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That was 2017 - done and dusted. Most hectic year EVER.

I started 2017 employed and living in Scotland but knowing that the Scottish offices of my company were closing and we were being made redundant in April. I'd been offered a transfer to the English offices but wasn't at all sure I wanted to move back to England. So I went on holiday in February to Spain to think about it, to cheer up, to get some winter sunshine ...

Result - I fell in love with a house long on potential and decided to buy it, despite not speaking Spanish, or knowing anything about refurbishing large dilapidated 100-year-old rambling Spanish townhouses. Returned, put my house on the market, did a TEFL course and started teaching English online and found I loved teaching (phew). Income sorted, at least in theory. Sold the house in Scotland after 2 false starts, packed up and bought a super-cheap camper (never been a camping enthusiast) to get myself and my pets to Spain.

Problem - when it came to the crunch, because of the falling pound I could no longer afford the house in Spain, but went anyway because what else could I do? I'd sold up, turned down the English transfer, burned my Scottish boats. Plus I wanted to get over in time for a bloggers meet in September with a particular special visitor from Malaysia I had wanted to meet for a couple of years hug And wintering in a campervan in Spain would be warmer than Scotland (that turned out to be a very good decision, Scotland is having a stoater of a winter, brrrr)

Made the meet with barely a day in hand, then started some serious house-hunting (there have been blogs laugh ) which ended when the house I had originally wanted dropped its price into my price range and wintering in the van was no longer required - luckily, since it is colder than usual here too, days around 16 to 18 C degrees, nights occasionally dropping as low as 8 degrees. The van was a wonderful stopgap but 8 weeks of living in it was an elegant sufficiency.

Since moving in, I have been bossed mercilessly by #1 CS buddy (building expert of note) into stripping old walls of dead paint and plaster, stripping down old wooden beams, doors and windows, treating walls then painting them, and even carrying 25 kg bags of building materials, albeit not very far or very fast. With his priceless help my shabby elefante blanco has become a stripped carcass, slowly growing room by room into a home and, hopefully, a self-funding future.

Writing has ground to almost a complete halt, and teaching has been on hold while the extremely noisy Spanish builders are in situ. My hands are calloused, I am semi-permanently paint-freckled, my hair stands on end 90% of the time, and my biceps are becoming alarming. As we are now working on the upstairs levels, my leg muscles are becoming steel springs. As you can imagine, after reading that, #1 CS buddy is not a romantic entanglement laugh My Spanish-speaking CS buddies have also been worth their weight in gold.

I’m not quoting any names - against blog rules, for one thing. They can identify themselves, if they see this blog. However, this whole change in my life is pretty much a direct result of joining CS a few years ago and being lucky enough to make some quality quirky friends here. Funny how life works out.

wine cheers hug

It has been an interesting year. 2018 promises to be even more interesting. I use that word deliberately - I’m told there is a Chinese curse, “may you live in interesting times”

Feliz año nuevo to all and may 2018 bring you happiness in the things that really matter.

I'm leaving comments open, would be great if you talked about your 2017 if you do comment conversing or that this will spark other blogs about the year gone.
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Daft things we do

I was telling a friend yesterday how I lost my keys (luckily only briefly) (left them on a shelf in a shop) while out shopping yesterday, and she said she has never lost her keys when out, but has accidentally put them in the freezer before now.

Which reminded me that a couple of days ago I found I had left the cheese out on the counter but had put the knife in the fridge. doh

She said she'd once opened a tin of beans, thrown the beans in the bin and put the tin on the plate.

We're not both senile - she'd done the beans years ago. Once we had started swapping stories, we remembered things going back decades.

Don't laugh unless you have never walked halfway up the stairs, then realized you couldn't remember why ... uh oh or find something in a place you can't possibly have put it, but there's no-one else to blame.

If you have been daft, you've got lots of company out there
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On message yet?

You shouldn't read this blog, I'm in a moody ranting mood and feeling terminally irritated with the Three Big Subjects. Tis the season to be jolly, tra la la la, lala la la. Instead it is a day off for most people and the flood of bile and self-righteousness especially on Twitter has thoroughly pissed me off.

Politics - we live in a democracy, most of us, or so They tell us, although it is a form of government cynically manipulated by not only those in charge, but those who wish to be in charge. Politicians are focused entirely on their struggle to take power by appearing to be the least repulsive and dishonest option.

Message - choose me, because I will give you everything you want in a leader. I know you know (or should know, get real people) that I am lying at least some of the time, but choose me, because I am not as big a liar as he / she is

Religion - is only for the credulous and terminally stupid. It is important that you ignore that all religions are fundamentally based on creating a self-supporting and interactive caring community. Focus instead on analysing every word said hundreds or thousands of years ago to a vastly different, usually illiterate, population. Preach it or mock it, but don't look past it at the bigger picture, there isn't one.

