Will do, DA. I love giving a toy for tots and will donate in memory of your son, then thank the Marine also.
Recently, some friends and I were at a club and some brand new Marine recruits were there. They were in our area for training and in their suits still. We walked up to them and talked to them, then each of us bought them a beer. They were so young, it broke my heart some thinking about them and their families. I really enjoyed our conversation with them. I wish everyone would appreciate our military more. They give us so much and are so far away.
I feel for people who at war now and their families. That is one thing. But to also lose someone in your family is mighty hard. I know,I lost my father at age 14. I went into shock when I heard the news. My poor Grandmother called to tell my Mom, but I answered the phone. My Grandmother did not sound herself. She knew how the news was going to affect me. So she asked to speak to my Mother. That was one of the worst days of my life.
But at least, DA, you and your son had a talk about what he was getting into, and had made peace about losing the battle.
But still I wish to hell, he was still alive and able to see you again. But he died his way.
I was once in your shoes and could see the signs but I didn't want to give up. I was beyond unhappy.
So my ex put in place the way to get out of the marriage. That is when I turned things around and started to get a new life. He chose to have an affair. End of story.
Now, I feel a hundred times better with out the dirty rat.
I think you should put in place how to get out of your relationship. Believe me, it will not better better. I think he has put a wall up between you both. The wall needs to come down and both love each other. I do not think this will happen.
You will go through heartache but aren't you all ready.
So you will have to plan for some feeling lousily time. That is when you do kind things for yourself. Start doing what you have always wanted to do. The happiness will come back. Then start dating again.
Remember the words of my uncle when I would tell him I had had a fight with my boyfriend and it wasn't working out. He said, does he make you happy? I said no. Then he said, find someone who will.
I was blessed with a wonderful Mother when my father re-married. She treated me wonderful. I think highly of her. I think that she is more of a Mother to me than my own Mother.
My Mother remarried and then it was all about her and my step-father. The horrid thing is when I was married, he kissed me. I eventually told my Mother and she refused to believe me. My step-father said I was a liar. Then my Mother tried to bribe me with money to say it was not true. I told her no, and how dare you bribe your own daughter. That happened this May and I have not heard from them since. My own ex wrote a note to him that he knew I was being honest because I had told him what happened.
I think sometimes, it does not matter if you are family or not. I think you have to tell the truth, and to hell with your family if they are treating you bad because you are the victim.
I really do not miss the drama. I went out with friends for Thanksgiving and felt so much more calm. My family was not there to take me for granted or say anything to me.
There are books about toxic people. Sometimes it is either them or you.
I met someone not from CS. He was from England. What a mistake. We had hardly know each other a month and was talking about getting married in 2011. It was going too fast. I broke up with him last week. It was too much.
So I voted no.
But I would say with the right person it might be fine. But now, my trust in long distance relationships is lacking completely.
I am convinced that it is too hard to really know that person without being around them alot. So I will stick to dating in the USA.
Though I am thinking about dating a person in another state 12 hours from me. I think we have alot in common. Plus, a risk is a risk, but at least we are not nearly 5,000 miles apart.
I like the good old sarcasm in British humour. I do not understand the remark you made about not marrying into the Royal Family, duh.
His father was English. His Mother is German and bossy. Add to that the class system in England. My boyfriend thought that I might not be treated well there. That was a shock to me. I thought England accepted Americans as they are, not as a outcast.
That is what I mean by I hoped I would not be treated by family as Diana was by her husband and family.
My boyfriend does not have any old girlfriends he wants to hook up with. Diana was treated shamefully by Charles, basically used her to get heirs and carry on with his women, Camilla. I do not think she was treated well at all. I do not want that to happen to me.
Well, I like coming to your country. Also, if things proceed with my guy from England, (not a CS) guy eventually, I may owning 2 passports.
I enjoyed my first trip to England.
Though from what I hear, if we get married, a American is considered not be be in the same class as a true English person.
So we will probably live in Virginia. It is much cheaper to live here. Then in a few years, maybe live in England.
I will expect to be treated the same way as I treat others with respect. If not, there will be a problem. I feel I am just a good a person as anyone else there. But I will have the support of my guy. He has been all over the world since he went to war and thinks differently than the old way.
I do not want to be another Diana and not be accepted by the family.
I agree with you, Swiss. Those boys lost their dear Mum. It was a tragedy. I do wish Diana at first had been given a break by the royality. I hated hearing that Charles still have a flame for someone else. That is a no win situation. But, Diana bloomed into something special, then blew out like a candle too young.
When I see William, I see alot of Diana. I know she would be in approve of the marriage. Diana would also, I think, be glad that her ring belonged to Kate now.
I agree with you Steve. I think that one guy does not speak for all of England.
