doberman3 Forum Posts (1,838)

RE: distance

I have another view about that. If 2 people want to be together, regardless of their age, it can happen.

Roots can be loosened and animals can be taken care of.
It goes back to where there is a will there is a way.
Instead of finding all the reasons for no, look for ways to change a no to a yes.

Live a little, time flies, and stops for no one.

The Dobe

RE: distance

Antoniacv, that is so exciting.

I think it's funny that this thread is about the OP who doesn't want to drive 1/2 hour. You do have to put forth an effort. You are really limiting yourself. I wonder what person might be 1 hour from you. Get real, and ready to drive some or else, just sit at home.
Are you really wanting to find someone?

I think the op should see that some will travel to another country if that is where a person is that they are interested in.
We've got 2 different couples here that are plenty excited about being with each other.

Love can be anywhere.

The Dobe

RE: distance

Vulpine & Nessa - I am not sure I've met your Vulpine. As for Nessa, you seem familiar. I have been on and off of CS.
I am so happy you found each other. It's great news.

The best to you. It's great to read a guy express exactly what he is thinking about his love. Honestly, I wish more would and it would be easier for men & women to get along.
I tell you it was so refreshing to read, and made me smile.
Thanks, Vulpine. I had a dear Uncle who had Irish in him. He made me smile also - he had a great character and enjoyed life.

The Dobe

RE: Is it difficult for you to tell your ex that you have found another love, if yes then why?

I was married 24 years. Our divorce was really rocky. Then he moved to another state. Somehow all the bad feelings disappeared and I felt true peace. We were able to talk and are long distance friends only.

Of course, now I would tell him I'm dating someone. He would also.

He dated much sooner than I did, and didn't tell me he had a girlfriend. I know he didn't want to hurt me - I was still tender. But that passed. We spoke recently about the people we were involved with. The same weekend, I had broken up with a guy, he was breaking up with his girlfriend. We give each other tips - sometimes I do not get a guy, so he tells me what his point of view. I do the same with him. It's good to be able to salvage something out of a marriage.

The Dobe

RE: Is it wrong to let your cat sleep in your bed with you?

Great photo's, Bodleing!!!!
I believe in it, whether cat or dog. Nothing better than having them close to you.
The Dobe

RE: Do you consider someone's astrological sign when dating?

I love the Aquarius guy - my Grandfather was.
I'm a cusp person - Sept 23. I'm at the end of Virgo, start of Libra.
So I agree with you - Ccincy. What I am talking about is how much we got along. Also, my Grandmother was a Virgo & my Dad.

I have problems with Leo's. I was around too many of them - they were fine until they would blow up - then they would ROAR. All the Leo's in my life: a Aunt, Step-Dad, ex husband, ex-Mother-in-law, and the last guy I dated.

I give space to Scorpio's - my Mom & Cousin's wife. They can be nasty.

I do know the signs and don't exclude a sign. But the 2 sign above - watch out.

The Dobe

RE: "I need my time/space"

"I need my time/space"
If you are in a relationship and it comes to that point, there is no hope. They have put up a wall.

So be good to yourself and walk on.
They already have. Plus, they may be attracted to someone else.



The Dobe

RE: Emotions=Feelings=Complications

How do you feel since he doesn't say I love you. Do you tell him I love you when you feel like it or has it reduced you telling him I love you.

With me, I like to hear it.

Have you asked him? Maybe like some of the CS people before me, it's fine that he doesn't because he shows he does - actions speak louder than words.

I was going out with one guy and he said it. I said it back. Then he stopped. I would say I love you, and he would say thanks or some other answer. That is when you know something is up. It ended, I was hurt but also glad not to be seeing him if he could change so fast.
I am glad to be free again.
He was also too neat, his place was huge, and almost looked like a museum inside. I am an Artist, I decorate inside with things that appeal to me. I could not picture my things at his place if we got married.



The Dobe

RE: I love a married man

A single person should only be with a single man.
You know he is married. Off with both your head and his.
If an affair is going on, it means he doesn't care anymore.
If I was her, I'd get a divorce.

Stop moaning and groaning. I do not feel for you at all.
You knew it was wrong, but did not care. So now you have
gotten your forbidden cake and feel insecure.
Do the right thing and cut it off now.
Take time out on men to figure out why you got into so much
drama anyways.
The is a Quote from Madelyn Albright:

Women who go against Other Women will go to Hell.
Or if you do not believe it the above,
watch out for KARMA.

