The Other Side Of The Story.
When a relationship goes sour the story has three sides; his story, her story and the truth, which is somewhere - not necessarily midway - in between.
It is easy to run people down in their absence since they are not there to defend themselves. Unfortunately, until we hear the other side of the story, it has no credibility and it remains gossip.
But let’s forget about the moral issues of gossip for a minute and look at the practical impact of the matter.
When I read something like this, the first thing that comes to my mind is: Hell, I’m glad it is not my character being dismantled here. I’d be too scared to get involved with such a person in fear of the same thing happening to me. I consider myself as fairly average in my thoughts and believe that I’m not alone it thinking this way.
This does not begin and end with lovers and ex-lovers. The same holds true for friends, family, employers, etc. Most of us are guilty of it to some extend and we all love to hear a juicy story but as I said earlier, we can attach no value to it until we hear the other side of the story.
All that you can achieve by running somebody down is to alienate yourself from somebody else who may have been interested in you. But what you really told us about yourself is that you are unhappy in your environment and unable to cope with it.
May you all have a whale of a day.
Comments (119)
Not guilty are you? I have not been reading the blogs properly lately.
As I said, most of us - the self included - are guilty of it to an extend. However, not all will admit to it.
the worse battle is the one the hasn't been fought yet.
No, not specifically. I happens very often and strangely enough, often repeated by the same persons. I just feel that this is a dating site and not a place to extract justification, revenge or satisfaction somebody. Do we really want to hear how bad a lover treated you? I would rather hear that two people got together and plan their futures together.
Yes, I love reading it but always walk away relieved that it was not about me.
Obviously we are the culprits. I just wonder why those who run us down will take us back if given the opportunity.
Is it really ok to break a pact?
Remember a blue whale is just a white whale deprived of oxygen.
We like it as well. We just get bored with it sooner.
Ok, you start first. Lets hear how bad your previous lover was.
broken kids/broken wallets?
I read the blogs from time to time. I do hear women can be just as unscrupulous as men, and I read that on the blogs somewhere too....
No backstabbing?
That was a great one. Tell us another.
We're not talking betrayals here. just good old fashioned gossiping. Lile did you hear the latest about...
with a knife in her hand/true/real battle of love/or hate?
I never knew
I like a happy ending too but perhaps we can all learn something about each other along the way, by hearing other people's accounts, so as not to repeat the same mistakes?
It's 2:05am over here. It's time I got some zzzzzzzzzzzzzz (referring to sleep here
See ya around and do go gossiping off the blogs. That is why we are here.
In the game of love you have to follow - and bump - your own head. your experience with a certain individual will be completely different that the previous.
Enjoy your night's rest (or the rest of the night).
An I missed it all. That is the punishment for not visiting CS as regular as I should.
But I am so happy to watch it getting juicier by the day!!!!
PS. Not publicly though. Ask in a PM.
Cat you maybe right, mom was always in kitchen
Trigger happy, are you?
BTW I liked your previous pic better.
But gossip must be in public. otherwise there is no fun.
you're the kind of person to sit talk and have a couple of beer