OUR PURPOSE IN LIFE

I was sitting all alone and feeling so abandoned. So orphaned and disowned and this was probably my last drop of dark emotions brought about by the loss of my connections for the last 25 years of my life. To most of you who has read and so kindly encouraged me to move on regarding that episode of my life, thank you all so much. I am ready to face the world. I am me, again, I hope. I have come to terms of the fact that it will not come back. What I lost is something that I can only accept and that I should truly all put it behind me. And so I have.

This is a well thought of blog to contemplate why I am here. What truly is the reason why I am here. Was l just selected randomly to be born out of my genetic parents and go through life experiencing all these unprecedented events in my life? For what? For whose purpose and for whom it will benefit and serve?

We all know we are born for a reason. A purpose, and objective, something that gives us the perspective of what define us. To ourselves, our friends, society and the world as a whole.

The question is, were we responsible in setting up the goal, the direction of which we followed through and labored so that we can utilize our knowledge of truly knowing who we are? Was it really us, who created and molded our destiny? Is the layout and blueprint of our journey was a product of someone else other than us? Were we destined to be here? Whether we like it or not, these events successive and progressive through times are but a testament of what was made for us to play? Or did we really put our efforts and our time in creating it for us?

First of all, we all know that nobody came to this world, born upon our own direct effort and energy. We were born as a gift of life from whom we are formed. The genetic imprint of our parents to our being. But my blog today has nothing to do with our biological and genetic element, rather it is a philosophical question as to what amount of responsibility did we play to determine who we are, who we have become? Are there times when we at a certain age and time come to a point of being introspective of who we are? That all the things that happened in our life, is a path and a mold that was really for us? Or is there something that we could have done any better? Or as most of us have done, we live a life that we did put an effort to define who we are and feel fulfilled and contented?

Or if we had a chance to do it all again, what would we change in our life? Taken into account our dreams, youths, ambitions, and what make us who we are to ourselves and to the world as a whole.

Or are you all happy, contented and fulfilled? And that nothing is needed to be changed at all?

Thank you all so much for your contributions..
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This blog could have been so simple and shortened in a question like this: IF YOU HAD A CHANCE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE, WHAT WOULD IT BE AND WHY? HOW? TAKEN INTO ACCOUNT WHAT WOULD BEST DEFINE YOU IN TERMS OF EDUCATION, CAREER AND LIFE AS A WHOLE?

Thanks for all your opinions, contributions and comments..

I hope we all had a nice Easter break..
When I was a kid I wanted to be a musician. Well, somewhere I lost that connection, today, I'm a happy lonely retireecool
I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.”

Rita Mero quotes

cheers
Bungalow, how are you my friend? I hope you remember me? The old Windyweatherly? You have been writing at the Poetry corner for over three years? This is Phyllis and thank you so much for your visit.

Of course, being retired is something that completely takes you to a higher level, I hope. It did to me, not in monetary value but just living life so simply.

Thanks Bungalow and take care..
Now that is so good of you to give all these good brainy and philosophical quotes Jarred. I seem to truly gravitate among people who has no regrets and that no matter what happened in their life, they are truly happy of how their life was shaped and feel completely fulfilled and contented..

Thanks again.
lindsyjones

Yes, now I remember you...we were partner at corner's poetry.

Glad to see you again, I came back to CS, I took a long vacation.

To tell you the truth, I didn't recognize you.applause
Now you know, I know you always commented on my poems then and I did mostly on yours, too. Remember Malala? You wrote that didn't you? Maybe I am mistaken but it took so much weight on my cause then and she represented oppression and fought for to be heard.?

Your name is Manny right?
lindsy

You have excellent memory, yes I wrote Malala, she's kind of hero to me...and yes, I'm Mannyhug
Thank you so much Manny
I leave things in God's hands and follow His directions.

I used to wonder " what if" but I don't anymore. If one door closes then there's another one to open.
All is vanity says King Solomon. So whatever thing I want to be/have/do is probably like chasing the wind. I'll never be completely fulfilled/content.crying
you and only you chose your destiny...and things happen because of your decisions..wether right or wrong..not for any other reason ?. .saying it happens for a reason is a cope out, an excuse...I have no desire to look back at photos and reminisce...its the past..look forward..if the past comes calling.don't answer..it has nothing new to tell you.

I have quire a few regrets..Id like to have had the chance to change things in hindsight..but guess what..u can't..you can only take what you have done and hopefully change your future.

cheers
C my best friend. Yes of course, life is a journey on its own and recognizing that everything happened for a reason is a confirmation that nothing that happened to you weren't meant to be.