I thought something was up with my ex husband
and asked are you cheating. He said yes.
It was quite a shock. I never felt better than
telling him I am going to a lawyer Monday.
There is no way I was going to be walked on.
I know he had under estimated my reaction.
But the sight of him made me sick.

Men and Women cheat and they do it without thinking.
It gives them a high, the low comes when they realize
that the marital assets are split 50/50 if you have
been married a certain amount of years. All of a sudden
the income they had is cut in half.
It's really unfair that the wife is affected also.
But it's a great feeling when you have moved on
and dumped him yourself.
No one deserves a cheating husband or wife.

The Doberman

RE: what to you think about being friends with someone who has a disability

Alisha, thanks for what you did. You did nothing wrong at all to her. Hopefully, she will not come back to this one.

She has just started a thread of her own that she can't be banned. Unbelievable.

In the poll thread, she got nasty in her first post. I am sorry she entered your thread.

The Dobe

RE: what to you think about being friends with someone who has a disability

I didn't know that nasty private mail was being sent.

This behavior is right on the edge of being banned, nasty email is against CS rules. They should be sent to CS to be recorded.

Maybe a banning would allow you to reflect that you can't treat people on here like you do.

Instead of ranting, you could be calming stating your point which people would read. Some people will read your nasty notes, others will not. Most people do not want to enter into negativity.

I would watch your step, I thinks it is better that you leave the post. That is what CS says to do when things get heated and you are the one that is stirring the pot.

The Doberman

The Dobe

RE: what to you think about being friends with someone who has a disability

Very well put.

The Dobe

RE: what to you think about being friends with someone who has a disability

I apoligize to the Poster. But the person here is one that is disabled that I could not be friends with. It is because of her attitude. Just see how many people in this thread that she has gone off on.

I am friends with anyone (including the disabled) but if you shout, get angry about things, I do not want to be around that. I think that you will not change unless you want to. I think you need therapy for your rage. I do not like people bashers for something they have said here that is their opinion. Keep it up and CS will ban you.

Could you calm down and state your point?
This was a good thread until you entered it. We do not have to take your bashing. You even bashed someone who has a disabled child.

The Doberman

RE: what to you think about being friends with someone who has a disability

Alisha, please go to the poll about dating someone with a disability. Someone got upset to the pont of cussing . Thie person had a disability and was hostile.
You re acting calm and friendly which is nice. Only be friends with people who treat you right. Walk away froom the others and you will have peace of mind. You can lways find a better friend. If you can, volunteer, you can make nice people that way and help others.

The Dobe

RE: A Letter from Jeepers

I am in shock. I didn't know he was sick, and now to find out he's gone, I'm sad. He's gone and will be missed. But I still remember him and how special he was here.

The Dobe

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

Japtas, sorry, I was not clear - what did you think? Yes or No(why)
Maybe it would be good to say yes(why).

The Dobe

RE: Racial Attack freoma member name "TerryG8649"

It is a rule not to post names but you didn't know. It's too bad that some like to call people names. I'm sorry it happened. It's the good and sometimes bad here. I do understand you being upset.

The person has a problem if they are bothering you. You know what to do to make it stop now.

When you are banned, it is just for awhile. It's happened to me when I was being harassed by 2 people and mentioned there name. It wasn't quite fair, 2 against one. I did get upset. I thought it was funny though. I found out someone else had been banned - good ole Steve from England. I was banned first, then Steve. So we were in jail together. But he was released sooner. I think he had a wild card that he used to get out of CS jail.

Some people while they are here like to go to the forums. You get to met some people and also you start to know the regulars who aren't scammers. Also, a good way to see how some write - like a guy you might be interested in. We also get to know each other, and it's good to have support when you need some.

So WELCOME to CS!!!!!!!!!!!

The Dobe

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

Yes, I know about the stress. My Aunt has been through alot all of my Cousin's life. But the recent illness has been a stress and also you just hate to know she suffers from pain. She can be a pill. But everyone manages.

I think everyone should have their own opinion like you have. I think your opinion is more understandable than people who just say no without any thought.

The Dobe

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

Am I barking up the wrong tree to think something was aimed at me???

If it was aimed at me, twittle dee, lamp chop. I'd say you have more than one disability. Disability to form answers without hostility.
There is enough in this world as it is without you getting on board.

