if I would want anyone to witness it, but I know my family would be there. Hopefully someone important to me as well.

I would tell the people close to me how much they mean to me.

RE: Gramma's in an empty nest at 43

Must be hard, best of luck 2B.

RE: West and East

It takes time to get to know someone and to determine if 2 people want to spend the rest of their life together.

Best of luck, there is a lot of pressure on you.

RE: Gramma's in an empty nest at 43

Jeez, 2B, there are a good few South Africans in Ireland, they go back and forth from what I'm getting. I don't know anything about the UK though.

Hope you will see them, maybe meet them somewhere in the middle for a holiday?

RE: Why Are Compliments from Guys So Hard To Accept?

Thanks Ed, back atcha.

RE: West and East

If I hear from a guy "might lead into something", "friends, maybe more", "no expectations" - it tells me that he doesn't want something serious. This is talking from my experience, if someone wants a relationship going somewhere, he will say so and act accordingly.

If you don't miss him, will it change? I'm not romantic, but if there is something, I want to be with that person.

This is just me and something you have to decide for yourself - if someone wants something different than I, I won't go there as it will never go anywhere and I have better things to do than getting a heartache. Be reasonable but go for what makes you (and someone else) happy.

Talk to him, it has to work for both of you.

RE: West and East

If you see him in 9 days - you have an opportunity to talk. Maybe talk about what is important to you, the expectations you have for a relationship in general and what are his?

If this is vastly different, have a think if it's better (for both of you) to cut your losses and be free to meet someone that is more compatible. You have a good opportunity to talk when you are with each other.

Best of luck.

RE: Gramma's in an empty nest at 43

My mum is 76 and still cooks too much Enigma. We all have a strong pull to home and keep in touch. I'm the only one not living there (older siblings with fairly grown-up kids). Home is where my mum and family is and I hope to have her around a lot longer.

Are you pulled in for babysitting?

2B, sorry to hear that, any chance of visiting them?

RE: West and East

I live in another country than my country of birth, both have a similar cultural background as they are both European - but I do find cultural differences and values too big in a lot of cases. I met someone with a cultural background closer to mine and some things, like communication and values, are way easier (but circumstances are a bit complicated).

On the other thing you mentioned - I have found that things should be easy in the start. If you already have to struggle before you are together or to have a relationship off the ground, I never could see something like this going somewhere.

If it's difficult now, can you see it getting easier?

RE: Why Are Compliments from Guys So Hard To Accept?

I'm not very comfortable getting compliments, but I do know the sincere ones and will say "thank you". I also make compliments to those around me.

I can't understand a partner not accepting them.

RE: It's a kind of magic ..

A robot to go to work for me, let me get some more hobbies and a life of leisure.

Good night Biff.

RE: Llege (I Have Returned From Vacation)!

It is good if there is someone that looks after them Ed. Hope it'll go ok for another while.

RE: Llege (I Have Returned From Vacation)!

Sooner or later something has to happen Ed. Is there a good place they can go to nearby? It would be good if they at least told someone where they would want to go if they couldn't look after themselves anymore.

Hope they will be alright like this for another while. It's probably hard to have to give up their independence.

RE: What am I missing?

KNenagh...positivity, maybe...but I do keep my friendships down to a small circle. Those who know me very well, those I can trust. See, Ive never had the scenario of having to choose friendship over relationship or vice versa...the friends i have are supportive regardless and never put me in the predicament to choose. Theyve always been my safety net though only problem being my 2nd shift employment so it makes it hard to find the time that doesn't clash schedules ...yes, people like what they like...and those men that fall into the friend zone are good for just that. Good people though, just not for me. Ohh but what to do with this crazy Gemini I've chosen for me! Lol there is definitely that mutual attraction ...but the understanding is lacking and maybe heartache is to follow but who knows. confused dunno its so not fair

Your working hours do sound as if they make everything difficult. It's hard to socialise and meet someone when you work when everyone else is off.

Same here, have a few, good friends, one best friend to confide in and my family. Never needed to choose and don't think I would want to.

Being "good" is not enough for a relationship unfortunately. Someone safe isn't necessary someone you would want to share your life with. I know too well we're you're coming from.

Best of luck with the Gemine!

RE: Yourself

You figured that one out a lot earlier than I did.

Best of luck on your journey.

RE: What am I missing?

I would see it as something positive Enigma. Friends are important, it is a safety net for me and I wouldn't want to risk a good friendship for a relationship that mightn't work out. Or in my case, I have a friend where I know it would never work - and I don't want to lose him as a friend. Maybe it is similar for them.

People like what they like, and I have met some lovely guys I knew would bore the head off me when together or by being with them I would have a life I didn't want. And vice-versa - guys that wanted an obedient wifey or a super model or simply someone else - that's just the way it is.

If something is supposed to work long-term - there has to be a mutual attraction and understanding or there will be more heartache.

Yep, I know life isn't fair.

RE: single or not?

They can and they are welcome to each other.

Just wouldn't be getting involved.

RE: Dear ladies..

Jeez, don't ponder Ian.

I kinda copped onto the last part. If this is how you feel at the moment, life it out and enjoy yourself. Just be upfront with it to whoever you're seeing.

RE: Dear ladies..

From your writings. I don't get the impression that you are looking for a significant other to share your life with, and you do date. You don't seem to give women BS about what you want, nothing wrong with it and have fun.

Most people don't "know" each other but it's possible to get the idea about someone from what they write.

RE: Spring at last

Didn't do new years resolutions, so not going to do any now.

Write a bestseller woman and move with someone to warmer climates if that's on the agenda.

I'm off doing more painting now.

RE: Dear ladies..

No surprise, so what's the problem?

RE: different struggles but one dstiny

I think people that had some struggles appreciate life and the people that are in it more. It also shapes people.

I have changed my mind about people in the past and it taught me to get to know people before I make up my mind about them. Treat others as you want to be treated yourself.

Good people are good people and I have seen the same as yourself georgie.

RE: different struggles but one dstiny

That's the official name here as well sands, it's just what most people call it locally.

RE: PIGS Pigs pigs

Ok, there are some I will address from now on as "starfish".