Message - be your own God, no-one is better fitted for the role, and to hell (insert preferred alternative here) with anyone who disagrees with Your divine opinions.

Sex - ah, the greatest cesspool of them all. Do exactly what you want to do, and let your whims take you where they may. Human babies are born helpless and unlike other animals in nature, remain helpless for at least their first year. For the survival of the species, couples stayed together, and supportive communities formed. Success! 7 billion and counting, the pressure is off. Constant titillation, instant gratification, and above all changing partners regularly, is now the right of all adults, and perversions once considered absolutely forbidden are optional extras.

Message - do it.

By the way, I'm being sarcastic.

I’m only leaving comments open because it irritates me when bloggers don’t. Not expecting any and probably won’t respond to any, this is my ranting face. very mad

Over and out.
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Oranges and lemons

Got home the other day from shopping to find a bag of lemons hanging on the door - they turned out to be from my new neighbours from Madrid, who own a holiday home here. There are 11 of them, and they are HUGE. (The lemons, not the neighbours)

My builder arrived today with a bulging bag of oranges. There must be 30 of them.

I don’t currently have a kitchen until said builder finishes strutting his stuff, which at this rate could be February or March, so making orange juice and lemonade is problematic.

Suggestions?
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Hugs

When I was a child, Best Beloved, the only people you hugged were female relatives, while male relatives patted you on the head and sometimes there was a 10 shilling note to go spend on something nice. Yes I’m that old, get over it.

When I was a teenager the only people you hugged, very shyly, were boys and they usually started it and since they wanted to take the hug as far as it could go you couldn’t really relax and enjoy the moment.

There’s been a hug revolution and finally even the English succumbed and now when you are introduced to people you’re expected to wrap yourself round them AND exchange kisses. uh oh Men hug men, women hug women and of course men and women hug each other.

One extreme to the other.

Probably because I’m old enough to remember 10 shilling notes I don’t hug easily and am still slightly alarmed when a total stranger comes into my personal space. No denying, though, a hug when you’re down is a very nice thing. A hug when you’re delighted is good, too. I looked up hugging and learned this:

A hug, depending on culture, context and relationship, indicates familiarity, affection, friendship, sympathy, happiness when re-united, or gratitude. A hug can range from a brief one second squeeze with the arms not fully round the friend, to an extended hold.

A hug is primarily friendly, but the extended hold can come perilously close to cuddling. A person expecting a hug and finding themselves in a cuddle could feel threatened and for this reason some schools are banning hugging. Many from the 10 shilling generation still eye them askance.

Hugs are proven to be unexpectedly effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress.


Warning: rushing up to hug a total stranger could cause them anxiety and stress. scold

teddybear
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we talk too much

oh, not here on CS. Generally.

Money may be the root of all evil but it is only when we talk about it that people get really het up. If you don't know, you can't get annoyed.

To understand all is to forgive all - but we don't want to understand all. We want to believe what we believe, and talk others into our beliefs, and to get very angry indeed when the others won't listen, or persist in arguing. very mad

I live now in a country where I don't yet speak the language. It's surprisingly peaceful. By the time I had lived this long - 3 months - in Scotland I was caught up in several separate long-running feuds in the neighbourhood and nervously trying to avoid taking sides, being ordered to join things like Home Watch, and backing away at speed from politically-indignant individuals with multiple opinions.

Here, no-one tries to talk to me about politics or issues. I greet people, remark how cold it is, we go on our way smiling. My Spanish builders have given up repeating themselves endlessly in the hope I will suddenly start understanding idea and instead we get by on a handful of words and a lot of vigorous mime. Ditto when I look up the Spanish phrase I need and go to the DIY shop on the corner. The very voluble duenna in my street who grabs everyone who passes and talks at them for 20 minutes just nods, smiles and pats my dog (which she calls wa-wa).

My neighbour speaks several languages and translates when mime is simply not enough, but for the rest no feelings are offended by things said, because there is not enough vocabulary to offend.

I am beginning to think I should never learn Spanish. I like this peace and quiet!

We talk too much.
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Meeting up ...

Purely by what I have read on the public blogs, there are men and women who meet up with the much-discussed intention of serious zoobie zooms*. There are people who have got so close during their correspondence that the meeting is just the final step in a long-term relationship they both know will happen. There are people who lose their nerve and cancel at the last minute, and there are people almost breathless with hope that this time will be The One.

Sometimes it is The One. Just, maybe, you hadn't specified the one what ... uh oh

Sometimes the one was eh, hang on, this is just coffee, right?

And sometimes one person is confidently expecting zoobie zooms and the other expecting a new acquaintance to compare stamp collections with . . . mixed signals. Oops.

