Great day yesterday!
I got to spend some time with K yesterday and the day before yesterday. We met up in Copenhagen for a meal, then went on to do what we were supposed to do, and then we headed home to my place for some movies and an early nights sleep.Now, I know what you're thinking: "Sly guy, having a new girl in his bed. I bet they did the funsies too".. Well, we started assembling my newly purchased 3D puzzle of Big Ben, watched Star Wars and then went to sleep. No cuddling or anything, just some sleep. Well, when I say sleep.. She slept, I didn't. For some reason, I had a hard time falling asleep. I have no problems falling asleep on my own, but when K was here, I didn't sleep a lot. I think I got around 3 hours, the rest was just me having my eyes closed, relaxing.
K had to be somewhere early next morning, so we got up at around 8 am, had some breakfast and then I followed her to the train station. When I got home, I booted up my playstation, and had a little session there. I just relaxed all day yesterday, and had an early night. 10.30 pm, my eyes were too dang heavy to keep open, so I went to bed.
I still haven't heard from R, so now I am considering cutting off all contact all together, but I will not block. If she wants to talk, she can reach out. But for now, I am pretty much done. That's what happens when people start dating. They forget the people they claim to be their best friend. Am I bitter? A bit. But, then again, some of the breakdown in the friendship was my fault, which I have accepted. R and I were finally mending what broke, but now I feel like she's just giving me the cold shoulder. Leaving messages on "read" without replying.
That's really a f'ed up thing to do. At least reply to my messages, even if it's only a "Can't talk now, later"
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As for K, well done
i need to boot up something
Palmfrond: The only action I am getting in the bed is sleep. Or if I am watching an action movie, then there's action there!
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder".
At least give her a chance to miss you.
Right now you're an annoyance.
Before you reach out to her, wait for her to initiate contact
and then make her wait a bit before you respond.
Let her wonder about you.
It may never happen with R. Accept that.
However, you are ensuring it will never happen.
Give her time to wonder about you and miss you.
And actually date other women you would be interested in
forming a romantic relationship with instead of making yourself unavailable
with a 'friend' who you are not attracted to and are unknowingly leading on.
The last time I wrote R was on December 30
Also, I am not "leading on" K. I never have and I never will :).
I'm not accusing you of doing it on purpose. But, the new gal has
already thought about you & her living together as husband & wife.
She won't admit it though.
If there is a mutual attraction, then neither should want to stay at just a friendship level.
If there isn't a mutual attraction, then it is never going to go beyond friendship.
So, as I said before, find a male friend and go out looking for girls with him. Not girls to have platonic relationships with, but a proper girlfriend.