A Time To Move On
I find it both sad and disturbing when I see all the sadness and bitterness around me; in real life as well as on-line. Forever blaming a previous partner for the current state of affairs. And often pointing a finger at the entire opposite gender.
He is gone; he has done his worse and can harm you no more. Unless if he is stalking you and for that you can get a restraining order. He can no longer make you unhappy and you cannot blame him for your current unhappiness. Right now you are making yourself unhappy by dwelling on what has been. Forgive him and cut him out of your life. Move on and start living again. Your heart won’t mend while you sit and feel sorry for yourself.
I can understand the initial shock and pain of a broken relationship. We have all gone through that but there comes a time to move on.
Remember, you took him out of free choice. Nobody forced you to be with him. You also have some blame in the affair, even if it is just choosing the wrong partner. Think about it; you could have prevented the entire episode if you showed better judgement. The first mistake came from you.
And you can be sure that you also made some mistakes in the chain of events that led to your current demise. If you were that perfect he would never have left you. Or alternatively; if he was that irreplaceable to you, you should never have left him.
Stop pointing you finger at your ex-partner; you have three fingers pointing back at you. If he was so bad then he would not have gotten somebody else while you are still sitting alone.
Love is the same as any other aspect of life. You have only yourself to blame if you allow somebody else to ruin your life.
This does not go about gender. I have used the masculine form throughout only because I am male and it is too cumbersome to he/she or him/her all the time; and it affects the readability of the piece. It goes for both genders. You can just change the pronoun to suit yourself.
And remember, Wednesday is small Saturday.
Comments (60)
You nailed it!
As always forgiving is the key. It brings peace to your soul.
Just remember, you said it, not I.
It is a proven fact, that statement is correct. To make it more even. Men are usually more caught up in their minds with their thoughts.
Hope that calms the waters a bit.
lol
Good one Cat, you had me going.
You have some more of that martinis? I can do with one now.
However, I knew a couple in South-Africa that got married together and divorced from each other three times. I haven't contacted them recently, so can't tell you what their current state is..
now that is madness. If it does not work the first time; what chance does it have to work later.
my one brother and his wife was like that, it was as if they enjoyed the arguments and they often separated for short whiles . He died in 2000 and she is still crying long tears for him.
Sorry for my delay ... it's a harmful to stuck in a wrong relationship as well as rush in another relationship without adjustment our pace.I am a slow learner. but I try to accumulate my new energy to move on ...
Have a nice day!
It is sad to have to part company with anyone...blame or fault is not usually one-sided as you pointed out...but we can move on and learn from it...
No need to apologize, I'm even later. I was busy all morning and had a lunch meeting as well. Only came home a while ago.
Hmmm, the right timing is very important.
Yes, sometimes the truth has a way to sting.
Thanks...great work, have you tried to be a marriage counceller, we should`ve seen you before anything serious happened, who knows my ex and I might`ve still be together today.