Like everything else there are advantages and disadvantages to being free and single. I know what you mean about the wedding thing though. I got invited to one for next month and feel a bit odd about going alone, although overall it won't bother me and I will go. It is just nicer sometimes to have a partner for functions and stuff like that. Sharing is such a big part of caring.
Very true. A marriage contract is just that though. A contract for life. Some people use that to control and keep people for years using emotional blackmail and such.
An optional out or renewable contract might give some a failsafe device to get out of jail, so to speak.
When I married, my husband carried on a co-dependant relationship with his mother all our married life. He asked her advice on everything and she chose everything for my house down to what colour I painted my walls. He treated me like crap because I wouldn't play his co-dependant game.
When I left him, I told her she could have him back. He moved back home 17 years ago, and is till there with him mum , now in her 90's still getting up and making his breakfast and doing his laundry and telling him what to wear and he still treats her like crap and tells her she is not doing it well enough or fast enough or good enough for his tastes.
We are really asking can you handle what is happening to you, or do you need help. It's more like are you ok by yourself, only we shorten it and leave out the ending.
Several things spring to mind here. Teenagers do need more sleep, that's a fact.
She may not be going to sleep when she is going to bed. Make sure lights are out, no tv, computer music etc. If she uses them at night take them off her.
She may have a sleep disorder. (Not getting her rest while she sleeps). All else fails get her checked out by a doctor.
If you go up there ever 10 mins for 2 hours, she is getting used to the fact you won't let her be late and she is getting your attention and learning nothing about responsibility for getting herself places on time.
It is almost impossible to sleep when you are upright, so get her out of bed and stand her in the bathroom.
A cold wet washcloth works and take the bedcovers off.
If she is not getting rewarded for staying in bed she won't do it. (No extra time in bed).
Get her her own alarm clock, a loud one and put in on the other side of the room.
Reward her if she gets up on time, take priveliges away if she doesn't. Make it her responsibility. To get what she wants , she has to do a little of what you want.
Hope this helps. I've used all these methods on the teens I raised and the ones I foster.
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Ya got that right!!!!!!
RE: Do you find it embarrassing to be Single?
Like everything else there are advantages and disadvantages to being free and single. I know what you mean about the wedding thing though. I got invited to one for next month and feel a bit odd about going alone, although overall it won't bother me and I will go. It is just nicer sometimes to have a partner for functions and stuff like that. Sharing is such a big part of caring.