lindsyjones

unknown, California, USA

Mar 2014

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VANITY

One true dark element of human nature is this emotion. The excessive display of pride and glory attached to our achievements. The all mighty trait of: "I am better than you attitude" The exultation of our ego. Our love for ourselves and not mindful of others.

When we become vain, we tend to give credit to no one but just the "ME" and all but me attitude. Self worship, self-worth to be shouted to the whole world.

Question. Why do we allow ourselves to be a victim of this vicious and cruel trait? Or is it all in the mind? Or is there a good result to be shared and experienced by being vain?

Thank you all for your contributions and comments.

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Alexandro10●monceaux, Hauts-de-France France

Mar 31, 2014●227 Comments

Yeah absoloutly it is a dark side of humanity..thats why we are called humain... but we don't have to misunderstand pride with vanity.everyone of us is pride of themselves.

virgosingle●greymouth, West Coast New Zealand

Mar 31, 2014●409 Blogs●8,106 Comments

Shaun_Kate●Lae, Morobe Papua New Guinea

Mar 31, 2014●1 Blogs●3 Comments

True. It's default in human beings. Like how we have teach small kids to share and not to keep, because greed is built in by default, it's the human norm. That's why we teach virtues and encourage people to be tactful etc...

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Thank you Alex and I respect your opinion, but in the dictionary it does level out with pride and arrogance and conceitedness.

Now I do have a sense of pride and I accept your line of thinking to a certain extent. It is true taking a bit of pride for ourselves doesn't really hurt for as long as it is not used as a means of belittling and or undermining others. Pride in my being a woman, a Filipino, etc. etc. yes.

thanks..

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Virgo thanks, how is your world and your boat?

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Shaun thanks for your visit, my first time to see you here.

While it is truly a given option, to be imperfect for us men, or human for that matter, we do have the choice to use the antidote of dark elements of nature. And that is the strength in the ability to learn. TO LEARN IS THE KEY...SO THAT BY BEING SO, WE ARE EMPOWERED TO KNOW WHAT IS GOOD. Now, the impartiality of being good means, IMO, FOR THE GOOD OF ALL. No discrimination..But yes, we have to unlearn all of our human flaws...which we didn't ask either, Came with us in our genetic origin and our environment..

Thanks again.

virgosingle●greymouth, West Coast New Zealand

Mar 31, 2014●409 Blogs●8,106 Comments

well .....in here its really hot tonight and its after midnight ....just like last night I sat up till 3 in the morning because of the heat ....

today its April fools day here ...

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Yes, you guys are ahead of 17 hours. And the heat, well, it is still snowing in some of our northern states and I was in Minnesota last week Virgo and dancing in the snow and now back in California and it is mild but sunny...

theD0CT0R●Launceston, Tasmania Australia

Mar 31, 2014●25 Blogs●227 Comments

I don't think it's a flaw we are born with. I believe that it is something that we are not taught about, as in, to learn not to be vain and be more selfless.
I wouldn't say that I am vain, for one other thing you need for vanity is ego. The bigger the ego, the greater the vanity. I know my ego is not big, and I wouldn't want it to be, although I do take pride in my work and accomplishments, I don't get a big head over it. Thanks to my mum, she taught me well.

Alexandro10●monceaux, Hauts-de-France France

Mar 31, 2014●227 Comments

@Lindsay .its not a question of who wins and who loses, maybe and certainly I lose, but its to defend your pride. In past I been hurt in life and in love...but in that moment I had to defend my pride. Stronger then me...its like an attraction force to do that , otherwise.ur not humain ,

virgosingle●greymouth, West Coast New Zealand

Mar 31, 2014●409 Blogs●8,106 Comments

its tee shirt weather here ....and I have the lawns to mow latter today ....the willow tree's next door are losing their green shade ..

Alexandro10●monceaux, Hauts-de-France France

Mar 31, 2014●227 Comments

sorry lindsy

Alexandro10●monceaux, Hauts-de-France France

Mar 31, 2014●227 Comments

@ Virgo its sunny here in France too and that rare --------------> let me go and double check again

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

I agree with you Doctor. Yes, we do need to learn..and that is the main core of my life and my existence. It is only in the learning that we become who we want to be. And for me, is to be good. I recognized that as young as I was, my parents instilled in me the value of being able to learn and understand to be good. A noble purpose my parents gave me, hence the youngest college professor in my country at 23...Ever since, learning had been my passion, but learn to become better not only for me but for the whole of humanity and the world.

