My ex said close to the same thing before we split. He was mad after the cats shedding and said, we are never having cats again. I said you know I love cats. I said I will always have a cat so it's me and cats or nothing. I would not let him bully me. I think when a partner does something like that to you when they know it is one of your favorite things, then its close to the end. It is not going to get better if they enjoy hurting you.
Now, he has 3 cats. Plus, he let me name 1 one of them after one of our cats. He has a calico cat who looks and acts like one of our cats, Cookie who passed 1 year ago. She likes to curl up around your head when you are sleeping.
That is what I think, but I do remember one guy who had a problem with me being in a Doberman Rescue Group. He would say to me, (if I went to a Rescue event and saw my friends), why are they rescuing Dobermans and not a child?
I also at the time volunteered at a thrift shop where the money collected went to a shelter for abused women and children. I would tell him, I do both. Then would say, it is not your business.
He was quite daft, he did not help children himself.
The last time I saw him was in my apt when he was standing next to my front door. He had started in again with me about why do you not do this or that? I opened the door and pushed him out. I said, that was it.
None of the guys I have liked have ever had a problem with my Doberman's. They have been friendly. I also have 2 cats.
Though, my guy now, doesn't really like cats. But he knows I won't give my two up. We are part of a package. Just like he has 2 older children. I maybe their step Mom.
I was with the wrong person and it ended. Then went on many a date and decided I didn't like who I was going out with.
So I started getting picky. I have found some better dates. Then out of the blue, in facebook, a friend of a friend and I start to talk. Even from England he came to see me. Hopefully, he is coming back for New Years. We write and talk almost every day. Now his daughter writes to me.
It does happen, but if you are going to have that attitude, what will you do if someone good goes go your way? Are you going to let her in or just give up forever.
It's up to you, I know I would hate that type of life.
I hope you can open up to some new possibilities. Also, if you are always negative, people can pick up on that.
I met someone on Facebook who loves Doberman's like me. That is how it started, friends of friends, and then we started talking. He came to see me last week. He just went back to Liverpool, England. It was a great visit. We got along well. He is suppose to come again to see me right before New Year's so we can be together. He would like to marry me and move to the US. But we are not going to rush things,we will have 9 months or so to visit back and forth to make sure things are good. I also want pre-marital counseling from a church. So wish us luck.
The Dobe
If we get married, after living here with him for a few years, we may go back to England and stay.
So, I say yes to the poll. But this is something that just happened to me, I had never planned to leave my country. But we can get duo-citizenship.
You will have to talk to me about that. I have voted myself in for Ecology. Permission granted.
First I see problem with your title, it should be Master Gardener. I have heard they call Master Gardener's in England landscape gardener. We need to have constancy. Hence, the reason I got my job.
So Steve6610, would you consider yourself to be a Master Gardener, dearest?
The Dobe
Also, what is it with 2 Steve's both having 4 numbers behind their name? Is this a plot?
I should be a cover girl for a magazine called Dumped. But I tell you all, what they say is true, out of the clear blue sky, someone comes along and does sweep you off your feet.
It is happening to me right now. I can't tell you how happy I am that I am not married right now. I am free and can be with someone else that is treating me great.
I meet him through facebook, by one person, I had gotten in contact with Doberman lovers all over the world. Then it happened. He has been writing and calling me all the time. Wednesday night he is getting on a plane to come see me. We hope for the best. I can hardly believe it.
You will find your happiness again. It's just hard for you to see clear right now since you are the one involved. You will be rid of his problems. No one can solve his problems except himself.
It's a big waste of time to hang on to someone when it's over. I recommend talk therapy and trying to get into some hobbies. When you start feeling better, go out and have some fun with friends. Life is going to get better.
Hi Demon, am I really writing here or is my imagination. Yes, I was starting to wonder myself. I was getting itchy to get on with the forums. There has been so real bad but good ones.
Hi Demon, am I really writing here or is my imagination. Yes, I was starting to wonder myself. I was getting itchy to get on with the forums. There has been so real bad but good ones.
Hi Demon, am I really writing here or is my imagination. Yes, I was starting to wonder myself. I was getting itchy to get on with the forums. There has been so real bad but good ones.
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The Dobe
RE: would you 'sacrifice' your pet for your lover?
No, he use to love one of the cats very much. It was the start of the end.Who needs it. I'm happier now.
I know what you mean about loving your Dog. I love Wile the Coyote, Blue Doberman so much. I also love my 2 cat brothers, Piggy and Chewbacka.
The guy who I am serious about now, has 3 Dobermans.
Nite, Jac.
The Dobe