That was a very screwed up man to say what he did to refer to the car crash. Frankly, I loved Diana and I know when that horrid day happened, it affected people in the US. Things stopped here. People were in shock.Need I say more about that.
I think, most will be glad. I am sure there will be exceptions.
I know my English boyfriend is happy about it. I say to leave the couple be. It might be the best thing to have happened for England in quite a while.
Ha, Jeepers, I have tried it and it was for free. I'd rather have a glass of wine or a chocolate martini. I am a one drink person or else I have sprite with a little coke. Let me get that straight, Coke as in the soft drink, ha. The bartenders call the mix Ginger Ale. The usually give it to me free when I'm out with friends, I also give them a dollar tip.
I found that they would happen at clockwork, in a long line at the grocery store. I would panic and would want to run away. But I would be stuck in line. I would think I could never stay in line and pay for my groceries. People could tell also. They would ask me if something was wrong. I would start to shake, real flushed, and sweat. I was told to take a anxiety pill. I can tell you that darn pill did not work.
My doctor said, don't worry, you can be driving, it can happen, and you will be ok. Well, it did happen, I almost wrecked my car. I wish I could see him driving and having a panic attack.
The silliest thing was it would always happen at Victoria's Secret in line. What a riot. My guy friends would say, they would have a panic attack at Victoria's Secret!
So a new doctor said to go right into the longest line at the grocery store and stick it out. Even though I had the panic attacks, I was determined to follow through. Her advice did help but I did not know what the reason was for the attacks.
It was due to cronic stress from my marriage ending. He had stopped loving me, I found that I would have a panic attack by being around him. Once I had 2 panic attacks in a half hour. I was told to breath normally. Well, that did not help. I was stuck into the incorrect breathing until it ended.
I have not had them for years, they ceased as I realized it was over. So sometimes, you can have problems by being with the person you are living with. I got to be shy with him also. But now, I am Stone Free.
I think that very often people can answer questions before me also. It's the cue system.
I think you did very well in your composition of this note, since English is not your first language.
I think I speak for most, if what you have to write gets repeated, it's no big deal.
But most of all, I think the thread you have posted is a very good one. I'm not sure how shy people feel on the internet. But I have some ideas.
Some people who are shy are introverts and I wonder if they would post on a thread. But other introverts would post because they have some extrovert in them.
As for writing to women, I would think it would be hard for some.
Others, as you say, it would be much easier than in person. But it might get to a point, that they would want to met. Then what? Maybe all the back and forth letters would make the shy person feel more at ease.
Hi invinciblemuse, very true, more good than bad here.
To the OP, stay awhile. Sure there are some scammers here, but I have gotten dates here, enjoyed the forums, and made friends.
Some have found their mates here.
You can go to the paid sites for dating, I tried but no cigar. You have something free here with alot of extras?
I think CS is much better than POF also.
I met my guy through facebook, a friend of a friend, who of course has Dobermans.
I am so excited, his one American Doberman female is preggers. She mated with his European Doberman (they are very different in looks: The Euro's are heavier, they have more Rottweiller in them. I just love puppies!
But I come back here for the forums, and state on my profile, I am interested in being a pen/pal, friends because I have my man.
As far as the OP, he has changed his profile, looking for long term now, really is in CA, no more God fearing info.
I think everyone on CS deserves a chance but when someone posts that they are lonely, it does attract some attention.
But when CSers check out the OPs profile and it says the opposite, looking for an intimate encounter - then you are caught.
So why don't you really tell us more about yourself.
What you said with your first post causes people to wonder who you really are. I mean you cannot be in NY and Californig. It usually means Nigeria.
So if you do not scammers, do not scam us in any way. So I would say you are on probation, close to CS jail if you do not watch your step or booted off. The moderators on CS usually do not mess around.
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The Dobe
RE: One of our fellow CS members has suffered a loss
Will do, DA. I love giving a toy for tots and will donate in memory of your son, then thank the Marine also.Recently, some friends and I were at a club and some brand new Marine recruits were there. They were in our area for training and in their suits still. We walked up to them and talked to them, then each of us bought them a beer. They were so young, it broke my heart some thinking about them and their families. I really enjoyed our conversation with them.
I wish everyone would appreciate our military more. They give us so much and are so far away.
I feel for people who at war now and their families. That is one thing.
But to also lose someone in your family is mighty hard.
I know,I lost my father at age 14. I went into shock when I heard the news. My poor Grandmother called to tell my Mom, but I answered the phone. My Grandmother did not sound herself. She knew how the news was going to affect me. So she asked to speak to my Mother. That was one of the worst days of my life.
But at least, DA, you and your son had a talk about what he was getting into, and had made peace about losing the battle.
But still I wish to hell, he was still alive and able to see you again.
But he died his way.
The Dobe