Yes I do understand the pride thing as long as it is tempered with humility and non aggression.

My children, they are a product of what I have learned..While they are not perfect and can be better, always, I made it a rule that they understood, one thing and one thing only: THE WORLD DOESN'T OWE YOU ANYTHING TO BE HERE. YOU OWE THE WORLD AND HUMANITY TO BE HERE...THEREFORE CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING THAT MAKES IT BETTER BEFORE YOU WERE BORN...

Now having said that, I am positive in all of my humility, that does light a bit of pride. I am humbled..

Thanks

KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

Mar 31, 2014●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

People where it is all about "ME", let it be vanity or envy I find hard to deal with and give a berth if possible.

I don't know if I'm off topic with my explanation: I did hear (from a guy) that he found it a shame that people rarely give some kind of praise/positive feedback. This is something I try to do with other people - if I notice something nice (let it be something they did or they put effort in dressing up) I will make a positive comment. This is not to feed their ego, but to give positive feedback and tell them I noticed that they made an effort.

I am uncomfortable myself with superficial compliments, but I do appreciate a honest "well done".

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

I do feel you Alex, boy isn't life full of mystery? Yes when we feel being thrown at the pit of pain and sorrow. Pride becomes a great tool to stand back. To regain our strength in showing the world if not for us, that we do, deserve to be heard and be healed and pride comes in the package of feeling the hope and the ability to live life again.

I was hurt so badly and believe me, there was a time when I almost lost it all but it was the light of pride and hope that got me back to my feet. I am happy.

thanks again Alex, yes life is not about who wins and who loses but the ability to stake our truth to what we believe in, I guess.

I am glad France is sunny and it should be at this time, although in the West it is normally your rainy days,,,as is England..

I lived in Geneva for a little bit in the old days...and love France Alex. Of course, who doesn't?

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Knenagh, Yes of course, No not at all, On my blogs and topics nothing is out of line..We can in fact learn more, if we do brush at all the variables it can lead us to..

On your positive complements given to people. I am a proponent of the reward syndrome. Being a University professor for a long time, it is a part of my belief and practice to reward them students who have done their best in learning, yet it doesn't diminish and or alienate the others who have done less. But a recognition of good deed done, is deserving of a complement but not necessarily for ego boosting and shout their ego against those that can't do as good.

I believe that all that are given us are gift. Now we can enhance if we so choose to and that is why learning is such a light that lead us to this improvement of ourselves.. And reward is a way of making it easier and more fun..

In the animal shows..this is a technique that works best for the performance of their trade. Now it does, too, work for human.

Thanks Knenagh

Alexandro10●monceaux, Hauts-de-France France

Mar 31, 2014●227 Comments

@ Lindsay defenetly agree with you there. life is a mystery and as they say ( when you think you got it all in hand it ruffles you up everything again ).
Yeah finally its sunny here in france( at least where I am. In North, region of Picardie ). Yeah usually we get all the bad weather from UK.

So when its sunny....its a joker for the 700 habitants of my village.

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Thanks Alex, and I hope that with a little pride it will guide you back to find that elusive love we all seek..

Thanks again..700 hundred inhabitants, sounds like heaven to me..I myself don't favor the big cities but business and jobs are there and now that I retired, I am considering moving up in the less populated areas...

Thanks again

lj

KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

Mar 31, 2014●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

...why learning in such a light that lead us to this improvement of ourselves

That sums it up very well Phyllis and just being positive and friendly to other people might just brighten someone's day.

rapturecapture●kerry, Kerry Ireland

Mar 31, 2014●2 Blogs●330 Comments

Hi LJ

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I avoid people who make me feel smaller or less important then them...For years I listened to a sister of mine with this better then "ANYONE" attitude
We have not spoken in 5 years..but that's life...and I am content with mine.

Happy Monday wishes to you

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Thanks again Knenagh and now have a nice and complementing day always..Please keep what you are doing because, yes it gives smile and sunshine to our face even in a gloomy day..

phyllis

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Martina my dear dear beautiful friend. How are you. I am sorry I am a bit confused on love right now and so I find solace on non love writing..

But so good of you always to make your beautiful presence on all my writes..

