Why do women like bad men?
Why are so many women attracted to bad men?Hybristophilia is a paraphilia in which s*xual arousal, facilitation, and attainment of o*gasm are responsive to and contingent upon being with a partner known to have committed an outrage, cheating, lying, known infidelities or crime, such as rape, murder, or armed robbery. (Wikipedia)
High profile criminals always get fan mail and female admirers and Ted Bundy got thousands of love letters while in jail and let’s not forget about the Charles Manson groupies.
I have personally met a few women who are with total bastards, violent and domineering that treat them like trash.
I’ve also noticed a lot of you CS ladies flocking towards complete trolls and obviously sexist morons
Is it because you think you can change them? Do you think they are seen as protectors?
It’s your turn ladies; enlighten us good men...
Comments (72)
And a bloody good question....
diova, I understand that, So in a perfect world a nice gentleman type that will have some bad boy traits?
I could do that, but what traits do you mean?
Bad boys are brutally honest, they think for themselves, they don't follow, don't ask permission. They do what they want when they want.
They don't wince, have confident body language and are a tad more arrogant than the normal guy. I can go on and on about bad boy traits.
Bad boys are not about material things like cool phones, cool clothes, cool cars, cool houses etc.
It simply is an internal thing. And it must be very deep as they are very and naturally confident and ruthless.
For some bizarre reason bad boys are attracted to me, after many years I think I've learned why. I'm beginning to believe all bad boys are narcissists (sorry, Biff!) and I have the perfect personality for them. I used to fall for them, not anymore!
Famous last words...
"Bad boys are brutally honest, they think for themselves, they don't follow, don't ask permission. They do what they want when they want.
They don't wince, have confident body language and are a tad more arrogant than the normal guy. I can go on and on about bad boy traits.
Bad boys are not about material things like cool phones, cool clothes, cool cars, cool houses etc."
I think I maybe a bad boy after all
I could say I like bad boys and yet it doesn't involve a killer or an extremist where crime is concerned.
I might be a friend to a man who is bad but that is as far as it goes.
I like the fact that a bad boy will tell you he is bad but well established man in society which many look up to won't say he's bad when he's the worst among the lot.
The intrigue and drama some will like especially if they lived a really quiet and careful life.
Bad boy v good boy
If we are talking about the extreme forms you mentioned, then the women are of the needy type.
I think lots of men who call themselves good guys are just insufferable bores who can't hold women's attention.
And they then bemoan the fact that women like bad boys (aka men with a bit of life and personality ) rather than them.
Yes they will tell you they are or they will show that they are. It's the ones who were grown by supposedly good parents with decent jobs and good social bearings are the one's that trick most which are also bad boys.
Definitely the quiet and well kept women mostly gravitate to that type because of the intrigue they bring and I heard they are great lovers too cause they take that passion to the bedroom.
Map, you can be more bad by asking me to be on my knees........
Scrubbing the floor with my bare hands.
There are lots of different opinions what a bad boy is. For me, it's someone that is selfish and only interested in his own gratification. I don't see anything endearing in someone like that.
Ob, Equally good comment, I will be interested in the ladies responses to it.
DC, Ok then, ahem..Get on your knees and scrub the floors with your bare hands, but first make me a steak.
If a girls dad was a bad man in general but treated her like his little princess always it secludes her from the badness maybe this too has some relevance why women go for the bad guy.
Interesting blog and comments.....
The Bad Boy.....
For me, he's a man whose world evolves around self only(selfish to the core). They are often demanding, elusive and difficult "to catch" which can give them a mystique that draws women to them like moths to a flame.
I've known a few of them in my time, but I've now got to the stage in my life, where unless they have some sense of compassion/empathy for others, I'm not interested. I'm done with them.
I prefer a gentleman with an "edge" as opposed to the classic bad boy. There's a distinct difference in character.
Hi Lisa, I dont think all good men turn bad, You say you have never had the courage to try a bad boy, perhaps like Berry's phrase try a gentleman with an edge.
Selfish
Confident
Body language
Egotistical
Master chef...
Charismatic. ..
Hey hang on
That's me
Many "nice guys" (self aclaimed) who say they are nice and that women only want the bad boys are 1) not really nice at all and/or 2) what Molly said.
I keep hearing this same thing from guys, that they are nice, and that's why women don't want them...
No, look deeper. There IS another reason, I would bet on it.
Bad men are just sooooo misunderstood
They do not even understand themselves that they are male chavanistic bad men
Men will be men