I'd rather be alone with my Doberman and friends that be with a man who was not right for me. Even as a friend only. I told a old boyfriend off tonight since we had become just friends. I thought we could still have fun together. But today he told me he might come see me this month but no promises.
So I told him, I wasn't waiting for him, I am going to Florida this month, and England next month. I told him I have a good guy friend here that has time to do things and I didn't need him.
Then I gave him a link to a song that I thought of after reading his note: It's called "No More, No More" by Phil Collins.
I have my regular friends and some social groups plus Eharmony. So I keep busy. I do not need a guy that doesn't treat me right. I just stopped dating for awhile and decided I like that better than some of the loons I was meeting that had no clue, players.
Since I am single, I do. Of course, I have a Doberman. People tend to stay away from you that you don't know. But he is good with my friends.
One day this young kid was bothering me. He was 10 years old going on 20. I did not know him and he told me he wanted to hang out. When I finished walking a lab, he wanted to go inside with me. I told him I was putting the dog inside someone's house. Then he just hugged me. I told him to get away. Then he did it again. I said stay away from me and went inside the house and told my employee's father. I stayed there until he went away.
Later I was walking my Doberman, I was on one side of the street, he on the other. He did not come close to me. He was smart. That ended that.
I am so glad you told the police about the guy. Also, I would go to talk to someone like they said if what happens starts bothering you. What you went through was a nightmare.
Jan, can you have someone walk you home tomorrow from work. Or as Life said, call a neighbor, they need to be on the look also. I lived in a apt. and there was a peeping tom. A ladies husband would patrol at night with a baseball. That made us ladies more comfortable.
I would use your car key as a weapon when walking around as well as pepper spray.
He did violate you and it really upsets me that he bothered you.
All I know, is I once saw a Navy man in Walmart of all places. We locked eyes too. I would have followed him anywhere, ha. But I keep on with what I was doing. I left the store feeling pretty good. I'm not one to go up to a guy, I was afraid he could be married. I figured if he was interested, he would let me know.
So if he was married, I would say, he did act the right way, he may have noticed, but nothing else happened.
I had a boyfriend from England that visited me. When he was at the airport to go home and we had to separate, he cried like a baby.
The strange thing is, I do cry, but not one tear then. It took him right long to calm down. But we had really only known each other for a week. It felt staged to me.
I have seen my ex cry and will never forget when his Dad died. It affected me deeply.
He cried a few other times.
In general if I see a man cry, I do not view him as weak. I see him as a human being who has feelings also. I'd rather see him weep than hold it in.
That is my answer too. In real life, after my Mother had me, she was holding me and started to drop me. She had an infection and was very sick. Her room-mate caught me. Then after I got home, I had collic for 6 months. My crying was driving my Mom crazy. I am real lucky she didn't drop me on my head then, ha. I'm sure that my Grandparents had to watch me also.
I was bothered by a troll. He had bothered other women. He really went off on me. During the thread, he was reported. I broke the CS rule of doing a thread about the person's attack on me. So I went to CS jail. I'm sure he was very happy. I learned my lesson, just to get off the thread if it gets hot. Just like chat. I do not go on that anymore. There are trolls there that think they rule the room and if you have disagreed with them, they will let you have it.
In my case, the person I loved after 25 years had an affair. I hate the years I gave him. It ended up a big mistake. If you cannot trust the one you love, you have nothing.
But that is not to say, I will not love and trust again.
I have to confess, I say that Madeline is my name if I am at a club with friends and a guy wants to get to know me. Madeline was the name of a character in a Alfred Hitchcock movie.
I'm correcting myself. I meant I had not heard of Cleo doing that. I'm curious, I'm calling your bluff about that. I really don't believe it. Did you goggle for info about Cleo. If you did, quote it for us.
I would need more time, but I would want marriage also. Also a trial of living together. Then marriage. I'd say if we didn't get along during the trial, what would be the point of marriage.
Morgan, right on track. All people are different. Only one thing you do need to watch out for, is not to get involved with another dup of your ex. This happens alot.
I shut off all the advertisements. I'm not out to give all my money to companies that charge to much anyways. I hear that people will buy new toys that are so expensive, etc. It's not worth it.
@Venus, I am you, I get or make small things that are easy on the wallet. It is the thought that counts. I no longer get crazy about it. It's much more fun. I enjoy the free things too. Taking a drive and seeing all the houses lite up. Then just getting together with friends for a little party. I also like to collect branches from outside and make a nice arrangement.
It is all how you decide to celebrate it. You can do fine enjoying it your own way.
Well, I'm suprised JS, I thought that is what you meant. So you were just selfish, do you mean you would not want the other woman to touch your girlfriend? That is if you were talking about having a 3 some with 2 women. I am confused. I really thought you had more morals than most guys here. I guess I was wrong. I'm not knocking you because it is not my business. To each their own.
I just know if I was in love with my guy, another chick would not be welcome. I am the jealous type also. Plus, I would really know just how much he cared for me, nothing if he would do that and knew it would hurt me. That relationship would be over in a minute because it would not be a relationship. It would be a would ever.
@JSuburbia: Well...In a sense...I mean, I'm sure that I'd enjoy it but, that being said, I think there is also a chance that it could complicate things as well. Again, hard to really explain in detail in a thread
I agree with both of you. It may be a fantasy, but in reality, some people have morals and it would not feel great later on the next day.
Women have dressed as men in the theatre as well. Also, movies. I'll always remember Robin Williams in Mrs. Doubtfire "Dude Looks Like A Lady". Also, Dustin Hoffman in Tootsie. Though, I didn't think they looked very attractive as Women.
But some male and female impersonators do look like who they are portraying.
Look at the Scott's, wearing their kilts, they look fine to me. Plus, the band ACDC and the one guy who wears a skirt. I'd say he has rhythm, and knows how to play a guitar.
But if a guy was wearing out flannel pj bottoms with monkeys on them out in public, I would wonder about that.
Also, guys had a phase where they were wearing the loudest comfortable pants ever. I saw one of those guys in Virginia at a car rental place, sure enough, from California.
Hello to all the women here. How are you all? I just noticed we are the only ones replying. Does this mean men don't want to answer or are they busy. I would think most guys would enjoy Chocolate Mint.
I do not know the man, but I agree with you, if he told me we would be together after you left the US, I would want to talk it out to make plans. I would not like his never having a clue.
Right now, it seems he is stalling but isn't being honest with you about it.
I agree with alot of others here on CS, don't be demanding. He will clam up on you. Just tell him you need answers and talk it out. BE direct. Maybe even yes and no questions, and write the questions down. If you are demanding, and he says no to what you are asking, then you will never know what was on his mind.
During that conversation, hell, I would even make notes. Then go over everything he said. Then you decide if that is what you want.
You will know in your heart if that is the answer from him that you want. If it isn't, it's better, to end the relationship.
If he won't give you clear answers, then I'd let him go. It seems everything was fine when you were in the US, then when you went back home, what you thought was going to happen, didn't.
So either it was a love affair or a love affair with someone who can't follow through. Like one of the CS guys said, is if a person really cares about you, he would do what he needed to do to make sure he did not lose you. It seems like that is what you are doing, you want him, but he is being a slacker.
I'm sorry this is happening because love is so wonderful, then things can get all messed up. You don't know if it is because it wasn't true or the person is just not geared up to follow through.
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