The Other Side Of The Story.
When a relationship goes sour the story has three sides; his story, her story and the truth, which is somewhere - not necessarily midway - in between.
It is easy to run people down in their absence since they are not there to defend themselves. Unfortunately, until we hear the other side of the story, it has no credibility and it remains gossip.
But let’s forget about the moral issues of gossip for a minute and look at the practical impact of the matter.
When I read something like this, the first thing that comes to my mind is: Hell, I’m glad it is not my character being dismantled here. I’d be too scared to get involved with such a person in fear of the same thing happening to me. I consider myself as fairly average in my thoughts and believe that I’m not alone it thinking this way.
This does not begin and end with lovers and ex-lovers. The same holds true for friends, family, employers, etc. Most of us are guilty of it to some extend and we all love to hear a juicy story but as I said earlier, we can attach no value to it until we hear the other side of the story.
All that you can achieve by running somebody down is to alienate yourself from somebody else who may have been interested in you. But what you really told us about yourself is that you are unhappy in your environment and unable to cope with it.
May you all have a whale of a day.
Comments (119)
Self preservation? Over here we call it chicken.
No steak knives today. Last time when I handed out steak knives i was accused of buying comments.
Now you said what I wanted to say long time ago. I don't like being called 'Mister'.
Maybe talking bad about the ex is just another form of bragging. To let the world know that there was an ex.
Yes, I played club rugby. I played fly half. I also played cricket at club level.
You may be right. Chickens end up in the pot and that won't do. Some people still want to smoke it.
No, it is best to have no ex. Just a current. But some of these sour faces probably sit with a long forgotten ex and nothing else since then.
Interesting because we do all have our own stories and experiences to share.
You did point a very significant lessons we must learn. That's the reflection of the human nature of the person doing the dissing.
Personally, it should never be a battle as to who's fault the relationship went sour. It should serve as one aspect of our lives that happened no matter how short or long time it was, no matter how happy or sad it was.
I have had the most emotional and at the same time happy and sorrowful experience in here. Yet in all my writings and so is he, never did we account how bad it was. He's still writing on the poetry from time to time and I'm also expressing our experience with so much respect and beautiful memories. It's just wasn't meant to be.
We all have bad experiences but blaming our execs is just humiliating on both, IMHO.
I always treasure everything that happened in my relationship.
Good luck Cat.
If my children do it, I always tell them to be positive and learn from it. How are you?
To discuss your own problems is one thing but to run an ex down is something completely different.
You're making me jealous with that pic. What happened to the pic with you and I on it?
True, our past is part of us but we are not part of our past. We have to move on with as little baggage as possible.
Hi Manang!
Hi Z!
We almost lost that game. And thanks about shedding the mister.
Thanks for dropping in and enjoy the rest of your day.
Thanks for dropping in and you too enjoy your day.
I have been making food in between. My sister will be a bit late tonight and she asked me to cook.
Refused to make any comments on your blogs anymore coz you stop handing out steak knives
If it that long ago? I will have to put some brakes on the time.
Thank you. I believe that people can only do to you what you allow them to do. The moment I realize that somebody is abusing me (or my kindness) he/she is gone. And I won't go tell everybody what a poor judgement of character I have.