Maybe join some group to help out other disabled people and use your anger there instead of here.

The Dobe, finished darlings. I don't want to be shot down again, it's such a bore.

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

Very good comment.

As for your situation, your stand is understandable. I recently saw a child in a wheelchair. He was the sweetest kid. I'm not sure what was wrong. But he won the hearts of the waitresses and mine. I was able to say hello to him and he smiled. I almost cried, he touched me so.
I hope you get some relief from your stress.

I have a Cousin A who was not given enough air at birth and is challenged. She also touches me with her personality, I can't believe she is 40 something. She likes to knit, loves cats, etc. She is also diabetic, and has a rare disease where calcium forms on top of your skin. It prevents alot of movement. They have finally found someone who has done research on this disease to help her. Just why did all of this have to happen to her?
She does have a gift. You tell her someone's birthday. If you ask her what day was the person's birthday 7 years ago, she knows the answer, and tells you. She has not been wrong yet.

The Dobe

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

It all depends. I try to give anyone a chance.
There are people who do well with their meds, are successful, etc. In fact they may be happier than those that are considered normal.

As for the one who is shooting off at us with her mouth because she have a disability, you've gotten into a rant. People would not react to you if you tried to make your point calmly. Now you have sunk your boat. Guys run from ranting women whether they are disabled or not. Women here don't need to read your words either, so hateful. It's not good for your health.
Was it necessary to tell someone to stick it where the sun doesn't shine? At least that one didn't have cuss words.

The Dobe

RE: Is there anny real women on this site or are they all fakes?

The answer is no. All of the Women here are fakes. There are men on here that are fakes also.

Maybe some people do not answer back because they are not interested.

How long have you been on CS, Grasshopper? I think you need to be more patient.

I'm sure a lady will answer.

Also, there are lady scammers just like men. Sometimes, a guy will take on the identity of a women. So if you think something isn't right, listen.

The Dobe

RE: Obama Won..HOOOO Haaaa

Not everyone in America is happy that Obama won again. We are at a crisis point here. Why would we want 4 more years. I have friends that agree.
Different strokes for different folks.

It doesn't matter to me if the person is black or white, it's the job performance that matters.

The Dobe

RE: WHAT TO DO?

Love is great, but I would have thought this very important issue would have been already discussed.
I do admit, it seems odd that it is happening after a relationship of
9 years. It would seem that if she really loved you, something could be worked out. One of you convert to the others religion. Or else, it's not true love.

The Dobe

RE: Younger Guys Older Woman

"oh..the dobe...i am glad u finished ur term aand are out"

Thanks Cloud, yes, ha, it was a term. You are funny, but pretty much described how it was! It's pretty bad when you can't wait to get home from a date.

The Dobe

RE: Younger Guys Older Woman

I dated a few guys younger than me. They were not interested in me - all they wanted was a one night stand. Plus, I felt strange while with them.

Then I dated some guys my age. Some of them were just older versions of the younger ones.

Then I found the right one, a guy my age who treats me right.

I think you have to be really picky about who you go out with. I got to the point, I'd rather do things with groups then go out with a frog.

I know not all men are bad. They have the same problem dating women also.

The Dobe

RE: If you are "Not Single, Not Looking" Why do you have a profile on a DATING SITE???

I'm so sorry some of us are taking up space on the forums. Several of us have answered your question that you had already asked. I suggest you read over the replies again since you still don't understand. Also, we aren't going away. This is a dead subject to me now.

The Doberman

RE: If you are "Not Single, Not Looking" Why do you have a profile on a DATING SITE???

I think a few people have already answered this. They found this site while looking for connections. They either found the person here or elsewhere. They ended up making friends in the forums. Since their old friends are all on here, they are welcomed back to say hello or even stay awhile again. If I want to hang out here I will. The Moderators haven't said anything to me so I don't see a problem.

The Dobe

RE: If you are "Not Single, Not Looking" Why do you have a profile on a DATING SITE???

Hi Montemonte - it's good to write to you again. Yes, hope to get some giggles here. Is Boban still here and the regular's?

The Dobe

RE: If you are "Not Single, Not Looking" Why do you have a profile on a DATING SITE???

Ah, that is exactly it, I was looking to be offended by something. That was your thought, not mine. I wasn't looking to be offended.
Funny, how people do your thinking for you.

The Dobe