I'm beginning to believe that it's not so much about giving in, or giving up on love, or finding someone, but more we should be changing our minds on how we go about it.
Sitting at a computer all day talking about looking for love is mostly going to get you........... someone who sits at a computer all day talking about looking for love.
We do find the one or two exceptions every so often who do meet and get married or live together, but we still don't know how successful, long term, these relationships are.
It's a bit like going to bars to look for a partner. That kind of relationship, if you find it, is less likely to last either, because the person you met most likely likes sitting in bars, likes getting drunk, or has a habit they can't stay away from, so would be useless in being there for another person. Doesn't bode well for being able to face up to their problems either, or being able to communicate them, when they look for their solutions in the bottom of a glass.
We quite often meet people on here who have habits they are entrenched in too, like being bad communicators in real life, having habits they don't reveal, medical conditions, being introverted, anti-social, in debt, idealists, pessimists, the battered, the idle, the poor, the abused, deviants, even those who claim they are perfect, all kinds of weird histories, so if this is the only place we are looking, then what are we courting?
All this is so much easier to hide on here, and so disappointment ensues, sometimes even tragedy.
None of that appears to be what people say they are looking for when they try to explain their wants and needs in the forums anyway, so what are the chances of improving their lot and finding that special someone if this is the sum total of their search?
Is this not a bit soul destroying?
No wonder there is a lot of talk about giving up......
Not sure we can really appreciate the great feelings if we have no bad comparisons to measure it by.
But I think the saying means that we are better to have experienced love at all, know and claim that feeling for the wonderful thing it is, than never to have experienced it, even if that means we had to get hurt.
Mistakes are a learning experience. Having those particular mistakes, you are less likely to make those particular ones again.
The thing about lessons is, we get wiser, but sometimes that can also mean we get fussier, to our own detriment.
How many chances you get depends on how open you are to letting it in and how well you got rid of the lingering after effects of the other ones.
It's a bit like looking out at the world through lovely lace curtains. They let in light and protect you from the bad effects of the sun. They give you privacy, and let you heal. They defuse the world and look pretty, but to see clearly, and to be seen, we have to open them up and let in the good as well as bad rays, and accept the view, atmosphere. and light, because we need the full effect of it, to live. .........
If we were to go with the language most spoken in the world, then we all have to learn mandarin chinese.........
Cultural and language differences have always been a good thing, in that we have to make a bigger effort to step outside our comfort zones and make the effort to learn about other cultures and realise that we are not the centre of the world, even if we are the centre of our own little worlds.
Yes in Ireland our national anthem is sung in two different languages and is translated into many more to help with integration.
If an immigrant can translate a national anthem into their own language it helps them to affiliate with it more, take it on more as part of themselves, and thus integrate more into that nationality.
Pushing yourself and your abilities on people is not a good way to get them to trust you.........nor is thinking that you know best. You don't know any of these people.
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Crotalus likes to argue.
You are way off the mark with Flower of the Sun. Stop telling her what to do. What goes on between her and Crotalus is their business, not yours.
I think it's polite to at least have a smattering of basic sentences in the language of a country you are travelling to or visiting for a while. It shows respect and helps with being accepted into a culture not your own. I'm bi-lingual, but can speak a little of 6-7 other languages, not enough to be fluent, but enough to show willing....
It's a two way thing. It's not always you running them off. They all come with their own baggage/ previous histories, or coping mechanisms. Some are willing to sit and talk emotions and others run. Can't talk when you run, or close doors. It's not all your fault.
Now enough arguing semanitcs. You have given no references that qualify you to say any of the things that you have so far on a range of topics pertaining to different aspects of healing, that you have not personally experienced. That speaks for itself. I have already cited my qualificatons in previous threads .
Now unless you were born gifted like the OP and have used these skills in trying to heal people, you don't have a leg to stand on here, because you are not then qualified to speak on the subject from an unbiased point of view, as to whether it was successful or not.
What you have then, is a personal opinion from a limited viewpoint, which is not woth a twopenny damn in the grand scheme of things.
It is no better nor any worse than anyone else's opinion, but it is limited, so you cannot speak for ALL of anything, neither ALL the people who do it, nor ALL of what they do.
Thing is......(besides you not citing your qualifications), that this whole thread is not about evangelism or faith healing, but about energy healing. It does not require faith like evangelistic healing supposedly does. Now purporting to know ALL about what we were talking about, better than we do, and then citing evangelism, psychology and faith healing going wrong, only goes to prove that you don't know ALL about this, or it's effects.
C. Most of what people didn't understand about certain forms of healing now come under "integrative healing" in scientifically accredited medical schools all over the world, to include the well documented case-by-case work of Edgar Cayce, whose hospitals carry on his work to this day.
If you are looking for documented proofs, this would be a good place to start. It is the most well documented of the places you could look and do actual research in, if you were actually interested in havng a non biased view of healing, by all means, and not just the very few places you have looked so far, that have views that match your ego's plan for what you think is right.
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RE: When Do We/Or Should Give In?
I'm beginning to believe that it's not so much about giving in, or giving up on love, or finding someone, but more we should be changing our minds on how we go about it.Sitting at a computer all day talking about looking for love is mostly going to get you........... someone who sits at a computer all day talking about looking for love.
We do find the one or two exceptions every so often who do meet and get married or live together, but we still don't know how successful, long term, these relationships are.
It's a bit like going to bars to look for a partner. That kind of relationship, if you find it, is less likely to last either, because the person you met most likely likes sitting in bars, likes getting drunk, or has a habit they can't stay away from, so would be useless in being there for another person. Doesn't bode well for being able to face up to their problems either, or being able to communicate them, when they look for their solutions in the bottom of a glass.
We quite often meet people on here who have habits they are entrenched in too, like being bad communicators in real life, having habits they don't reveal, medical conditions, being introverted, anti-social, in debt, idealists, pessimists, the battered, the idle, the poor, the abused, deviants, even those who claim they are perfect, all kinds of weird histories, so if this is the only place we are looking, then what are we courting?
All this is so much easier to hide on here, and so disappointment ensues, sometimes even tragedy.
None of that appears to be what people say they are looking for when they try to explain their wants and needs in the forums anyway, so what are the chances of improving their lot and finding that special someone if this is the sum total of their search?
Is this not a bit soul destroying?
No wonder there is a lot of talk about giving up......