I truly appreciate your participation as always. Darling friend of mine.
I love that attitude Ed. The what if is truly a very mind boggling attitude sometimes. But I guess I could count some people that I know for sure would have changed destiny if it were in their power. Nixon is one, and some.

Thanks Ed.
I am nearly contented because now I observe things happen from a distance. Strangely now I am happy to be unhappy. I try to accept everyone and everything without contempt. gift
Strawbae, your line of thinking based on King solomon is a feeling of resignation sometimes. No matter what you do, it wouldn't amount to whatever expectations we put in ourselves.

Thanks..
lind
Your memories are with you...but it is still sad to see all those treasured mementos go...as for any regrets...I have a few but if I didn't experience any bad times...I would have never appreciated the good!!...I am now at the stage where I want to be in control of certain things in life...I do not like work at the moment...and willing to change direction...just in the stages of planning...should have done this years ago!!...you only have one life...so here I am making the best of it...or trying at least!!wine
In reality, there is nothing in the past that you can change, that is for sure. We all know that. I guess the main point of my blog are to look at things that due to limitations of our abilities sometimes ti does lead to all the possibilities that can be life altering moments.

For me for instance, yes, if I had the chance right now, I would love to change my career and be an astronomer. Study all the wonders of the Universe. That doesn't mean to say that I am not happy with the way my life turned out. Nothing I can't handle that doesn't put a mark of sense of accomplishment in my humble way.
But if I had controlled the 28 billion dollars of donation of The Gates and the Melissa foundation, I would, without a doubt and sense of hesitation, spend it to the 80 percent starving many of the world.

Thanks Ian.
And I might add Ian, your disposition is a confirmation of a very positive thinking and that is very good. Going forward, don't let the past affect you in anyways as it doesn't give you any new insight. But to me, looking at the past does lead me to learn a way of not doing the same thing again, specially if it has contributed to some of my hindrance.

I am not perfect, and by God, I have done less of what I could have capably put myself in a position to do better. But it doesn't mean that those failures, do create even worse effect for me to do good and or better for my community.

Thanks again Ian.
Hi LJ,
How are you ?
I personally have a lot of things in my past I would like to say I would do/not do places I would go. and things I would say or not say. But hey why should I beat myself up over past events. It would place me in a state of dichotomy. A want for a chance at something that no longer exists. Surely the only result could be a separation from reality. scold

Count your losses, Gather to you your guiding forces and face the dawn. wine hug
loulou you have life after life....death after life and life after death...serially. cool
Hello dear friendrose I am glad you're doing all you can do overcome your loss and it may not make you fell better to know that some people who's houses burned to the ground in bush fire or horican lost more than material things but lost life of family members and this thought hopefuly can make you to see that is always somewhere something worst from your own but life goes on and that's the way i see it.In my kind of work I deal with clients who are physical capable but also some in weal chair and when long time client in weal chair wants to talk to me about general life things I face my own 'trivial life issues' as small compare to his condition that he use to be a healthy man who worked hard,have 4 children and wife until his work excident happened when he was burned by electricity and lucky to survive,leanring like a baby how to talk and with physiotherapy learn how to live more independent life but still in eal chair,being happy for every single move he does -what physicaly capable people take every day for granted,than when I think that shortly after his waken up from coma he's wife gave him divorced and she already found new lover and his life will never be the same .I hope that this story helps you to see things from different angle as much your loss should be recognised and deal with care rose I can agree with some comments hear that we are responsible for our own destiny in many ways and it's better not making up excuses is running from the self truth of life orders but there should be also recognised that are circumstances above our choice -just as the example I gave above and than from the worst situation it's still our will power and choice to make things best we can with the cards we have.There is some decidions in my past life that I would love to change but now I can only accept it that it must of happened for the reason and it's all part of me who I am today so any wrong should be also for some greater good unknown to us to teach us life lesson that maybe we need it to learn or we may repite it again if we miss out to learn ...For each of us is different things we shell learn teddybear hug hug
iota
I am speaking about now!!!...make hay while the sun shines!!cool
I love that my dear KC. Yes HAPPY TO BE UNHAPPY. Acceptance of the state we are in and go with it. No resistance, is a way of conforming to the need of those elements happening around you that either control or manipulate you.

Perhaps it is an easy way of taking life in stride.

Thanks again friend of mine.
My dearest good friend of mine. I am so happy that I felt that sense of loss. It does make me value now every memory that can be stored in my mind..