One way and another I’ve met about 15 people off CS now and the ones that I wanted to meet because we are cyber buddies were GREAT. The three others, well, one meet was a disaster which didn’t get to the end of lunch, one turned into a series of LDR meetings before crashing and burning a year later, and one was another whole story altogether. roll eyes and for the last year or so I have stuck firmly to the buddy side of things.

Taken me nearly 4 years on here to realize that people can meet just on the off-chance, with little or no expectations, they live not particularly far apart, why not wow

That’s the problem with being a closet romantic, I keep waiting on Prince Charming jerking the closet door open and telling me my pumpkin awaits. I assume everyone else does too so when I hear a meet went well I’m partly oh WOW they’re in love and partly green with envy because they’re so lucky . mumbling

Doh.

Just as soon as I wash the plaster out my hair and scrub off the paint freckles I’m writing back to a few locals in my new location who had suggested meeting up for coffee. At the time I had been meh, that's going nowhere, pass. Now I just expect a cup of coffee rolling on the floor laughing

And maybe a few hair-raising stories to pass on, that’s a popular blog subject too . . . devil


*zoobie zooms? bonking.
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When you go on holiday

wish you'd tell me what things are important to you about the place where you stay

Do you insist everything be five star, including your own private pool / sauna / 24 hour service

or do you stay in hostels and hope the other 9 in the room won't snore too loudly, keeping your cash to spend on your activities

While I was travelling in the campervan I stayed at campsites with communal showers and loos, but private hedges around each campsite, rather liked that although it had never occurred to me to ask for my own garden in a hotel laugh

I went to Germany last year for a few days and booked the cheapest hotel I could find, turned out not to be the best area but transport into town was frequent and reliable, the room was clean, and the shared bathrooms on each floor were spotless. I got what I paid for, basically.

Apparently most people have MUCH higher standards, Would love it you'd tell me what things are important to you when you're planning a brief getaway - lavish surroundings, or convenient location, or proximity to tourist stuff, whether you like to be out and about and just want a place to sleep, or whether you want to be cossetted and pampered ...
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No pressure

In UK and now in Spain, I can buy my groceries at an automated teller, with one human employee monitoring about 12 machines
I can draw cash at an ATM, pay bills, transfer cash, without going into a bank
I can fill my car up and pay the pump without going into the shop
I can phone almost any big organization and be helped by the robot on the phone - in fact, reaching a human being can be quite a mission
Assembly lines in factories are increasingly automated, with artificial intelligence taking on more of the key decisions

Why?

I would understand if we had a shrinking population and jobs had to be automated. We don't. There are more people being born every second, the international population is the largest it has been in recorded history. So why are there fewer job opportunities with every passing day?

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I teach English online as a second language and the bulk of my pupils are Chinese, Japanese, or Korean. Most are already in jobs and wanting to improve their prospects, but some are kids. I don't have a child at school, haven't had for a good twenty years, so it was a shock to learn what is expected of kids these days - playing sport, learning musical instruments, studying foreign languages, doing so many extracurricular activities that finding time to be a child is pretty secondary. I mentioned it on FB and it's everywhere, the pressure is on kids all over the world to excel.

Is this so they can hope to stand out in the crowded future, when only one in ten youngster entering the workplace could hope to find even a basic job?

Why?

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I know blogs aren't supposed to ask questions but they hopefully can invite opinions. I have a class, will be back later.
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Want to live to a ripe old age?

become a US president!

George HW Bush 93 and counting
Ronald Reagon was over 93
Gerald Ford was over 93
Jimmy Carter is over 93



Okay the job carries an assassination risk but on balance, politicians do seem to rack up good ages. Maggie Thatcher was 92 - and Gladstone was voted into office for his fourth term when he was 82, which is pretty impressive.

Robert Mugabe is in his 90s - Nelson Mandela crossed the 90 line too.

Anyone know where I sign up to become leader of a country? You know I'd be a good one uh oh









I've been tetchy of late - a touch of toothache I have been trying to ignore went nuclear this weekend, I think I have an abcess. Trying to get it sorted today. If I was a world leader, I could summon a dentist sigh
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Things Mum taught me

I taught my daughter many of the same. Mums, eh?

Anatomy - Don't come running to me when you break both legs

Religion - you'd better pray that comes out the carpet

Logic - because I said so, that's why

Irony - keep crying and I will give you something to cry about

Precision - I could beat you to within an inch of your life

Wisdom - you'll understand when you get to my age

Justice - if there is any in the world your kids will turn out just like you
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Halloween in Spain?

Quick question. Halloween stuff appearing in shops. In sa treat-or-treat very much to friends houses only. In Scotland guising was well escorted but every house. Will I get witches and demons at my door and what will they expect if I do?

Is there a phrase or more I should learn?

How do I say 'bugger off I've run out' in Spanish?
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