Now on your demeanor with people who belittles and make you feel less of who you are. Yes, avoid them. I would. We can never change them, but we can always show our ways in the hope that they will learn. Sometimes all it is, is that they have been hurt, they have been burnt out by others and just getting out of their healing..Now if the person is just by nature like that, I would, too, avoid them fast..

Thanks again my friend..

phyllis

iotaoo●Rewari, Haryana India

Mar 31, 2014●41 Blogs●1,258 Comments

That is what is Narcissism in Greek myth!

enigma2●Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Mar 31, 2014●448 Comments

Hello lovely lindsjones

Good blog!

I think even best of us have some times "down time" of self absorbence -vanity -a bit of arogance and personally I fell that when someone hurts me by undermining to valid my good intentions to adjust things with mutual understanding. However,doesn't matter what other person does or say,I believe we can do our best to try controlling our own behaviour in better way.
Vanity is also equals to ignorance of missing something,it could be way someone is broth up to discrimiante all who appears different in culture,race etc. and it comes from luck of being familiar with specific culture or race or disability people; what ever is in question...It could be deficiency attention disorder or Nacissues disorder.We do all like to fell we're valued,to belong somewhere but when person takes that too fare in vanity than it rings a bell of worrning that something is not right.I also believe that if we are usually very calm and understanding and unselfish if some negative vibrations comes in our life beucause of stresses and life changes that takes time to adopt to; we can be slightly different without intentions to hurt anyone but our patience in given thought of understanding may be under pressure to watch more carefully our tense reactions

enigma2●Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Mar 31, 2014●448 Comments

I also like too add;vanity - doesn't always necceserlly comes from core of being mean but maybe more from pain;is it pain of self diceptions that we are not what we like to be or to deceive others that we are more than what we are;it's question depending upon individual person, moment and beliefs of rightness in something

I think cue for it is again social education from young age in co-operation with family structures of beliefs.

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Iotaoo yes indeed. A trait that is so dark. How are you and your lovely daughters.

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

My dear Enigma. Yes all true. Lack of exposure to the world's diversity. Eeducation therefore works well in the creation of awareness.

Thank you so much

iotaoo●Rewari, Haryana India

Mar 31, 2014●41 Blogs●1,258 Comments

The younger has joined CS, may be you soon see her here. The elder has decided to compete for entrance for medical college. Thanks for the concern.

Dedovix●Big Place, Central Serbia Serbia

Mar 31, 2014●135 Blogs●1,499 Comments

Question. Why do we allow ourselves to be a victim of this vicious and cruel trait? Or is it all in the mind? Or is there a good result to be shared and experienced by being vain?

Society is shaping us ,sometimes for the worse ...

“Last night I lost the world, and gained the universe.”

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

I'm excited my dear friend. Would be so great to meet with her let alone know her.

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

And my congratulations for such a noble venture Anjali has chosen. A road not easy to tread on
A responsibility that doesn't have plenty of room for mistakes todwell on.

Again my heart beats for them

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Dedo what a great observation.

Now can we instead turn it around?

You think?

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Very good points My dear friend Freedom. Very good observation. Yes look at our world of commercialism, exacting breed forvanity. The art of selling good feelings.

My next blog maybe

Thanks again my friend

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Dedo yeeehaw, I'll vote for you my friend.

Lets go

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Freedom I do express compliment as a gesture of true and heartwarming feelings to others. I feel and see kindness from the inside and extend it. Seeing and feeling the joys in me is such a great experience.

Thanks again

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

Id be so honored my friend. Anyone who's been privileged to be a part of you let alone your blood would definitely be an honor.

I mean it from the bottom of my heart.

Can't wait

dikshu000●Rewari, Haryana India

Mar 31, 2014●4 Comments

Hi. How are you?

lindsyjonesOP●unknown, California USA

Mar 31, 2014●383 Blogs●11,670 Comments

I can see the pattern followed through your dad's footsteps, I see. Politics my dear, my major in college and taught in university. I play chess as well. Though lost interest when my brother passed away ten years ago. We're both college champions in our university and I can't ever beat him. I did maybe twice because he knew me all too well.

Hardly anybody beat me but didn't put my full interest as I taught right after my graduation in college.

One day I'll look forward to playing with you.

dikshu000●Rewari, Haryana India

Mar 31, 2014●4 Comments

I like to read historical books, classic music, play badminton, chess, movies. I just hate studies. I am interested in politics to change the present order and the orthodoxy. And yours?

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