Going back to your control of your life is a product of wisdom having settled through years of exposure to the fragility of life. In all matters of perception, it is the way we examine ourselves from time to time that would definitely create sense of direction sometimes..

Yes a very good attitude is to value our seconds of existence in this life and don't squander it for non essentials..

Thanks my friend..

do change your life, and or your career...if you have to. The good news is that, we do have the capability to do so..
I love that my friend COUNT YOUR LOSSES AND GATHER YOUR FORCE TO FACE THE DAWN AS IT COMES HOWEVER IT COMES.

It represent strength. Be on guard always that you are ready whatever lands your ways.

I had once known someone who said. Life is indeed full of dark and good elements, do make the good out of the bad and learn from it.

Thanks and being in a dual or two ways of crossroads create confusion, the very dichotomous breeding of our mind sometimes create confusion of not knowing which direction we have to take.

But strength and resilience do develop in time and age and only because we have exposed ourselves to the forces that make us who we are..

Thanks, my dear Non..hug
Enigma my dear friend, thank you so much for the story. Yes, that is a test that sometimes put us in a perspective of knowing ourselves..

And your changes in life is not needed when all you have to do is accept that they happened.

Thanks my dear..
@loulou yes yes! I like it. not to miss a single opportunity. thumbs up
Phyllis Everything needs to be changed...just everything...the existing order is a junk....but we are to act without being doer and without caring for the results...actually when we expect results, we lack the direction and when we be the doers we, we loose the sanctity. I think you understand. cheers
Hi LJ.

Glad you are getting back on track and starting to be yourself again. Never let hurt, anger or bitterness change the goodness that`s in your heart...Sometimes you need to look back to see where lifes trails have taken you too. But look forward more to the pathway that is before you. Each junction you come across is your choice. Friends maybe by your sides at these moments to help aid you. Going on a bit now. But no we live and learn as we create the chapters in our book of life.
Whats happened in my past be it for ill or good has made me who I am. Along with my parents that have always been there for me and helped me to become the man I am today.
Petecheers
Pete thank you so much. Indeed a grain of truth measured upon our ability to withstand anything that comes our way is a very positive attitude that guides us to seek further in our journey. We can't always be on the up and up for reasons, like you said: that shapes who we are. As a matter of fact a good friend of mine just told me recently that our journey is that which shape us as we direct in return and shape our journey.

I like the looking back and take an accountability of all that happened and hope that it will enlighten us along the way to reaffirm those that we choose to tread are indeed those that we seek..and even then, when we do go astray, as most often do, just look back on that trail and put ourselves back on track..

Thank you so much again Pete.
Lj...can I ask some questing ?

Are u single ?
Are u lonely ?
KN thanks my friend, I do feel a lot better and thank you very much..

Yes of course and it is so nice to be able to pick up ourselves when the storm comes and beat the hell out of us KN>

I had that many a times and yes, I can truly say that strength and resilience come as a result of such an experience.

Thanks again..
It is tough to pick up the pieces, but I hope it helps you at this stage in your life Phyllis. bouquet
Yes KN, and I believe that is part o getting close to our final stage of our journey. But no matter, it is just as exciting as it was when I was 25.

Thanks again KN
Hello SR,

Even though I am not disappointed where I am at currently in life, I have given your question some deep thought. I think if I knew what I know now about life, when I was a teenager, would have been a major help.

I love both of my parents, but it is amazing how much your upbringing shapes who you become in the future. In adulthood, it is up to ourselves to become educated and self-aware of possible shortcomings we were shown growing. Once these shortcomings are identified, it is time to become your own person and break free from the molds we were cast from.

Hope you are doing well SR....wonderful blog.

wave
Thanks Johnny, I am doing better.

I love that, the ability to lookout for some kind of a guide based on past events.

Thanks Johnny.

SR
Ian, I am single by not being married but I'm not available if that's what you meant. And not ever lonely.

Thanks Ian
lind
I hate being in a rut...and I hate to be bored...it is good to sit and think for a while...many people who have seen their children grow up and leave are probably thinking what they can do for their community or other endeavors that relate to creating/making a difference...I am not there yet...no children but when I retire...I intend to start a project of some sort that could make a bit of a difference...giving back I guess but it also provides a sense of usefulness (for me) as well...wine
Awesome planning my friend, we definitely need to hook up together. I'm almost ready for my schooling which will guide me to that direction. I'm so lucky to have reached that time and get there.

Let's do it my friend.
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